when she grows up - learning difficulties

Torndao01

Thank you to everyone for sharing their experiences, its hard when people dont understand your concerns.

Gingerwhinger you could have been writing about my DD. Im lucky in that the school do 30 mins each day and toe by toe each day as well. I wasnt too sure if a tutor would be too much as well and also I wasnt sure where to look for one. Snap with the DS as well, he is so lazy and classed as gifted, DD works her socks off every day, always trying her best. Hopefully this will pay off as she gets older.

Peachyprice, Sock-Knitter, Lizziebabe and Concerned43 your children sound a credit to you and themselves. You must be so proud that they have been able to reach their potental, that is all I want for DD and of course for her to be happy. I am so proud of how hard she works and how she copes with school.

I feel a little silly now for posting because I know my DD will grow up to be a happy, kind, considerate and able adult because she is that already as a child. It has lifted my heart reading that others have and are doing just the same. Thank again for reminding me:)

P.S Apologies for replying late in the day, having DSs first sleep over with 3 10 year old boys! Their still on the XBox!

KiKi

Torndao01 wrote: »

I feel a little silly now for posting because I know my DD will grow up to be a happy, kind, considerate and able adult because she is that already as a child. It has lifted my heart reading that others have and are doing just the same. Thank again for reminding me:)

Don't feel silly; you're her mum and you are bound to worry more than anyone else. And your concerns should be taken seriously. And if you work with her and plan at her future and help her to be who she can be (and it sounds like you're a wonderful mum and doing all that already) then you can look forward to a hugely positive future for her.

It won't stop you worrying, but then you're a mum and will probably worry regardless!

KiKi

Ms_Magnetite

One of my nieces is identical. She's doing fine at senior school, as eventually, something sinks in with regards to reading and maths - not a great deal, but she'll have enough to get by. Co ordination improves with years of practice, too. She sings well, so enjoys this - all she has to do different is learn the words out loud, not by reading them. And she is popular.

Maybe your daughter won't be a doctor or lawyer, but she may find something else she loves to do - work with animals, perhaps, be a care assistant, a nursery assistant, maybe even 'just' be a mum. But there is no reason she can't be happy.

heretolearn_2

How do you feel about her intelligence generally? Do you feel that is has a learning disability in the sense of being a bit 'slow' as well, or that they are restricted to the dyslexia, dyspraxia type that can go along with any level of intelligence. If it's just the latter, don't worry, my boy couldn't write, do his shoelaces, ride a bike (still can't), was clumsy, disorganised, had the attention span of a gnat, was lost in a dream world, was physically very slow at getting dressed etc...down to dylexia/dyspraxia problems. While it made life very hard for him at school until they finally accepted he wasn't just lazy, he eventually got help with it and found coping strategies that let him finally start working up to his real abilities. You have to push and push for enough help though. He didn't really get it until he was an adult and I feel terribly guilty about that. A lot of her problems are caused through the dylexia/dyspraxia but they can get over them with help.

If you feel that she is generally a bit less intelligent than average, well, that's not the end of the world. As an employer, if I have the choice between person A who needs a bit of extra help now and then but is hard-working, a nice person to have around, good with people, calm, and reliable, or person A who is very intelligent but a pain in the bum/lazy/tempremental, I'll chose A every time! We've had both types of people working for us and the As turn into long-term employees, the Bs don't.