Wearing black to a wedding?

Jacks_xxx

Personally I think that the days of churches filled with what looked like rows of pastel coloured Fondant Fancies are gone.

Wear some colour with your black and look stylish as all heck!

If it was good enough for all those society brides whose wedding's Kristin Scott Thomas's character attended in Four Weddings and a Funeral about 15 years ago then...

Hermia

Jacks_xxx wrote: »

Personally I think that the days of churches filled with what looked like rows of pastel coloured Fondant Fancies are gone.

Ha ha! I think that is so true. I think the days when there were styles of outfits just for weddings (pastel, hats, lacy dresses) are long gone, especially as those styles often didn't suit younger women. The last few weddings I have been to had women in dark colours and wearing party/evening dresses and they looked lovely. The last wedding I went to was a church wedding and there were no old-fashioned wedding outfits to be seen.

As other people have said I think it's nice to brighten up a black outfit with some accessories just so it looks more suitable for a day wedding. I think the only dress that is off-limits is a white frock that is more beautiful than the brides.

shellsuit

I don't think it matters what colour you wear so long as you turn up!

People could have come to our wedding in jeans, pyjamas or potato sacks for all I cared.

ellay864

There was a similar thread on this subject a while back...whcih shows you're not the only one planning and wondering about doing it! General consensus then was also that it's fine, and it can look stunning if you team it up with some colour (shoes, bag, fascinator). When I get married I don't care if anyone wears black but they'd better not wear silver as that's the colour I'm wearing!

Torry_Quine

As I said before though some people myself included would mind. Therefore please check with the bride first and remember even if they don't mind it may still be frowned upon. I would never wear black to a wedding or any colour but black to a funeral. I think it may be a generation thing

lostinrates

Torry_Quine wrote: »

As I said before though some people myself included would mind. Therefore please check with the bride first and remember even if they don't mind it may still be frowned upon. I would never wear black to a wedding or any colour but black to a funeral. I think it may be a generation thing

I would wear any subdued colour to a funeral but not black to a wedding. I'm 31.

I'm dismayed people see the only alternative to black to be pastel or ''traditional wedding dress''. People got married before the 80s/early 90s summer pastel dress and continue to do so in style! Its truly not a choice of black or pastel.

n.b. I love black.

SUESMITH_2

i would wear black but accesorise it with cream. wear what you look good in

Starrystarrynight

I would hope that your cousin would want you to wear something you liked, and were comfy and confident in, rather than having to splash out on something new. You could buy lots of lovely accessories to go with the dress with your £40 :-)

roadiegirl

The thing is, I cant really ask my cousin, hes the groom and I havent spoken to him in years, its just one of those family formality things that I have been invited, and I have never met the bride, so it might be a bit awkward me popping up on facebook asking if I can wear black to her wedding! The dress I have is black lace with lace sleeves, really nice and I have gorgeous shoes and handbag I can wear with it. I think I'm just gonna go for the non-black option and scout round the shops, I don't want to offend anybody! But thankyou to all who have answered!

La-Cara

roadiegirl, you might find that the bride would think highly of you for asking if you can wear black, rather than risk offending her/other guests I can't see how messaging her to ask would offend her, and it would save you from forking out on a new frock just to be on the safe side!

I work at a wedding venue, and see guests wearing black most weeks and so far no-one has (publicly) kicked up a fuss about it!