Are my calculations roughly right?

Jowo_2

As with the other posters, I think you are focussing on the loss of benefits and not on the cost savings that come from reduced household expenses.

Don't panic about his move - be civil and wish him well, keep the relationship warm despite this disappointment. He may not find it half as enjoyable as he thinks - a minor dispute could escalate and the other family close ranks against him, he could have a tiff with his gf. He is only focussed on the benefits, the superficial stuff and is optimistic, he's not thought through the negatives and the risks. Let him find his own way.

Mojisola

sardine wrote: »

The friends mother, after he has moved in, has every right to claim child benefit if that is where he is living and they are maintaining him.
With that comes tax credit, she has every right to make a claim for him whether you like it or not.

If I remember right from a couple of previous threads, the friend's mother will also be able to go to the CSA and put in a claim against you for child support. (Remember the thread from someone whose daughter had gone off to live her guide leader?)

DaisyFlower

Perhaps you need to rethink the s/e if you arent earning anything.

Your sons tax credits and child benefit are paid to assist with the cost of raising him not really there to run a car and if hes 16 what kids clubs does he need?

sardine

Mojisola wrote: »

If I remember right from a couple of previous threads, the friend's mother will also be able to go to the CSA and put in a claim against you for child support. (Remember the thread from someone whose daughter had gone off to live her guide leader?)

Yes I forgot that one as well!!

Maybe they do see the situation as a 'cash cow'. But they will have the expense of his upbringing! And believe me teenagers aint cheap!!!

As I said before, count yourself lucky one down.......! And when they all get to 17/18, move into a 1 bed flat!!!

sardine

DaisyFlower wrote: »

Perhaps you need to rethink the s/e if you arent earning anything.

Your sons tax credits and child benefit are paid to assist with the cost of raising him not really there to run a car and if hes 16 what kids clubs does he need?

Maybe this is another of those 'self employed' errrr equals tax credits!!

What was it - ebay, Avon, Betterware and a whole myriad of 'hopeful' entrepeneurs, that see the tax credit system as a 'fruit machine' where you will always win!!

sunnyone

sardine wrote: »

Yes I forgot that one as well!!

Maybe they do see the situation as a 'cash cow'. But they will have the expense of his upbringing! And believe me teenagers aint cheap!!!

As I said before, count yourself lucky one down.......! And when they all get to 17/18, move into a 1 bed flat!!!

Since you are a new memeber where did "forgot that one as well" from?

sardine

Since you are a new memeber where did "forgot that one as well" from?

I was referring to the reference made by Mojisola that it is possible to claim from from the mother. It was another thing that I had forgotten that could happen.

If I remember right from a couple of previous threads, the friend's mother will also be able to go to the CSA and put in a claim against you for child support. (Remember the thread from someone whose daughter had gone off to live her guide leader?)

Wishfairy2010

sardine wrote: »

Maybe this is another of those 'self employed' errrr equals tax credits!!

What was it - ebay, Avon, Betterware and a whole myriad of 'hopeful' entrepeneurs, that see the tax credit system as a 'fruit machine' where you will always win!!

I've only been s/e for 4 months and had a lot to pay out to get things going. Hopefully the paying will slow down as orders pick up. I make and sell a variety of things and was advised to go self employed by the jobcentre.

I have got to let the agencies know as soon as changes occur or risk a fine.

I'm going to try to talk him round but legally I can't stop him :mad::(

Wishfairy2010

DaisyFlower wrote: »

Perhaps you need to rethink the s/e if you arent earning anything.

Your sons tax credits and child benefit are paid to assist with the cost of raising him not really there to run a car and if hes 16 what kids clubs does he need?

As the car is used mostly to run him into the nearest town I suppose we'll save a lot there BUT we do try to do shopping etc to coincide with his trips.

And I don't divide the benefits into each person - if one needs something one week they get it, the next week it could be another child. Then there's his phone on contract, his laptop being paid weekly and probably other stuff I've forgotten.

nannytone_2

then tell him it's YOUR phone (as he's too young to make a contract) and it's YOUR laptop, until he pays for it!

if he wants to be a 'grown up' you need to show him how 'grown ups' need to pay their bills!