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whichwhydoIturn

Hello, i apoligise for rambling before I start. I have 1 DD who from my sig you will see has been my rock.I worship her. She is bubbly, confident, she 's like a butterfly fitting around everywhere and very colour of the rainbow.she is slim, no children, has a wonderful partner.
In Oct last year she went to the docs as she didnt feel too well.
She has a smear and they discovered that she had 2 cysts and a lump on her uterus.She had laser treatment and had to go back Thursday of last week, where they have now referred her for a biopsy. I can't tell you how strong she is. She has told me that the doctor told her to be strong and that she will get through this. She i think was in a state of shock.She cant remember what the doctor said , what type of biopsy she will need and anything much about anything. she went in on her own, as that is so typical of her. I have told her that the stiff upper lip isnt always the best approach,I have said that I want to come with her.The doctor called the hospital to make an appt for her, as yet, as havent heard when, As her mum, i am and have been in pieces I want to hold her so tightly and take time back to when she was small and it was my hands on job to protect her and keep her safe.i called the NHS dieect and they said that with out the name of a biopsy,they would be incorrect to say what it may be for as there are so many types.I am so angry at everything that I cant do this for her.She has told me to be strong for her, that she needs me to be.I know that I am no different to any other parent, you children are always your babies.So, can anyone give any advice or share any success stories. i have prayed, cried and feel desparate.
Thank You x

belfastgirl23

I think the main thing you need to do is focus on being strong and keeping strong for her. But in order to do this you need support for you, someone you can cry with and tell the truth to. Maybe your posting here will help with this. But don't be afraid to lean on friends and other family as well, they're going to want to help you. It's important to have somewhere that you can let off steam. And be sure to look after your own health through this time, your daughter doesn't need to be worrying about you IYSWIM - often this kind of stress makes you lose your appetite, stop taking exercise, start maybe to drink more than you normally would. So just be sure you keep a tight eye on yourself. You can't change what's going to happen with your daughter and the most important thing you can do is make sure she doesn't have to worry about you. At least she's been able to tell you what she needs from you, that's testament to the kind of relationship you have!

I will keep everything crossed for you that things turn out ok for her!

whichwhydoIturn

My sister said that if they felt it needed they would have admitted her straight away.
I was concerned that they called the hopital straight away.
My sister said that it could be what thye normally do. She is normally such a healthy girl. Even now , apart from being tired, she is in good health.the days feel like forever. The doctors has told her that she is feeling tired because she has cysts,She is my whole world, my truest best friend ,who i still look at now and get that funny feeling in my tummy cos she is so perfect and beautiful.I know that i am rambling .sorry

hulagirl79

I dont have anything helpful to add but i wanted to say you truely sound like the most amazing mum and your relationship with your daughter is wonderful. I wish your daughter all the luck, best wishes and prayers. Stay strong and remember if you need to rant, someone will always be here to listen. X x

Nicki

I am sorry that you are so desperately worried about your daughter and I hope that things work out well for you both.

I would only suggest that you let your daughter set the parameters for how much involvement and support she needs from you. I had a similar scare a couple of years ago and needed exploratory surgery for suspected ovarian cancer. I didn't tell my parents or my in laws until after I had got the all clear exactly because I could not deal with their anxiety and stress at the time. I would also have been mortified if my mother had wanted to come to any gynae related appointments with me, or if my parents had tried to contact my doctors for more information (which I know they would have done had they known at the time). As your Dd chose to go to the first appointment by herself she may be equally private about this area of her life. There will be lots of other ways you can support her through this even if she doesn't want you right in the centre of the medical stuff.

jackieglasgow

I have no idea what will happen to your daughter, but wanted to share my experience. Three years ago I noticed a slight swelling in my stomach, along with tiredness and feeling really out of sorts. Eventually I had an enormous lump removed from one ovary and one drained on the other, and was advised I also has lumps called fibroids in my uterine wall. When they were first found, the doctor was great at sending me for test ASAP, and also took a blood test for ovarian cancer - has your daughter had this? If they think there is a chance of this they do this test. I also have a work colleague who has gone through something very similar, and did eventually get the all clear. I don't want to give you false hope, but there are other horrible lumps which are not as awful and scary as cancer, and can be treated. I wish you and your daughter well, and hope that she comes through whatever it is, well and safe. x

pigpen

Of course you are devastated.. she is our baby and you couldn't protect her.. however.. the chances are in her favour.. think of all the oher things the lump could be.. a fibroid? one of those hideous hairy tumour things? completely hideous but harmless. a build up of uterine tissue.. the biopsy is to see what it is made of and from there they can decide how to remove it. cysts are very comon at various times throughout life and cycles so could mean nothing.

the doc said 'be strong' because he knows everyone immediately thinks cancer and death if there is a lump, but it is more often something benign.

You need to take a leaf from her book.. be strong and calm and face whatever it is with passion and if it is something nasty she will need you more than ever.. time to be standing by her and supporting her and keeping her strong as she does you.

My mil is having an ovarian 'lump' removed on the 25th.. they don't know what that is either.. but they are removing ovaries and doing biopsies of lymph nodes to save another invasive procedure if the lump is cancerous... you have to keep in your head the chances are it is something benign and a swift half hour op will see her back to her usual radiant self.

The power of positive thinking is a marvellous thing!

whichwhydoIturn

oh Pigpen, I havent been on the fly as I have been so worried, but be rest assured, I have been hard at the house, cleaned til 3 in the morning Sat , just to keep busy. the suggestions that have been made have given me a diffent view on things, I only thought of 1 thing. Thank you all for your support.She went to the docs originally as he just didnt feel well and a bit out of sorts.are cysts like boils , that they have pus in them,she has also been having slightly heavier periods. good luck to everyone that has friends and family going through worry like this.this site is like my un faced family.x

McKneff

You keep posting on here for support, even if it;s just something to fill the time in.

I agree with you. No matter how old your children are, they are still your babies.

Just remember, the vast majority of these things are benign so just keep on being positive.

My prayers are for you and yours.
Annie

pigpen

whichwhydoIturn wrote: »

oh Pigpen, I havent been on the fly as I have been so worried, but be rest assured, I have been hard at the house, cleaned til 3 in the morning Sat , just to keep busy. the suggestions that have been made have given me a diffent view on things, I only thought of 1 thing. Thank you all for your support.She went to the docs originally as he just didnt feel well and a bit out of sorts.are cysts like boils , that they have pus in them,she has also been having slightly heavier periods. good luck to everyone that has friends and family going through worry like this.this site is like my un faced family.x

Oh, you daft thing.. I'm not here checking up on you lol... (((hugs)))

Sounds like some kind of infection has taken root as well, no wonder she is feeling rough..

She'll be her lovely self before you know it xx

McKneff

Please let us know how you and her get on..........
It really is important that we have given you support and that you give us the same..........