When are you classed as 'living together'

missapril75

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

3 nights has always been a myth.

I remember a BBC TV movie from the 80s where a living together interview was being conducted with the "couple" concerned and when nights spent together was mentioned - with the man thinking number times a week was relevant - the woman asked what if you don't come.:eek: :rotfl::rotfl:

FBaby

Do you really not see why they would want to investigate? You love with you're ex fastener of your child, his mum and dad, have enough affinity for his mum to be get carer. If the deep were only to go by what people tell them rather then what it looks like don't you think many people with the same living arrangement then you would claim to be single?

Your situation is as suspicious as it gets so it it's absolutely right they souls look into it. If indeed your circumstances are exceptional and somehow you satisfy them that you meet their expectations of living as a single parent then that's fine.

By the way my partner and I don't eat together and certainly don't cook for eachother we don't even shop together but we are still a loving couple. You might want to think of better examples.

Dunroamin

FBaby wrote: »

Do you really not see why they would want to investigate? You love with you're ex fastener of your child, his mum and dad, have enough affinity for his mum to be get carer. If the deep were only to go by what people tell them rather then what it looks like don't you think many people with the same living arrangement then you would claim to be single?

Your situation is as suspicious as it gets so it it's absolutely right they souls look into it. If indeed your circumstances are exceptional and somehow you satisfy them that you meet their expectations of living as a single parent then that's fine.

By the way my partner and I don't eat together and certainly don't cook for eachother we don't even shop together but we are still a loving couple. You might want to think of better examples.

You've got the predictive text on again, haven't you?:)

custardy

TLD1983 wrote: »

Hi there,

Been trying to find the answer to this for a few days but it seems very much a grey area, with no definitive answer that I can find anywhere online, so thought I would post on here and see if anyone knows.

I am on IS, HB and CTB. I have a boyfriend that stays over sometimes, who has his own house. Im just wondering, when does staying over a few times a week becomes living together in the eyes of the DSS? My boyfriend doesn't contribute financially as he doesn't live here. I have read a variety of things from more than 2 nights a week is not allowed, to they can stay as often as they want as long as they have their own address. Does anyone know the answer to this ?

ETA: I have no problem with him only staying a few nights a week but I just want to make sure that in the eyes of the DSS this is acceptable as if it isn't I will have to make sure he isnt staying more than he should be.

Does he pay his own rent/mortgage?
I would think someone staying over a few nights,not paying into your house and still paying for his own couldnt really be classed as living at yours

edit: Doh! check the date.com

FBaby

Dunroamin wrote: »

You've got the predictive text on again, haven't you?:)

Glad you recognise my spelling isn't naturally that bad! I do apologise though as very annoying to read! shall do better next time!

yvoweb

My disabled daughter has her husband (from whom she is separated) sleeping downstairs in her lounge overnight. He helps her to the loo etc. and is there for their daughter. He has his own house and pays his own council tax. DWP, ESA etc. are all aware of this and are quite happy.

Big_is_beautiful

It is very important that he does not ever have any mail sent to your address, or registered there for anything, these are certainly things that they check on.
I have heard of a family on WTC where husband was not living there, but still had all mail to the house, and Driving Licence at the marital address and TV licence still in his name. They have access to all these systems and the WTC was stopped on this information alone.
It is very intriguing how much information they accumulate these days.

SandraScarlett

FBaby wrote: »

Do you really not see why they would want to investigate? You love with you're ex fastener of your child, his mum and dad, have enough affinity for his mum to be get carer. If the deep were only to go by what people tell them rather then what it looks like don't you think many people with the same living arrangement then you would claim to be single?

Your situation is as suspicious as it gets so it it's absolutely right they souls look into it. If indeed your circumstances are exceptional and somehow you satisfy them that you meet their expectations of living as a single parent then that's fine.

By the way my partner and I don't eat together and certainly don't cook for eachother we don't even shop together but we are still a loving couple. You might want to think of better examples.

Dunroamin wrote: »

You've got the predictive text on again, haven't you?:)

FBaby wrote: »

Glad you recognise my spelling isn't naturally that bad! I do apologise though as very annoying to read! shall do better next time!

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:The first time I read it, I thought it had been written by Stanley Unwin! Happy New Year to you both.

xx

UsetheFORCE

What about if the other party lived with say their parents? Bit difficult to prove that they are paying rent?

bettyboo152

As I said I had to fill out a review form I done this and sent it back then i got a letter to say the benifit was set to continue then 10 days later i get a letter for a interview. Why say it is set to continue then 10 days later ask for a interview it a bit confusing.

However , i have been a career for over years and not just came on the seen.

At the the off the day it is her son and he has always lived with his parents i have always been the career at that is why oringally moved in with her.

I can understand it looks suspiscious but unfortunately it is called life and not everthing can be as simple she needs a career and her son has always lived with her.

Thanks for the feedback.