Housing benefit query

moggylover

dseventy wrote: »

Who in their right mind allows someone to stay over more than 50% of the week and not charges them any money for rent/food?

Presumably he is having showers? Eating? Heating on?

You have children and are struggling towards your rent and are considering asking for state intervention, yet will not charge the father of your children for some help, especially as he lives there 50% of the week!

Shocking!

D70

Probably the single parent who is struggling to cope and takes whatever help she can get and knows full well that the moment she asks for the committment of some money the physical assistance and emotional support will go walkies straight out of the door;)

Not everything is always as black and white as it seems:)

dseventy

moggylover wrote: »

Probably the single parent who is struggling to cope and takes whatever help she can get and knows full well that the moment she asks for the committment of some money the physical assistance and emotional support will go walkies straight out of the door;)

Not everything is always as black and white as it seems:)

What a ridiculous statement?

Is it not a commitment to have children?

Is it not a commitment to live 50% of the week together?

But to ask for a few quid to feed him, keep the lights on, the heating since he is living there half the week is a step too far?

D70

SuzieSue

dseventy wrote: »

What a ridiculous statement?

Is it not a commitment to have children?

Is it not a commitment to live 50% of the week together?

But to ask for a few quid to feed him, keep the lights on, the heating since he is living there half the week is a step too far?

D70

Really, there's no point in arguing with these people, as I said before, they've all been brainwashed by 13 years of Labour. There is no such thing as personal responsibility any more. I wouldn't waste your time.

moggylover

dseventy wrote: »

What a ridiculous statement?

Is it not a commitment to have children?

Is it not a commitment to live 50% of the week together?

But to ask for a few quid to feed him, keep the lights on, the heating since he is living there half the week is a step too far?

D70

It isn't too much to ask no. However, there are vast numbers of men out there (and no-doubt some women as well) who would be only too happy to live with their families if there was no financial cost to them but who would be out the door like a shot the moment they were actually asked to put their hand in their pocket.

dseventy

moggylover wrote: »

It isn't too much to ask no. However, there are vast numbers of men out there (and no-doubt some women as well) who would be only too happy to live with their families if there was no financial cost to them but who would be out the door like a shot the moment they were actually asked to put their hand in their pocket.

I don't get your point.

Are you saying that if the father is asked to contribute financially he will leave a) his children b) half his house etc?

If so the OP is better off without him.

But the OP never states if she has even asked.

D70

moggylover

dseventy wrote: »

I don't get your point.

You asked why "anyone in their right mind, etc.," I suggested it might be a situation whereby he is willing to offer some emotional and practical support but not money and that if she asks for money the emotional and practical support might well dissapear. Not rocket science, and not that unusual a situation I wouldn't think.

Are you saying that if the father is asked to contribute financially he will leave a) his children b) half his house etc?

Quite possibly, he wouldn't be the first, especially since there is no indication it is "his house" anyway, and he and the Op are not "together".

If so the OP is better off without him.

I agree totally, but it can take a long time to work this out in your own heart, and also to feel able to cope without what support there is.

But the OP never states if she has even asked.

D70

No, the Op never stated that but I offered one possible situation that might cause someone "in their right mind", but perhaps vulnerable, to be manipulated by an ex-partner:)