Problems with son's nursery

Nicki

moppet_217 wrote: »

If you read my earlier post the staff are aware of the name calling from when it was happening to my son and the staff laughed and said they were letting this behaviour go. So yes I do feel my son is being treated diffrently.

But they know that you find this name calling unacceptable so are they wrong in assuming you would not want your own child to be taking part in it? There are only two options: to let him do it and be like the other children, or to discourage him from doing it in line with the standards of behaviour you expect from him even though this is different to the other children. The third option, which is to enforce your standards of behaviour on all the other children is unworkable if you think of all the different issues which might arise in a nursery and all the differing views parents might have about them.

JodyBPM

moppet_217 wrote: »

If you read my earlier post the staff are aware of the name calling from when it was happening to my son and the staff laughed and said they were letting this behaviour go. So yes I do feel my son is being treated diffrently.

But if this has been going on for six weeks, and they've only just raised it as an issue (due to it not having quickly passed as a silly phase no doubt) then they have also "let it go" with your son for 6 weeks.

Honestly, if it worries you, then of course you need to go and discuss it with them as you are doing. But you sound slightly paranoid that your son is being victimised in some way.

In all honesty, if the worst your son is doing is calling children "poo poo head", then I really wouldn't worry too much. It isn't appropriate, it needs to be stopped - but it isn't really a big deal is it? Its a good opportunity for you and the nursery to work together to set boundries, and to show your son that you are a united front and the same behaviour standards that you expect of him at home are also expected at nursery. That's got to be a good thing, surely? (and at 3 he will be boundry pushing, so this is just the right age for him to realise that both you and nursery are setting and maintaining boundries)

Caroline73_2

I think it's great the nursery have done a specific list of incidents that they are concerned about. Surely that's better than saying he is a bully and badly behaved generally? They are saying that he is doing specific things which need to be dealt with so they can be easily tackled. They've given it time to see if it just a phase and he hasn't got bored with it.

Stop concerning yourself with other children and how they are being dealt with. You can only be responsible for the citizens that your children become. Teach them to be the best that they can be. You should like you have his best interests at heart but are probably upset. think about it as if this was someones elses child and you'll probably see that its right.