Ex refusing to sign

BitterAndTwisted

You're imagining rather a lot of things with no indication from the OP either way whether your imaginings are accurate or not.

I suspect that your response in this thread says a great deal more about you than it does the OP and is therefore worthless to anyone else reading this.

DVardysShadow

missminx wrote: »

Clearly it was stupid of me to advise her to ask her solicitor's office for advice when all along she could have just asked you. Nobody has to be right or wrong. The point of these boards is to try to help. I am not going to bother getting into further debate with you, I will agree to disagree.

Actually , I think I would rather you disagreed and argued your case, than getting into a huff about me being apparently harsh for disagreeing with you. Helping is about presenting options to the OP and providing your reasons. Short of saying that I agreed with you [which I don't], I don't see how I could have disagreed with you, other than to post as I did.

evoke

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

You're imagining rather a lot of things with no indication from the OP either way whether your imaginings are accurate or not.

I suspect that your response in this thread says a great deal more about you than it does the OP and is therefore worthless to anyone else reading this.

LOL. If only you did irony. My reponse was so worthless that you deemed it necessary to respond. Laugh out loud.

Guess what that says about you?

Anyway, I was suggesting that the OP's ex might have an emotional attachment to his daughter which may explain his actions as opposed to the OP's requirement to make a fast buck out of the house that she expects her ex to pay for.

Oeillade

Excuse me, but I have been paying the mortgage on the house for 3 years since he left without help from him. I paid the deposit on the house, I have accepted an offer lower than the price we paid for it, I am not "making a fast buck", I am paying all costs for the sale.

Thanks to everybody else for their kind input.

diable

evoke wrote: »

LOL. If only you did irony. My reponse was so worthless that you deemed it necessary to respond. Laugh out loud.

Guess what that says about you?

Anyway, I was suggesting that the OP's ex might have an emotional attachment to his daughter which may explain his actions as opposed to the OP's requirement to make a fast buck out of the house that she expects her ex to pay for.

Nah I think he is just being an awkward bar steward and trying to mess his ex's life up and using the child as an excuse..............

DrGrimson

All trolling aside, Evoke may have point...
Have you considered, for a moment, that he may genuinely be worried that you are planning to leave the area?
Could this be what it is about?
Maybe some reassurance in that respect would go along way in resolving this - that is, after all, what he has asked for.

diable

DrGrimson wrote: »

All trolling aside, Evoke may have point...
Have you considered, for a moment, that he may genuinely be worried that you are planning to leave the area?
Could this be what it is about?
Maybe some reassurance in that respect would go along way in resolving this - that is, after all, what he has asked for.

Ask him to take on the child and I bet he will come up with a million excuse's as to why he can't and to be honest most men behave in this way just to work on the ex's guilt complex and to screw up their lives.

evoke

Jeez.

The OP's ex isn't here to defend himself so i'm putting another angle on things intead of the OP's self-interest. There are always two sides to a story.

DrGrimson

diable wrote: »

Ask him to take on the child and I bet he will come up with a million excuse's as to why he can't and to be honest most men behave in this way just to work on the ex's guilt complex and to screw up their lives.

This is a rather poisonous post, and of no use to the OP.

OP, it seems you have 2 options: one is to engage in a destructive legal battle which you will eventually win. The other is to take what your ex is saying at face value. He is asking you for a guarantee that you are not going to leave the area? If you are not planning to leave, then give him that guarantee, sell the house, and get on with your life.

Hopefully when this has passed you will do your daughter a favour and build a more positive relationship with your ex.