How much should I charge for my son & daughter @ home (age 23, 20)

trigger2

I moved out of mums in 1994 when I was 21. I was working & paid her £200 a month, which at the time I thought was steep. Then I bought my own place with OH (now DH) & then I realised why she needed that money !!! I also had the "treating the place like a hotel" speech !!! lol

nielingren

i am 21 will be paying my mum £250pm in 2007 (my choice)
was paying £225pm we don't have sky but we have internet

MegS

When I was on YTS getting £25 a week my mum took a tenner. When I got a proper job I moved out to my own flat paying £260 a month all in (this was a long time ago lol) but circumstances meant I had to move back in with my parents so my mum demanded the same saying I could afford to pay that to someone else I could afford to pay her the same. I also had to do chores but despite the home cooked food I still moved out pronto. It would have meant either my mum or me killing each other if I had stayed lol. My son (now 7) says he will be staying at home until he's as old as his daddy (38) at which time he will marry Emily (his girlfriend at school). Daddy has other ideas lol.

Alan50 can I move in with you please? You should show them this thread so they realise how good you are to them.

TonyDebs

I Think you shoud divide by 3.
When i was on YTS in the early 80's started on £11, Mum kept £4, £4 to save and £3 in pocket.
I ended up back home to look after my mum when she was diagnossed with Cancer, was earning £200 then back in 95, used to give her £80.

Good Luck

Tony

pollyanna24

I posted above that we have a family member coming to live with us and bf said to him, give us what you give dad.

Now this is open to interpretion, cos how do we know how much he gave dad?

The family member says it is £120 which seems low, and I don't see how we can charge him more as we are "family," and I think bf would go mad if I suggested more.

But I don't think we will ever get rid of him if we only charge that much! :eek:

Think I will put up with it for a while and then suggest increasing it if he hasn't gone back to Dad.

What do others think? Should I be firm now? He's having a bit of a tough time at the mo? He has already starting treating me like his mother which I can't say I'm too happy about. :mad:

Alan50

Not sure if I should show my son and daughter the replies, but all the information is useful. I increased my sons board/keep from £25.00 to £30.00 last year, he complained that it was EXCESSIVE!..I felt guilty...but not this time!
Best wishes
Alan

houndour

furndire wrote:

Charge them a third, but if you think its too harsh, put some of it into a savings account (unbeknown to them - otherwise they'll probably be subbing) so then when they do eventually leave, you will have something to give them to start their new home, and in the meanwhile, they will have also been learning a valuable lesson on how to manage their money, and they will hopefully not get into the horrible debt mess. You are not doing children any favours by not charging them enough. They get an unrealistic view of how much things cost and then don't know how to manage. Make sure you let them see just how much the bills are. Harsh, but true.

I was earning £11k when I was 20 and when I lived with my parents I paid £200 per month.

I think 1/3rd of take home is more than fair. I currently pay £400 in rent (not living with parents) which is about 1/3rd of my take home and I manage to save up still for our "house deposit fund".

The quote above is a great idea if you think 1/3rd is too much...and they will really thank you for it.

MegS

I'm sorry Alan50 but if your son thinks his £5 price hike last year was excessive you should definitely show him this thread. Either that you tell him to move out and live in the real world. Your son doesn't know he's been born. He's very lucky to have a dad like you but I think he needs to learn responsibilities in the grown up world now.

ejushol

Hi Alan,

I have charged my son a quater of his wages (he's 17) which comes up to £40.

I feel that as a parent its giving your children an eye opener to the real world!

Also why not discuss it with them? Ask what they think is fair. You never know you might be surprised at their answered.

Best wishes

E

shop-to-drop

My children are still small but I have always thought that when i get to that stage I will charge them a fair amount comparable to them having to pay rent and there own bills so that they learn how much it all costs. Then I would save as much of that as possible and when they want to buy a house give it to them as a deposit or wedding present or like. Don't know what a fair amount would be maybe £75 a week wouldn't be unreasonable these days or more if their earnings would cover it (or less if not but would encourage them to work more hours if that was the case). i have a nephew who is 23 only ever worked parttime and doesn't pay his single mum any keep (unbelieveable!)