Registering a birth

iceicebaby

Is there another name in the family you could give the baby like your mothers maiden mame for example?

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

iceicebaby wrote: »

Is there another name in the family you could give the baby like your mothers maiden mame for example?

I don't have anything to do with my family so that might be awkward tbh.

I would really prefer for us to all have the same name unless the baby has to have it's father's name.

I could change my name back to my maiden name if I had to so at least the baby & I had the same name.

Mojisola

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

I'm not with the baby's father so wouldn't be able to give it his name unless of course he came with me to register the birth.

I'd rather we all had the same name tbh, my eldest 2 kids are not my ex husbands kids but they still have his name.

Yes, you would if you wanted to. You wouldn't be able to name him as the father unless he came with you but you can give the child any surname you choose.

It makes sense to me to have all the family with the same name.

pigpen

I had this last year with my baby.. You can give the baby the surname you are using if that is your ex-husbands name then that is fine.. all your details are in that name anyway so it is legally your name too .. as is your maiden name.

My OH came with us so baby has my maiden name and his surname.. but of a mouthful but she can legally use either or both when she is older.

barjam_2

as other posters have said you can give the baby whatever surname you wish, tbh i thinks its irrelevant wether the ex would be happy or not if you used his surname, because that surname is legally yours now, you are not doing anything illegally or morally wrong,

delain

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

I don't have anything to do with my family so that might be awkward tbh.

I would really prefer for us to all have the same name unless the baby has to have it's father's name.

I could change my name back to my maiden name if I had to so at least the baby & I had the same name.

I would probably have been quite offended if my mum had done this when I was in my teens (sorry BCS)

rachbc

shellsuit wrote: »

Ahh, I thought you had the babies and gave them the ex's name at birth. Didn't realise you'd changed all their names to be the same as the man you were with at the time.

If the ex doesn't mind, and the babies Dad doesn't mind,

Its nothing to do with the ex...its HER, and her family's name now too not just his!

Kittendreich

I agree with above - it is HER name, not her ex-husbands. I wouldn't give a baby the father's name unless he was going to be a long-term, active dad (which it doesn't sound like this bloke is). It is not up to the ex-husband whether she uses her name for her own baby (assuming she doesn't expect him to play any fatherly role). She chose to adopt his name on marriage and chose to keep it when they split - it is now nothing to do with him.

shellsuit

rachbc wrote: »

Its nothing to do with the ex...its HER, and her family's name now too not just his!

Kittendreich wrote: »

I agree with above - it is HER name, not her ex-husbands. I wouldn't give a baby the father's name unless he was going to be a long-term, active dad (which it doesn't sound like this bloke is). It is not up to the ex-husband whether she uses her name for her own baby (assuming she doesn't expect him to play any fatherly role). She chose to adopt his name on marriage and chose to keep it when they split - it is now nothing to do with him.

I see what you mean and Yes I can see where you're coming from.

I personally feel a child should have his Mother's (so maiden) or Father's name, that's all.

It makes sense in this situ tho I suppose as then they'd all have the same name. Not something I'd do but it's not my family!

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

delain wrote: »

I would probably have been quite offended if my mum had done this when I was in my teens (sorry BCS)

No need to be sorry but I don't understand what you mean tbh.

Do you mean my other kids might be upset if I change my name to the same as the babies?

As I already said I don't have anything to do with my family so wouldn't want to change my name back anyway.