Surrogacy on a Budget ?

dmg24

john9to5 wrote: »

Yes it would be my partners sperm pinkshoes, He is pretty adamant that he wants to use his sperm so at least the baby is part of us in some way or another .

Sounds like he wants it to be all about him. What are your feelings on the subject, your wishes are just as important!

john9to5

yeh I understand from what you have said thatw e should definetly look into adoption and a bout possible problems even after we get the baby.


and the news story about that couple is very worrying, theres so much to think about isnt there?

Its all very daunting.

CFC

john9to5 wrote: »

Yes it would be my partners sperm pinkshoes, He is pretty adamant that he wants to use his sperm so at least the baby is part of us in some way or another .

And if it was your sperm the baby wouldn't 'be part of us in some way or another'? Looks like a big fat issue there to me but I'll leave it at that.

Basically you either stump up a load of cash and take your chance with a surrogate or you persuade a female member of your families or a friend to have a baby for you. There are no other surrogacy options, that's it.

Personally I think that there is a price to pay in life for everything and the price for a man loving another man = no baby. (as you have ruled out adoption)
I would also express concern at quite a few comments you've made, I'm not personally sure you are coming from the right place in wanting a child or in understanding what parenthood means, but I'm also sure a lot of young mothers certainly aren't also, so won't judge you on that one.

lisawood78

Good luck with whatever you decide.
Having major issues having a family ourselves so I can feel your pain and frsutration.
I hope you become parents in the way that is best for you both.
LW78

GobbledyGook

Friends of mine have gone down the surrogacy road and one of the reasons it is so expensive is to cover the drop in salary for the surrogate whilst she is on maternity leave as well as other expenses.

penguin7

penguin7 wrote: »

Hope you wont mind me asking, but are you and your partner a gay couple?

I asked this question just to have the facts in order so the peeps on here could offer you the best advice. Hope I havent offended anyone. I do think you both should look into adoption as an option as well. wishing you the best of luck.

LondonDiva

Have you looked into surrogacy in the US for example? The laws and expenses there seem to be more explicit and therefore less risky than here.

I'd also echo the comments about adoption. One of the main reasons people find it hard to adopt is the demand for babies rather than older kids, meaning a lot of people chasing a 'limited resource' and loads of children needing homes, but with few takers.

kafkathecat

If you have any female friends who want children you could consider having a baby with them and sharing residency. It can work really well. I would also not rule out adoption though.

gizmo111

Why not start off fostering and see how a child fits in your lifestyle and then take it from there, you may then have a broader view of adoption.

Peanuckle

While you are looking into the options you have then surely it would be a good idea to start putting money by. Once a baby arrives the real spending starts so why not use this time to adjust your lifestyle to accommodate the potential added expenses, the money saved could then be saved to put towards surrogacy should the opportunity to pursue that course arrive?