Cost of counselling?

tuftyclub

you can also get online counselling, cheaper - I paid about £20 a session for email support. Also means you can really think about what you write. Could probably get skype sessions too

It helped me, good luck with it

GobbledyGook

Thanks for all the help and suggestions.

I'm going to try and get an appointment for another GP. My ex also mentioned last night when I mentioned it in passing that he thinks the private medical insurance he had for us covered things like counselling and he's going to check if I'm still covered as we are not yet divorced. If it's not covered he's offered to pay for half because he feels partly responsible which is kind of him.

Jemima5317

Blimey love. I have (silently) read a lot of what you've been through recently, and haven't offered a comment as I've had nothing pertinent/helpful to say. The only reason I'm offering a reply now is to totally echo BitterandTwisted and ellie101 - you sound like an AMAZING woman - to end up saying your ex is "kind" just totally confirms how grounded, sane and kind you are yourself. There is no WAY you could be a "bad Mum" with your attitude and strength. Good luck with everything, I hope you get answers and can close off at least some of those awful feelings you had to keep bottled for so long.
Jx

RAS

GobbledyGook wrote: »

I think I'm just at the point now that I'm 'ready' to talk.

Very random I know. I didn't see it coming - it's all been nicely bottled away for years.

That is the nature of PTSD and other stuff; the old sh11t appears out of nowhere; wham.

What is great is that you realise that your reaction is to the old stuff, not entirely what happens now.

There may well be two triggers; your children are of a similar age to you when bad stuff happened and the letter last week was the last straw.

Gobbledygook, I spent some time trying to work through it all. Eventually I realised that it not possible because I could not predict what would affect me when; stuff has a habit of popping up in response to triggers, not in response to my own enquiry.

So now I just make sure I am alert to when I am responding to old stuff not to today, and take action when it happens.

Deep_In_Debt

I had about 10 free sessions at my GP surgery with a counsellor attached to the surgery. I was referred via my doctor although this was a long time ago.

I also had 50 minute counselling sessions at a local charity at the same time every week for as long as I needed. They did charge, can't remember the exact amount they expected but it wasn't as much a normal ones and they also assessed your financial situation before counselling so if you couldn't afford to pay the full amount then you reached an agreement with them at the first session - think I ended up paying about £20 each session. The one I went with was a registered charity and all the counsellors were registered with BACP. I saw a flyer for them in my GP surgery so well worth a visit to your surgery even if just to pick up a flyer! Also, Google your local area, you might find a number for one.

Savvy_Sue

GobbledyGook wrote: »

I wouldn't like to call the Samaritans because they are for people who are in desperate need. I'm not in desperate need, I just need to offload and work through some stuff."

joop wrote: »

You will find that Samaritans will be very happy that you call and offload. They will let you talk about how you feel, they will listen, they will not tell you what you should do and they will not judge you. It's free - 24 hours - try them.

Warmest regards x

I once contacted them to see if a friend had called in: she'd vanished and was potentially suicidal. They were lovely, and were very keen to see if I wanted to talk to them because I was worried about her ...