Incapicity benefit and working

DX2

Lou76 wrote: »

And if he's been receiving CWPs as well, as stated by the OP, I assume you can add Income Support to the list as well.

Well I didn't understand why he is the only person on IB to get CWP's so yes there must be an elemnet of IS aswell.

missteapot

thanks for all your comments and views guys......much appreciated

DX2 - i presume there is an IS element and that's why he has been getting cold weather payments, before he was working i knew he was getting about 180.00 pounds every fortnight as well as HB/CTB. I don't know much about the benefit system as i have always been in work.

Dark Lady - Yes i have had to bail him out before on a few occasions...i know, i know it was stupid of me but they say love is blind. Maybe i should start a new thread headed "should i dump him"!!

dark_lady

i agree love is important in a relationship but so is trust and respect. Please dont take this the wrong way but you cant trust him to be responsible and he wont respect you if you keep bailing him out either directly or indirectly. He knew the rules so HE has to take the consequences for breaking them not you. I was in a similar situation many years ago. An ex of mine got into debt, told lies about the reasons why.(said it was for a car and i later found out he inherited said car when his stepfather died) He got 9 grand in debt by spending on stupid things like having his ear pierced lol and buying this woman that he was after, designer gear (handbags,shoes clothes etc.
Then when i came along and we discussed moving in together he had the gall to tell me that WE couldnt afford this ,WE couldnt afford that and WE will have to tighten our belts. I had quite a good job at the time and ive never been in debt (if i cant afford something i go without.) and i immediately thought, Whats all this we carp. Its not my debt. Suddenly i had a flash forward in time and imagined myself standing in Boots choosing face cream with him standing behind me moaning that it was too expensive but never admitting that the reason it was too expensive was because of HIS debts. And when i talk about buying face cream i do mean paying with my own money not his. He also used to try and tell me how to spend my own money cos he wanted to make sure i had enough left to subsidise him. When i stayed the odd weekend at his he would even time me in the shower only allowing me THREE minutes and shouting at me if i took longer. He yelled at me for washing friuit before i ate it. His reasons for this behaviour was that he couldnt afford the water. The bit he always left unsaid was that it was because of his irresponsibility and his debts.
At one point he was also sighning on for Jobseekers Allowance as well as having jobs as a white van man and indian takeaway delivery driver. In the end i realised that our values and principles were just too different and i ended it. I just thank God that i never moved in with him.
Miss teapot it sounds like your principles are different from your boyfriend"s too. Please dont let him take advantage of you or emotionally blackmail you over this. You are worth more!