Step daughter coming to live with us - advice on benefits/what we should do

POPPYOSCAR

moggylover wrote: »

Nor I with my 15 year old son, but I will be honest that it can be sorely tempting sometimes

:rotfl:
Isn't it just!!!!!!!


But I would have to work through any problems, 15 is so young and a very difficult age, I would keep my child in my care no matter what.

Oldernotwiser

moggylover wrote: »

Nor I with my 15 year old son, but I will be honest that it can be sorely tempting sometimes:o

Perhaps if he beat you up you might change your mind.

Oldernotwiser

skcollobcat10 wrote: »

I would just accept the loss of money for a close relative, we should help them out when in need that's what families do.

The OP isn't a relative of her husband's ex wife.

jinky67

MiniMoo wrote: »

Mum never gave up any of her benefits, so it got kind of long winded and a long wait, child benefit took 8-10 weeks to sort out and tax credits about 6-8 weeks.

Graaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan, :DI hate to tell you, but it took the Benefit people that amount of time to sort my Mum and DS out when I moved, and I obviously wasnt contesting it at all:cool:

So its best to get the ball rolling as soon as she is there with you.

I agree also about putting in a counter maintenance claim.

:grouphug::grouphug::kisses3:

POPPYOSCAR

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Perhaps if he beat you up you might change your mind.

I would not stand a chance with my daughter - she is one belt away from a black belt in karate!!

POPPYOSCAR

skcollobcat10 wrote: »

I would just accept the loss of money for a close relative, we should help them out when in need that's what families do.

I know what you are saying.

When my step-daughter moved in we left the financial situation as it was, after all we did not know if it would be short/long term.It was on step-daughter insisting that her mother should pay towards her keep that we changed things some months later.

carlsberggal

Thanks for all your replies. Hellish day yesterday but we have her safely with us. She is distraught as you can imagine to leave all her friends and half sisters behind. She is a normal 15 year old girl who can push the boundaries like they all do but is not a bad child. She kicked her out because she didn't want to babysit for her younger half sister. Having brought up 3 kids I think I have seen most kinds of behaviour!

Minimoo - thanks for sharing. We did manage to get her birth certificate after some wrangling.

We now need to concentrate on getting her into school as soon as possible and just be there for her. I feel so sad for her, but her Grandmother said to us last night that it could be the making of her being here - I very much hope it is. Grandmother also told step daughters Mum that she would end up being sectioned at this rate! So it isn't that step daughter is a really bad kid

allen35

I wish you all the best Carls and your step daughter, (just a thought) have you had chance to discuss her studies, it may be she's got a bit behind due to the circumstances back at home, may be an idea to ask her, as it's a new area and new friends soon whether she would consider requesting she be put back a year to help her concentrate on her GCSE's now she's in a stable home

carlsberggal

Thanks Allen35 - we will need to discuss this. Also the subjects she is taking now may not work on the new schools timetable; which is why we need to sort asap. Hopefully when I call in at lunch the Education Authority will have posted the forms. Rang them Monday but must be sending them 2nd class which isn't helpful. If they aren't there I will ring and see if they e-mail them to me instead

MiniMoo

We found ringing the admissions team daily soon got them to speed up abit, as we were quite stressed being as year 10 is the start of gcse coursework in the school we wanted her in, sometime you just have to make a fuss just to get something done.

I hope your stepdaughter comes as far on as mine has and is as happy as mine is now too. I hope today things are a lil less stressful and confusing for her.

Moo xx