Pregnant student needs to raise £400

macman

What his parents think or where they live is not relevant. The father-to-be has a financial responsibility for his child, whether he likes it or not, and whether he is in the UK or elsewhere.
Eric's Mum-why on earth should the grandparents have to support the child even if the son doesn't want to?

abby1234519

Maybe she means it like how my mums already bought me a couple of things already. His family are strange, he told me once his mums quite distanced from emotion and is very cold. I kinda font want to approach them till he is born when I can then send a picture if Joshua and just say I though you might want to know what your grandson looks like grumble grumble. I asked him to come round a few months ago as I wanted to explain even if he wasn't on birth certificate that he still would have to give his permission if I got married and husband adopted etc. He just refused. Oh well
Part of me doesn't want to annoy him by going behind his back to tall to his patents. I know I'm weird!

ERICS_MUM

macman wrote: »

What his parents think or where they live is not relevant. The father-to-be has a financial responsibility for his child, whether he likes it or not, and whether he is in the UK or elsewhere.
Eric's Mum-why on earth should the grandparents have to support the child even if the son doesn't want to?

I didn't say they have to, just that they should consider it - i.e. think about it even if they decide they don't have to support it. The baby is part of their family, their flesh and blood and in my world family members help each in whatever way they are able.

I don't feel that my comments are inappropriate in any way.

abby1234519

ERICS_MUM wrote: »

I didn't say they have to, just that they should consider it - i.e. think about it even if they decide they don't have to support it. The baby is part of their family, their flesh and blood and in my world family members help each in whatever way they are able.

I don't feel that my comments are inappropriate in any way.

I have a feeling his mum is like him in the sense that "blood" means nothing to him. He views biology different to actually raising a child.

I think the phrase he used was "sperm donor"

vixxxen

ERICS_MUM wrote: »

wow, well done !

Personally I would be so annoyed by the apparent attitude of his parents that I would have to play devil's advocate and get in touch with them somehow!

Maybe send a copy of your baby's scan to his mum or send friend requests to mum and dad on FB and let them know how you are getting on with the pregnancy (in a chatty way, you obviously assuming they would like to know ) .

Sorry if this seems very aggressive, but I hate people like this "getting away with it". They don't have to meet Joshua or have a relationship with you both but they should seriously consider helping their grandson financially.

Good luck. :beer:

Linda xx

Unfortunately, some people just aren't worth bothering with.

I'm having my 3rd child by my ex (contraceptive pill failed, but then shouldn't have believe his lies and slept with him anyway!) and found out recently that he still hasn't told any of his family that I'm pregnant, even though I'm almost 6 months gone.
So, having the same attitude as you and assuming his mum would at least care she's going to be having another grandchild, I messaged her via facebook as I don't have her address. I also messaged his sister and both women sent back the exact same reply; "it takes 2 to tango (err...yes, hadn't denied that! lol) - don't contact me again with information that is of no importance to me".

It sickened me that someone could be that heartless towards their own flesh and blood, but there it is - and as for the CSA thing, I've been told by many, many people to go and apply for it, but my ex has another child from a previous marriage and when we got together, the mother of that child had just put a CSA claim in.
My ex (charming soul that he is), was outraged and asked for a dna test "just to delay the process" and then said he'd stop work if she started getting payments. He didnt in the end, but no doubt if I put a claim in he would stop work to spite me, and obviously his mum would support that.

I think it's much better for the mother to just make a go of providing for her children rather than chasing waste of spaces like these men for money.

Dick_here

vixxxen wrote: »

I think it's much better for the mother to just make a go of providing for her children rather than chasing waste of spaces like these men for money.

The CSA do the chasing if they are informed. My OH's ex is the biggest waste of space going but we still get £5 taken out of his benefits each week. A small victory, and hardly worth it you might say, but trust me, it feels damn good

vixxxen

!!!!!!_here wrote: »

The CSA do the chasing if they are informed. My OH's ex is the biggest waste of space going but we still get £5 taken out of his benefits each week. A small victory, and hardly worth it you might say, but trust me, it feels damn good

I see your point, but the problem is some men will just go to every length to avoid 'having to pay' for their own flesh and blood. My ex now works cash-in-hand so getting payments out of him would be impossible.

Anyway this wasn't a thread about useless exes, it was about the OP making some extra money :rotfl:

abby1234519

I don't really want to pursue him for money or be in contact with his family. My family will provide enough love and my boyfriend is wonderful I just hope I can keep hold of him

I listed my olympus dm 550 for £60. It IS half of what other people are selling them for but we shall see. I don't mind just £60 if that's all I'll get. I just need my eBay restrictions listed I've got at least 50 more items to list. Not sure whether to list this antler cabin luggage or not, can't see anything like it on there

abby1234519

Well I just had a call about tutoring someone for English language and literature a mile from me which is about £14 for two hours (low rate because my only references are in France!)

cloey

You are such a strong person, i've only read your post and i was like that's inspiration. To be able to be like screw him, I can get on with my life and raise my child by myself. Amazing.
You should definately go to your university and tell them your situation and they normally have hardship funds for cases like yourself. If you'll be recieving housing benefit etc at the time you should go to your local Job Centre and talk to someone, they normally have help funds. Make sure you're getting all you're entitled for. And if you recieve bursary etc from uni make sure you change your circumstances when your baba is born. Tutoring is definately a great way to make some money just now, just get some business cards printed and leave them in libraries or put up on gumtree etc.
Good luck, i'm sure you'll do amazing.