Ex refusing to sign

G_M

Just write a statement:

"This is to confirm that I have no intention of moving away from the area".

Job done. He can't argue.

If your plans change in the future a) your statement is still valid since at the time of writing it, that WAS your intention, and b) what's he going to do anyway at that point?

Edit: forget email. Get formal. Write a letter. Short simple unambiguous and to the point. Give him no further excuse to prevaricate.

missminx

Sorry to hear you have to put up with this situation. Do you have a friend or relative in the area that you could say you are going to move in with to shut him up? The stupidity of his argument is that he is likely to push you away. I don't think he is on very safe ground legally, contact your solicitor's office and explain that his solicitor is harrassing you and you need some help. Someone in the office should be able to help you.

DVardysShadow

missminx wrote: »

Sorry to hear you have to put up with this situation. Do you have a friend or relative in the area that you could say you are going to move in with to shut him up? The stupidity of his argument is that he is likely to push you away. I don't think he is on very safe ground legally, contact your solicitor's office and explain that his solicitor is harrassing you and you need some help. Someone in the office should be able to help you.

Although you are right about the stupidity of the argument, my take on it is that his own solicitor is allowing him to stitch himself up - while taking a fat fee.

OP can send a letter as G_M suggests indicating no intent to move, the stupid ex can sign the contract and the ex's solicitor can claim his fee. The only thing that is not sorted is the OP's forward accommodation, which hangs on the contract - that needs explaining for ex's solicitor.

I think probably the last thing to do is actually to rail at the baiting and deal with it as harassment.

diable

So he makes your life awkward and doesn't want you to move away from the area but will not pay the mortgage so that his daughter and her Mother can stay in the area. Have you asked him if he would take the daughter? (not being serious but calling his bluff)

Oeillade

Thank you all. I will get in touch with my solicitor's office re the harrassment by his solicitor.

As long as nobody thinks he can hit me with the letter in court later, I will get the letter off to his solicitor today with the statement.

Shame I can't get a friend to say I am staying with them but he has already turned up at my boss's house reading the riot act to his wife over something else, so I can't put anybody else through that.

Thanks

Oeillade

My solicitor has just rung to say that he has got everything he needs back so everything is sorted.

Thank you all for your support.

missminx

DVardysShadow wrote: »

Although you are right about the stupidity of the argument, my take on it is that his own solicitor is allowing him to stitch himself up - while taking a fat fee.

OP can send a letter as G_M suggests indicating no intent to move, the stupid ex can sign the contract and the ex's solicitor can claim his fee. The only thing that is not sorted is the OP's forward accommodation, which hangs on the contract - that needs explaining for ex's solicitor.

I think probably the last thing to do is actually to rail at the baiting and deal with it as harassment.

I meant as in harrassing for a response, so she could get advice from an alternative solictor with access to her files. I could have worded it better, but I don't think you need to come down so hard ie 'last thing to do'. This board seems very harsh, remember things can be written or read slightly inaccurately. It seems the OP understood what I meant, and it has turned out helpful.

DVardysShadow

missminx wrote: »

I meant as in harrassing for a response, so she could get advice from an alternative solictor with access to her files. I could have worded it better, but I don't think you need to come down so hard ie 'last thing to do'. This board seems very harsh, remember things can be written or read slightly inaccurately. It seems the OP understood what I meant, and it has turned out helpful.

A raises issue. B makes suggestion. C thinks suggestion will lead A astray. I am C, you are B. Do I word my answer to avoid A going astray or to avoid B being upset? Sorry if I upset you, but given that A has more to lose from getting this wrong, perhaps you could bite your lip? Or argue your case?

missminx

DVardysShadow wrote: »

A raises issue. B makes suggestion. C thinks suggestion will lead A astray. I am C, you are B. Do I word my answer to avoid A going astray or to avoid B being upset? Sorry if I upset you, but given that A has more to lose from getting this wrong, perhaps you could bite your lip? Or argue your case?

Clearly it was stupid of me to advise her to ask her solicitor's office for advice when all along she could have just asked you. Nobody has to be right or wrong. The point of these boards is to try to help. I am not going to bother getting into further debate with you, I will agree to disagree.

OP I am very glad things are getting better for you. Best of luck in your new home when you find it

evoke

Oeillade wrote: »

No, he refuses to pay the mortgage on any house that he isn't living in

The reality is probably somewhat different. I vwould imagine that he's not overjoyed in paying to keep a roof over YOUR head now that you've split up.

You've manged to keep hold of his daughter and the house and you expect him to pay for everything.

I imagine he has limited contact with his daughter so is doing what he can to maintain that contact, even if his actions seem a bit bizarre.

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