How to end a good friendship without giving reason

mr218

would you have pursued this matter if she was single? dont you think she will feel bewildered and hurt if you just drop her or tail off your friendship. i would not like to be treated like that especially if i have not done anything nasty to warrant it.

try not to get involved further but keep your friendship going. if you think you cannot do it then be honest and write her a letter explaining why you cannot do it. if she decides to end her marriage you might want to pursue this relationship

good luck and dont act hastily.

missindecisive

don't admit to anythin- it could be that you are just being used as a bit of flirtatious fun as a way of escaping her downtrodden marriage.
don't reply to the texts as quickly, then when you do, make the replies short & to the point.

ps. there is nothing worse than working with a couple who quite obviously fancy one another- makes everyone else kind of squirm....

scooby088

I would just be honest and tell her how you feel and then if she decides not to take it any further then that's the end of the friendship. does sound like a bit of a ultimatum but you need to know and waiting on things to develop or not is just making things worse for you.

In the short term there may be some hurt feelings but that goes in time. All i can say is that i'd also go with the ignoring of texts or the slow answering of them, and whilst at work discuss nothing but work. Good luck i hope you get this sorted out.

FunnySaving

I agree with those who have advised you to let it tail off naturally - if she's going through emotional upheaval then it's possible she's enjoying having someone to talk it all through who she suspects might be interested and will tell her that she's in the right and encourage her to leave her husband. If so, then someone who has a vested interest in her single status is not the person to be talking to, and it won't do you any good either, but at the same time I can see why you don't want to 'dump' her.

I think that gently backing off, not making arrangements with her outside work hours and making sure you keep all your texts and conversations light and friendly but not too involved, would be for the best, and if you feel the need to add a new 'love interest' as an alibi, then so be it!

Good luck - you are doing an honourable thing, and I hope she doesn't make it any harder for you than it needs to be!