Registering a birth

shellsuit

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

I'm not with the baby's father so wouldn't be able to give it his name unless of course he came with me to register the birth.

I'd rather we all had the same name tbh, my eldest 2 kids are not my ex husbands kids but they still have his name.

You might not be in a relationship with babies Dad, but won't he have something to do with the baby and register the birth with you?

Does the ex not mind that the kids have his name even though they aren't his ~ mind you, if 2 already have his name that aren't his, another probably won't bother him will it?

jcr16

as far as i'm aware you can name a baby anything you want.i remember hearing in new a baby called bus shelter,lol. as for using your ex's surname it prob better that you just check it is ok. but techinally it is your surname now anyway, as when you married him he legally gave u the right to use that name.

but you can't put any name down for the father unless a ) your married to him he doens't have to be there, for this. or b) if your not married then the father either has to be present or gives you a written letter stating it is ok for him to have his name on birth cert.

mrbrightside842

Someone I knew of was in a similar position. She had 2 kids by her hubby, with his surname, and then they divorced. She then went on to have another child with a man she wasn't with, and so they double barrelled the name with her married name and the dad's surname. EXh wasn't happy about the baby having his name, but it was her name too.

It's still your name after the marriage ends, it's not just lent to you for the duration of the marriage! I'd want all of my kids to have the same surname if possible, and I wouldn't want my last child to have my maiden name if I was still using my married name.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

shellsuit wrote: »

You might not be in a relationship with babies Dad, but won't he have something to do with the baby and register the birth with you?

Does the ex not mind that the kids have his name even though they aren't his ~ mind you, if 2 already have his name that aren't his, another probably won't bother him will it?

I'm not sure what will happen tbh but it is still afew months away yet.

My ex didn't mind the boys having his name as they were only 18 months & 6 weeks old when I met him and he wanted to be their dad.

I don't know what to do tbh but I was just worried the baby would have to have my maiden name which I hate.

shellsuit

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

I'm not sure what will happen tbh but it is still afew months away yet.

My ex didn't mind the boys having his name as they were only 18 months & 6 weeks old when I met him and he wanted to be their dad.

I don't know what to do tbh but I was just worried the baby would have to have my maiden name which I hate.

Ahh, I thought you had the babies and gave them the ex's name at birth. Didn't realise you'd changed all their names to be the same as the man you were with at the time.

If the ex doesn't mind, and the babies Dad doesn't mind, then I see no problem with giving the baby the same name as you, but if the new babies Dad does mind and is willing to register the baby with you, would you give the baby his name?

bargainbetty

You might find it useful to contact your local registrar of Births, Deaths and Marriages. You'll be able to find the details on your local council's website.

My friend is one, and she says that they are always happy to help with enquiries in advance, so that no one gets any nasty shocks on the day. They can advise you of what you can/can't do, what you need to do and any documentation you need to bring.

Good luck

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

shellsuit wrote: »

Ahh, I thought you had the babies and gave them the ex's name at birth. Didn't realise you'd changed all their names to be the same as the man you were with at the time.

If the ex doesn't mind, and the babies Dad doesn't mind, then I see no problem with giving the baby the same name as you, but if the new babies Dad does mind and is willing to register the baby with you, would you give the baby his name?

I don't know tbh as he has already said he won't give me any maintanance as he doesn't believe in it & i'm not sure if he will even have contact.

I guess i'll just have to wait & see nearer the time.

Thanks everyone for all your help.

delain

shellsuit wrote: »

Ahh, I thought you had the babies and gave them the ex's name at birth. Didn't realise you'd changed all their names to be the same as the man you were with at the time.

If the ex doesn't mind, and the babies Dad doesn't mind, then I see no problem with giving the baby the same name as you, but if the new babies Dad does mind and is willing to register the baby with you, would you give the baby his name?

From BCS previous posts I've seen (I'm not a stalker I promise!) baby's dad doesn't sound like a very nice man, so probably best he doesn't have Parental Responsibility which being on the birth certificate actually gives since 2003. I think (and it's only my opinion based on what BCS, who I like by the way has posted) that she is better off keeping her contact with him to an absolute minimum.

ETA My lot all have their Dad's surnames, had my older 3 very young fresh on the back of a lot of hassle about my name. Wasn't going to put my kids through it

My youngest also has her dad's name so I have 4 children, 3 with 1 surname, 1 with another and none of them are the same as mine. my eldest has asked questions and if at some point they want to change their surname I'll support them. For the moment none of us are worried about it

madjay

You can give the baby any name and surname you want it does not have to be your or yuor husbands it can be any thing you want.

shellsuit

Breast_Cancer_Survivor wrote: »

I don't know tbh as he has already said he won't give me any maintanance as he doesn't believe in it & i'm not sure if he will even have contact.

I guess i'll just have to wait & see nearer the time.

Thanks everyone for all your help.

He will have no choice if you go to the CSA.

delain wrote: »

From BCS previous posts I've seen (I'm not a stalker I promise!) baby's dad doesn't sound like a very nice man, so probably best he doesn't have Parental Responsibility which being on the birth certificate actually gives since 2003. I think (and it's only my opinion based on what BCS, who I like by the way has posted) that she is better off keeping her contact with him to an absolute minimum.

That's true delain, didn't think of the PR if he is as bad as BCS says.