How much should you spend on a wedding present

mm123

Hi I know how much you send on a wedding present is personal but on of our friends is getting married soon and want money for her honeymoon me and a few girls cannot make up our minds how much to give her - she want the full 5 start wedding and i just dont want to spend a fortune as 4 of us are getting married this year. So how should you spend as a day and evening guest?

shellsuit

You spend however much you can afford and think is appropriate.

burnoutbabe

about £25 if a day guest, maybe up to £40/£50 if taking someone with me or if both bride and groom are my mate.

£10 if an evening guest.

(would be more if its my sister getting wed but thats about it)

sarahlasvegas

I think our friends averaged about £50 a gift.

minerva_windsong

My cousin (who I'm not particularly close to) is getting married next month and I think we'll get her £25-30 worth of vouchers for Debenhams or John Lewis. A family friend is getting married in August and she'll probably get the same. OH's sister gets married in September and we'll probably get her something to the value of about £50, either vouchers or 'on list'.

So basically, I'll go in the £25-50 region split between me and OH, depending on how close I am to the person. But like others have said it depends on what you feel is appropriate and what you can afford.

emsbet

Give the amount you want to give and that you can afford.
If you can only spare £10 then put that in. I would never be upset if one of my guests put in £10. I will be grateful for anything we get as I know attending a wedding can be a costly thing. Yes I'm paying for their food and some of their drinks but they will probably be buying a new outfit and paying for travel so I think it evens out.
You invite someone to your wedding because they are important to you and you want them to share in your special day not because you expect something in return.

xx

trying_2_b_good

It's up to you! I always give the value I would spend on a nice meal with wine, plus a bit for the buffet later. Usually about £60 for my partner & I (which is less than the bride & groom would have actually paid for us I'm sure!). But then if it's at a venue where I've had to get a hotel for, I might give them less.

If 4 of you are getting married this year, why not agree to just give token gifts - everyone spends £10 on each other. That way no-one feels that they are giving too much or too little?

screamer

Sorry to hijack the thread I just didn't see the point in starting a new thread to askt he same question.

Background first. Next door neighbour getting married. Not invited to the wedding just the reception. Am house and cat sitting for a week afterwards when they go away. Haven't been invited to any of the 4 hen nights, or the groom's 40th birthday bash (but have been asked to fix their computer). The bride and groom have asked for money but basically we're skint too because we're saving up for our own wedding. OH got some Capital Bonds from work but my question is would it be acceptable to give some of these as a gift instead of cash? I suppose it's a silly question but then again there's sarahlasvegas who says her guests spent £50. Well, considering this woman has spoken to me twice in 3 months and one of those was to ask a favour I don't think I can justify spending £50 when I'm saving her £50 by looking after her cat instead of having her put her in a cattery. I just feel bad for giving her gift vouchers when she's asked for cash!

zcrat41

I think you should spend what you can afford and then what you want.

For a family member I spend £100. For a good friend £80. For an evening invite for a normal friend probably about £50.

For the next door neighbour who's spoken to me 3 times in 2 months? Nada. Cat sitting would cover it in my book.

Lil_Me_2

I feel cheap!! I gave my friend £20 when she got married and I thought I was generous!

shop-to-drop

screamer wrote: »

Sorry to hijack the thread I just didn't see the point in starting a new thread to askt he same question.

Background first. Next door neighbour getting married. Not invited to the wedding just the reception. Am house and cat sitting for a week afterwards when they go away. Haven't been invited to any of the 4 hen nights, or the groom's 40th birthday bash (but have been asked to fix their computer). The bride and groom have asked for money but basically we're skint too because we're saving up for our own wedding. OH got some Capital Bonds from work but my question is would it be acceptable to give some of these as a gift instead of cash? I suppose it's a silly question but then again there's sarahlasvegas who says her guests spent £50. Well, considering this woman has spoken to me twice in 3 months and one of those was to ask a favour I don't think I can justify spending £50 when I'm saving her £50 by looking after her cat instead of having her put her in a cattery. I just feel bad for giving her gift vouchers when she's asked for cash!

I would offer to cat sit and fix the computer for free as a wedding gift. That's assuming you want to attend. They sound like users and cheeky ones at that asking for cash. I definitely wouldn't give them cash whatever you decide.