Step daughter coming to live with us - advice on benefits/what we should do

Sixer

It's not money-related, but many GCSEs are modular and/or include coursework. It may be that your stepdaughter has already taken exams for several modules of some subjects or submitted coursework for final assessment. It might be helpful if you contact her old school and establish exactly what is the case there - and whether the new school uses the same exam board. There may be some work she has to repeat.

carlsberggal

Thanks Sixer for the course info - it's been a while since mine were at school so forgot about this

margaretclare

My heart goes out to this poor young lass. I can't imagine how any *mother* could do such a thing.

Good on you for rescuing her.

POPPYOSCAR

margaretclare wrote: »

My heart goes out to this poor young lass. I can't imagine how any *mother* could do such a thing.

Good on you for rescuing her.

More than you would think.

My step-daughter was thrown out by her mother at the age of 12.

MiniMoo

Hi i had my stepdaughter move in with us in july last year after lots of probs with school and mum.

Mum never gave up any of her benefits, so it got kind of long winded and a long wait, child benefit took 8-10 weeks to sort out and tax credits about 6-8 weeks. School can take a varied amount of time as my stepdaughter moved in during the summer hols we had to wait until afterwards, then i think it was about a further 2 weeks.

At the beginning of december my other stepdaughter told us she wanted to live with us, but was really sent by their mum to spy on us. She 'decided' a month later she wanted to go home, soon after we had a letter from tax credits asking whom should have tax credits for both girls over the period of time they have/had been with us, havent heard anything back.

As for csa well it came as a massive shock to mum that she had to pay this, doesnt see why she should shes looked after her for so long etc etc, she works for family company whom hide a good chunk of her wages so she only pays the minimum possible, we had 1 payment since july and now there is another change of circumstances investigation, so dont expect too much on that one. Its very true that its not only some fathers that dont pay but mums too.

My eldest stepdaughter is still living with us and doing so much better in life and in school, her grades have improved ten fold. She is also 15 and it is such an important time for them right now i wish you all the best of luck together. I think the best possible tip i can give you is just be an ear and encouragment to get past this and concentrate on school now.

Moo xx

MiniMoo

oh and you will need a copy of her b/certificate but you can get this for her from a register office for a small fee, tax credits needed it from us.

Moo xx

Fiddlestick

carlsberggal wrote: »

Thanks for the replies older and zagfles - I thought this might be the case so we won't receive it as her Mum will not willingly relinquish it.

Then grass her up to the Benefits Agency as a benefit cheat.

She should not be claiming it if she is not looking after the child and any attempt to continue doing so will be fraud on her part.

Oldernotwiser

margaretclare wrote: »

My heart goes out to this poor young lass. I can't imagine how any *mother* could do such a thing.

Good on you for rescuing her.

To be fair, we don't know what the daughter might have done for this action to be taken. Quite possibly nothing but we don't know that.

POPPYOSCAR

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

To be fair, we don't know what the daughter might have done for this action to be taken. Quite possibly nothing but we don't know that.

Nothing would make me throw my 15 year old daughter out.

moggylover

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

Nothing would make me throw my 15 year old daughter out.

Nor I with my 15 year old son, but I will be honest that it can be sorely tempting sometimes:o