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How much cash to give at a Chinese Wedding?

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  • ironlady2022
    ironlady2022 Posts: 1,574 Forumite
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    nykied wrote: »
    You have to give the couple money even if you don't go to the wedding??? So if someone I hated sent me one of these 'red bombs', I'd have to give them a present of money? That's outrageous! :eek::eek:

    Supposedly yes but someone you hated surely would not send you an invite in the first instance right?
  • nykied
    nykied Posts: 951 Forumite
    mayling03 wrote: »
    Supposedly yes but someone you hated surely would not send you an invite in the first instance right?

    If they knew I wasn't going to come but would have to give money even if I didn't, then maybe they would.
  • ironlady2022
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    That would be evil but like I said they are looking to profit hence all the invites.
  • I found this really interesting, I didn't know about these Chinese wedding traditions.

    At the end of the day, you live in a modern UK society, so you give what you feel happy with.£80 sounded generous to me.
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  • ironlady2022
    ironlady2022 Posts: 1,574 Forumite
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    Yes and the Chinese culture is very much traditional. I guess this is up to the couple though.
  • nykied
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    mayling03 wrote: »
    That would be evil but like I said they are looking to profit hence all the invites.

    Yes, I'm very glad it's not caught on in English culture yet! ;)
  • kazzah60
    kazzah60 Posts: 752 Forumite
    personally as an older married British person ( age 49 married 29 years) I am shocked to hear that a tally is kept - I can imagine that for some families this would cause real financial hardship ( my own included!) and I would hate to be perceived as "tight or "mean" when £80 would feed our family of four for a week!

    at my own wedding we didn't even have a gift list- we were grateful for anything we recieved and we just pleased that our friends and family were there to share our happiness
    I know that sounds old fashioned and trite- but it is true

    I'm all for tradition - but not at the expense of getting into financial difficulties to please a couple simply because of their heritage.
  • mayling03 wrote: »

    My question is I'm not sure how much to give.

    Personally, I wouldn't give them anything :beer:
  • springdreams
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    Personally, I wouldn't give them anything :beer:


    You do realise that this thread is 5 years old ??? ;)
    squeaky wrote: »
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  • SharonAlba
    SharonAlba Posts: 13 Forumite
    I think if your boyfriend is giving a gift then you can simple add on some amount and make it a gift from both of you.
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