My sister has chosen her outfit- I'm not impressed!

flower10

Just need a little rant. My sister (age 16) has chosen her outfit for our wedding in 7weeks time. She refused to be a bridesmaid, and is refusing to wear a dress. So she has chosen



I know she doesn't like wearing dresses and typical girlie clothes, but she is going to be in our wedding photos and album wearing this! I have tried talking to her, the only comments I get is that I should be glad she is taking an interest.:mad:

Thank you for listening.

celyn90

I think it's rather smart - at least it's fairly formal. I must admit I'd rather have someone in a smart trouser suit and smiling than in a dress they don't like and scowling. She'll look fine, don't worry.

cel x

skylight

She is 16 and knows best!!

Depending on the relationship you have with her will depend on what you want to do next and how you handle it.
At least with a white shirt on it will look smart and with Doc Martins she will have to stand at the back of the pictures. Could you talk her into a blazer over the top and a scarf for the photos??

Of course, at 16 you could tell her how much you like it and think it will look great. Bound to put her off!

celyn90

skylight wrote: »

She is 16 and knows best!!

I agree

My sister frequently had green hair at that age - don't fight it; just let her be who she is growing up to be. I think she is making an effort by finding something suitable for a wedding that doesn't compromise her style. I bet you'd miss her if she wasn't there. cel x

epsilondraconis

Would it be possible to compromise with her so that she doesn't have to wear a dress, but you can help her choose her outfit so the colours more closely match those associated with your wedding?

Hope it all works out.

ellies_angel

could she need be pursuaded to wear something just for the formal photos and then change into something she likes for the meal

carole.uk

agree with all the above most inportant thing is that she is there with the rest of your family and let's be honest in 10 years time all the wedding photos are going to look pretty dated and you will all laugh at what everyone was wearing or their hairstyles on the day .. relax and enjoy your it

Stardust

What about a shirt instead of a long sleeved top, in a colour that matches the Bridemaids outfits / your theme?

White_Sapphire

I actually really like the outfit! It is smart, and there is nothing wrong with trousers at a wedding.

As other posters have said, it's much better for your sister to wear something she will be comfortable in and so enjoy herself at your wedding. What do you want your memories of your sister on your wedding day to be: her smiling and having a good time, or scowling cos she's in an outfit she doesn't feel comfortable with? At the end of the day, she's not your bridesmaid so you can't tell her what to wear.

As an aside, I am seriously considering letting my MOH (who loves waistcoats and is not particularly girly) wear a waistcoat as part of her outfit - I'd much rather she wore something that is 'her' than put her in a big dress she'll hate and never wear again.

POPPYOSCAR

Personally it would be more important to me that the people I love and care about are there at the wedding.I would not care what they were wearing.

Some of the most enjoyable and most memorable weddings I have been to have not been the most expensive, or smartest, but the ones where the atmosphere has been of love and fun! They have tended to also be the ones where the marriages have lasted.

Forget about what she plans to wear and concentrate on how you want to look.

Hope you have a great day!!

flower10

She is refusing to wear a shirt, she's found a white long sleeved t-shirt top. The above trousers are black super skinny jeans- i'm not convinced jeans are appropriate for a wedding, even though they are black, but don't think I have any choice. I'm surprised my dad has allowed her to wear jeans as he initially said no denim (he paid for them).

May ask about a blazer though, currently her only coat is a mens checked fleece jacket. She wouldn't wear a scarf, and is too short to stand at the back!