Wearing black to a wedding?

sarah*a

Jem8472 wrote: »

I really did not notice what other people wore apart from those that were at the wedding (we had a small ceremony) In the evening as long as people turned up that was the main thing!

Yep - apart from the bridal party I couldn't tell you a single thing any of our guests were wearing - I had far more important things to think about

La-Cara wrote: »

roadiegirl, you might find that the bride would think highly of you for asking if you can wear black, rather than risk offending her/other guests I can't see how messaging her to ask would offend her, and it would save you from forking out on a new frock just to be on the safe side!

Agree here too - A quick message saying thank you for the invite and you're looking forward to the wedding (and meeting her if you haven't before), you've found the perfect dress (she doesn't need to know it's not new ) but just wanted to check with her that it was OK to wear black - should be fine. I vaguely remember my SIL (or my brother on her behalf) asking if it was OK if she wore a trouser suit but couldn't tell you if she actually did or not.

I wore black to my husbands sisters wedding - had a lovely hat and a fab pair of shoes. I would bet she couldn't remember what I wore either

floss2

I would have thought that if it's good enough for the future Mrs William Windsor, then it's good enough for the likes of us!

Jacks_xxx

Letting the bride dictate what you wear can be interesting at times.

I once received a wedding invitation with a little note in it asking me not to wear anything too cleavagey to the church.

I was completely mortified, but obviously complied with that request.

On the day I was absolutely astounded and gobsmacked when the bridesmaids walked down the aisle in dresses so low at the back that they were almost showing a different kind of cleavage!

Presumably the bride had okayed those dresses?? I never ever asked her why my boobs were banned but bum cleavage was acceptable - but then I don't really see her any more to ask. :rotfl:

rozmister

I'm wearing purple to my cousin's wedding because always looks a bit morbid/smart on me (very pale blue eyed blonde hair) but I think if you can pull it off and acccessorise right go for it! Maybe ask the bride first, if I was getting married I'd really appreciate being asked.

Btw I got my dress from ebay. It's monsoon, BNWT and worth £135. I paid £26 & £3 P + P you don't need to spend loads for a wedding really

melancholly

i've worn black to a wedding and it never crossed my mind to ask the bride (i figure she had a lot more important things to be worrying about!). a nice dress with nice accessories is far more appropriate than 'colourful' outfits that some people wear (knee high boots with a minute skirt and boobs out top for a strict Catholic ceremony being the most recent one that stands out!).

there's nothing general that can be said about an outfit based on one type of colour; each specific combination will be either appropriate or inappropriate for any number of reasons. for the couple this may well be the most important day of their lives, but for the guests, it's a nice day out to celebrate with other people. most people wouldn't expect any guest to have to buy something new because they were that highly sensitive to a black dress being worn with colourful accessories that it might ruin their whole day!!

at the last funeral i went to, only two people wore black (me being one as it happens), they just wore smart outfits and it wasn't even an issue.... i'm not sure the colour police are currently operational!

melancholly

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

Letting the bride dictate what you wear can be interesting at times.

I once received a wedding invitation with a little note in it asking me not to wear anything too cleavagey to the church.

so i have to ask, was it a general request to all guests or specifically for you? :rotfl::rotfl:;)

Jacks_xxx

melancholly wrote: »

so i have to ask, was it a general request to all guests or specifically for you? :rotfl::rotfl:;)

Just for me as far as I know.

zzzLazyDaisy

I wore black to my son's [STRIKE]funeral[/STRIKE] wedding

Fuzzy_Duck

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

Letting the bride dictate what you wear can be interesting at times.

I once received a wedding invitation with a little note in it asking me not to wear anything too cleavagey to the church.

I was completely mortified, but obviously complied with that request.

On the day I was absolutely astounded and gobsmacked when the bridesmaids walked down the aisle in dresses so low at the back that they were almost showing a different kind of cleavage!

Presumably the bride had okayed those dresses?? I never ever asked her why my boobs were banned but bum cleavage was acceptable - but then I don't really see her any more to ask. :rotfl:

:rotfl: I would have felt like turning up in nipple tassles just to be defiant!

puddy

i find the rules that people are quoting are bizarre. who said that black cant be worn, who said it was rude, inappropriate etc etc??

personally i think the dress sounds lovely, very summery and light. i cant imagine why you would check with the bride, as if she hasnt got enough on her plate at such a stressful time without wondering if she should say yes or not, who she might offend if she says yes or no (if there are 'rule abiders' amongst her family) and why this person who is a cousin (not in contact) of her husband to be is asking her this question

wear it and have a good time