Cold Feet about house move.

Paul_O'Kshields

Contracts and everything ready to be signed, completion date set, the works.
Our old property is on the market, we've given notice on the place we're renting. Everything is good to go. I should be made up, right?

But I'm not. I have had mild misgivings about this move from the off and, the closer it comes to being a reality, the more queasy I seem to feel about it.

I have bought property twice before and not felt like this about it. I feel that whatever amount of money I might have wasted on solicitors' fees/searches/surveys etc up to this point, would be a bargain compared to proceeding with a move I'm not 100% happy with.

Are these sorts of heebeegeebees normal? Does anyone else get them? Has anyone else pulled out of a house purchase at the 11th hour? What were the consequences?

Thanks in advance for any help/insight/encouragement/ticking off/pull yourself together man-type advice offered.

Babylonian_2

Oh dear
What has made you feel like this????

pawpurrs

I think a certain amount of heebeegeebees is normal, but to the point of pulling out is not.
What is it that makes you feel like this?

Consequences, there arent any for you, but obviously everyone else in the chain may also lose money and their prospective houses too, but obviously you cant buy a house if it really is wrong for you.

A ticking off is in order, as if you have had misgivings you should have worked through them by now, rather than let down a lot of people at the 11th hour which isnt nice.

_Andy_

Trust your gut feeling / instinct and act on it.

potnoodle_2

Do you feel you are paying too much money? The survey came back with lots of issues? Is it in a poor location? Do you think it will be hard to sell on?

I think it is easy to get caught up in the whole house selling process, that it becomes very difficult to get out conscience wise, particulary when everyone elses move depends on yours.

Think to yourself, how would you feel if your seller withdrew and you actually couldnt buy the house, would you be relieved or upset? If you feel you would be relieved I would definetly not proceed. You can rent another house, but once you have bought the house you are pretty stuffed.

I know its not nice to let people down, and you have spent out on your own fees, but they are minimal compared to how much you could lose. If you feel you need to back out, do it, then just try to learn from the experience. I definetly wouldnt buy a house your not happy with, as it is possibly top of the market and it is a bad enough time to buy as it is!

movingforward2010

i think sometimes things get on top of you, and you feel a bit stressed and worried for no reason really, i am sure once you've moved everything will be just fine again

Angela_D_3

I had a terrible feeling hours before exchanging contracts, i wish i'd pulled out then, still regret it a year on.

cuffie

It depends why you are feeling like this. I'm feeling sick and nervous about moving, but thats because I'm not one for "change". Nice, safe and comfortable is where I like to be!! I am not particularly a risk taker either. But, I know we have to move really. House miles too small (bought it brand new before kids, now have 3 and bursting at seams!).

Then, I look at what I don't like about my house how (9 things without too much effort on the thinking part! and 3 things I like, and oddly 9 things I like about my new house, and 3 things I don't!!!!!).

Then I am excited about moving though and have started to mentally redecorate my new house-to-be - thats when I know it feels right because I can imagine me and my family there.

A friend of mine told me a story once about when she got married. She said even to the moment of walking down the aisle with her dad she knew she was making a mistake getting married. She said she wished she had the guts to get out when she could and she got caught up with the wedding plans. She divorced a few years later...said it was the biggest mistake of her life and she knew it whilst she was making it! I suppose what I am trying to say is that if you think its going to make you that unhappy, it's never too late to back out. I would be heartbroken if I was on the receiving end mind you, but if you feel its not right. Don't do it. There will be other times when its right.

Maybe do the "pros and cons" list. Write down why you want to do it, and why you don't. Makes it clearer when you see it written down and it might make you sway one way or the other.

Good luck whatever you decide. x

Paul_O'Kshields

Thanks for your input, folks.

Will try the old writing down pros and cons trick - only way to fathom which way to go on momentous decisions, from past experience.

I think, like Cuffie, it may be that I just dislike "change" - inviting a whirlwind of it like a house move into my happily-chuntering-along existence just rattles my cage a bit too much.

Roma_3

A very good idea to make lists with pros and cons .. we are all very different so reactions to a move will be different too!!
Personally we are so excited about our new house (getting to contract stage now) that we simply cannot wait to move in but not everyone feels like this ...I LIKE change!
Plus we could have an ulterior motive in this .. we will be going from a large mortgage to having no mortgage at all!
Good luck and let us know what you decide.

lynzpower

one tihng I noticed which was weird when I bought this place was that by the time i finally got the keys, I just couldnt be ar5ed. a long & miserable process took any excitement I had away really. That excited feeling people talk about when they get the keys- not for me. I was given them and im sure I muttered something along the lines of "yeah, nice one -about time too"

Anthing like that happening for you?