I've found a Video posted online of an ex...

KiKi

I'm sure I'll get shouted down for this, but I can't believe you're actually asking if you should tell people!

Imagine if your webcam *had* been working, and someone found it and plastered you all over the net? Would you want someone putting up a link for others to laugh at in revenge for a relationship that didn't work out? It takes two to make a relationship work, and don't forget that you were part of that webcam malarkey, not just him!

You obviously liked him enough to sleep with him and have a daughter with him. Whilst his behaviour may have been nasty, he's your daughter's dad, and setting him up for humiliation isn't nice. He may not see his DD, but he's still her dad and if she found out, she might not thank you for it one day.

It can't be *that* easy to find on Google or it would be out there already. I wouldn't tell anyone about it, and given that you were dating him such a long time ago, my advice would be to move on.

KiKi

BitterAndTwisted

He's been "naughty" online with the OP and he's obviously been "naughty" with that 20 year-old girl as well. I daresay he makes a habit of having fun online, so I expect that there may be hundreds of women who have similar footage. It's only a matter of time before it's posted up and linked to again and again.

What would I do? I'd tell him whatever reasons I had to come up with to explain it away but it's a finger-in-the-dyke scenario really. Once stuff is out there online, it's out there forever.

skint_chick

In the words of my counsellor - it's perfectly natural to google your ex occasionally for curiosity/a bit of satisfaction that his life is pants. But it's not ok to get involved in any way. If you told him you'd have to tell him how you found out and he would have the satisfaction of knowing you'd googled him. How likely is your DD to google him and find the video? Is it a common name - would she know it was def him?

If it was me - and believe me my ex has got weirder stuff than this online!! - I would rise above it, keep it to yourself and carry on as normal - resisting the urge to google him on a computer anyone else uses if you must.

shellsuit

I wouldn't do a thing.

Move on.

neneromanova

KiKi wrote: »

Imagine if your webcam *had* been working, and someone found it and plastered you all over the net? Would you want someone putting up a link for others to laugh at in revenge for a relationship that didn't work out? It takes two to make a relationship work, and don't forget that you were part of that webcam malarkey, not just him!

You obviously liked him enough to sleep with him and have a daughter with him. Whilst his behaviour may have been nasty, he's your daughter's dad, and setting him up for humiliation isn't nice. He may not see his DD, but he's still her dad and if she found out, she might not thank you for it one day.

It can't be *that* easy to find on Google or it would be out there already. I wouldn't tell anyone about it, and given that you were dating him such a long time ago, my advice would be to move on.

KiKi

Actually, if you go to google, type his name in it's 8th on google search.

Also It's more revenge for what he said about DD. That at 17 weeks he'd looked into and I could still get an abortion for him. I never wanted to get pregnant with him. but, working out the dates, I slept with him, became preggers and then found out he was also cheating as well.

But I do see what you're saying

KiKi

I'm more thinking of the fact that it's you on the other side of that webcam (albeit not seen!) - do you want people knowing that?!

I wouldn't, but I'm probably a prude.
KiKi

neneromanova

lol, I don't care if people know it was me. funnily enough though, on the video, after he started massaging his butt cheeks, my msn turned off for some strange reason. "Computer says NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!"

KiKi

Haahahahahaaha!

delain

neneromanova wrote: »

lol, I don't care if people know it was me. funnily enough though, on the video, after he started massaging his butt cheeks, my msn turned off for some strange reason. "Computer says NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!"

How many hands has he got :eek: