How much cash to give at a Chinese Wedding?

ironlady2022

nykied wrote: »

You have to give the couple money even if you don't go to the wedding??? So if someone I hated sent me one of these 'red bombs', I'd have to give them a present of money? That's outrageous! :eek::eek:

Supposedly yes but someone you hated surely would not send you an invite in the first instance right?

nykied

mayling03 wrote: »

Supposedly yes but someone you hated surely would not send you an invite in the first instance right?

If they knew I wasn't going to come but would have to give money even if I didn't, then maybe they would.

ironlady2022

That would be evil but like I said they are looking to profit hence all the invites.

thisuseridistakenagain

I found this really interesting, I didn't know about these Chinese wedding traditions.

At the end of the day, you live in a modern UK society, so you give what you feel happy with.£80 sounded generous to me.

ironlady2022

Yes and the Chinese culture is very much traditional. I guess this is up to the couple though.

nykied

mayling03 wrote: »

That would be evil but like I said they are looking to profit hence all the invites.

Yes, I'm very glad it's not caught on in English culture yet!

kazzah60

personally as an older married British person ( age 49 married 29 years) I am shocked to hear that a tally is kept - I can imagine that for some families this would cause real financial hardship ( my own included!) and I would hate to be perceived as "tight or "mean" when £80 would feed our family of four for a week!

at my own wedding we didn't even have a gift list- we were grateful for anything we recieved and we just pleased that our friends and family were there to share our happiness
I know that sounds old fashioned and trite- but it is true

I'm all for tradition - but not at the expense of getting into financial difficulties to please a couple simply because of their heritage.

pennypincher3562

mayling03 wrote: »

My question is I'm not sure how much to give.

Personally, I wouldn't give them anything :beer:

springdreams

pennypincher3562 wrote: »

Personally, I wouldn't give them anything :beer:

You do realise that this thread is 5 years old ???

SharonAlba

I think if your boyfriend is giving a gift then you can simple add on some amount and make it a gift from both of you.