My sister has chosen her outfit- I'm not impressed!

PolishBigSpender

I think it's her choice what she's wearing and to be honest, as long as she's decent, you can't force her to wear something she doesn't like. You're not going to check other guests' outfits, are you?

gocurlygirl

At least she has made the effort to choose something to wear.It could look smart and I would rather she was there in that outfit(if she was my sister),smiling and comfortable and happy-rather than not there or so uncomfortable you all feel uneasy.She is 16,probably very self conscious and worried but at least she would be there.
Lets be honest,at 16 did we wear what we thought was ok or everyone else.
You will be so busy that it will pass very quickly,I hope you all have a lovely day.
Congratulations to you too.:j

gocurlygirl

kitschkitty wrote: »

My little sister was meant to be our bridesmaid when we first set our wedding date in 2004 but she died that year of cancer. I'd give anything including us all wearing black sacks for her to be at our (finally rebooked) wedding this year.

This made me sad too.just enjoy you wedding day and relax about the outfit.

nickinoo

I really hate when brides try to dictate what the guests can wear. So she didn't want to wear a dress-get over it. Celebrate your wedding day & be grateful that she is there with you.

Chardonnay

kitschkitty wrote: »

My little sister was meant to be our bridesmaid when we first set our wedding date in 2004 but she died that year of cancer. I'd give anything including us all wearing black sacks for her to be at our (finally rebooked) wedding this year.

Kitschkitty, your post made me cry! I hope you have a wonderful day when you do get married.

It also really made me think. It's so easy to get bogged down with all the insignificant details in this planning a wedding business, and forget that the really important thing is that the day is a celebration of your love for another person. People make a wedding and having the people you love there, is all that really matters.

lisawood78

I think she will look smart, and she is making an effort, albeit not wearing what you would like.
I'd let her be, ler he character shine in her clothes, rather than stiffling who she is.
Have a nice wedding day

sw_mina

Looks like a smart outfit a boy might wear - so why not a girl? Could be a lot worse

kitschkitty

I'll be a married lady in 4 months time (only 6 years after the original date lol)!

Itotally understand though, that we are all brought up with lots of ingrained expectations, traditions etc, and it can be hard to find your way through it all and realise what's really important about a wedding day. Took my OH a while to realise he didn't have to adhere to all the "traditional" wedding stuff if he/we didn't want it.

Dekazer

From the other side.. My grandmother re-married when I was 14, and my mother dressed me in the most horrendous dress. It was too old for me, too formal and I look ridiculous in the photos. And sulky. Of course we all laugh now, but looking back (*ahem* years later...) I can't help but think I would have made a better job of dressing myself. And at least I would have looked comfortable and cheerful

Kittendreich

It will be her that will have to look back at the photos and think what was I wearing?! Getting a new outfit has shown she is making an effort in her own way and she is fitting with your scheme by wearing black (she could be wearing the leopard skin trousers all day...). You've asked her nicely to wear a dress, offer to get her a ivory top to go under the waistcoat to match your theme, if she is not interested...forget it!

I don't think I could tell you what anyone was wearing at my wedding - I was just glad they could come.