Weekly Flylady Thread 17th January 2011

msgnomey

not done much today wmx2 and tdx2 washing folded, washed up cleaned bathroom that's about it vvvvv tired (long stressful week but nothing compared to some flyladies) hugs spoons and sticks all round
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helen_jelly

Spoke to DS tonight as he had tummy ache!! He has been at his Dad's today so tonight at bedtime was the first chance to sit and talk - I kept in mind what you have all told me and discussed things with him. He cried alot but the end result is that he will be able to open up more now [even shed a tear or 2 myself], he understands about what is wrong with Grandad and what the hospital are trying to do and that it may or may not work but that only time will tell, explained alot about body functions! and about feelings and tummy aches and earaches!
Thank you for the support - it helped

Helen x

Valli

well doen Helen - his tummy ache is probably (as I'm sure you realise) - a manifestation of his anxiety/stress. Don't feel bad about crying too - you're teaching him that it's perfectly fine/normal/acceptable to be sad and upset. Part of life's rich tapestry - unfortunately.
One thing I have never ever done nor will I do is make certain 'promises' to kids - so when my kids got separation anxiety and wanted me to promise I would never leave them I didn't - what I did say was that if I had a choice I would stay with them always and I would not want to leave them - just in case the unthinkable happened. And I promised them that they would always be looked after and loved. But not in my power to promise to stay.

toottifrootti

Just popped in to add

pigpen My condolences to OH and his family -Hugs to you & OH - I am glad it was a peaceful passing.

AnWsMum, A & W You know I have been with you in thought all day and I am glad the panto went well - Well done to W for his swimming:T

Helen J I am pleased to see you have been able to get DS to talk a little - its a lot for a young one to take in and cope with - huge squishy (((hugs))) for you and all the family - I hope your Dad is still fighting.

Gratefulforhelp lots of (((hugs))) and prayers to you and and all the family at this difficult time- be sure to take care of yourself too. the pup looks gorgeous:D

LadyL hello angel - special love and hugs right back at you xxx sorry I havent been in touch- but still thinking of you xxxx

Boddy (((hugs))) and special thoughts and strength as you carry on with the changes to your life. xx
Kazw - hope you are more comfortable by the morning (((hugs)))

Sunnygirl (((hugs))) and lots of love for you all as well

It is inevitable that we will have spells of 'darkness' on the thread but as the lovely Valli said it will make each of us stronger - in times of trouble we all find strength to cope in our own way even though we cant always see it.

May whoever or whatever you believe in tonight watch over you all and bring you comfort and a peaceful night.

Love and hugs to you all
toots xx

Dippypud

Hugs and prayers to HelenJ and her DS, may your dreams be soft and light.

Take care, stay safe.

froddington

Just popping in to send love, hugs and prayers to AnW and A and W - glad you had a good time at the panto and congrats to W on his swimming badge x

Also, thoughts and prayers for pigpen, Helen and Grateful and families x

And love and hugs for Toots and L-L x


I have done 2 x 60 in 60 today and things look a bit better for it. I have also done some washing, some sorting of paperwork and general kitchen flying.

Dippypud

Someone slap me, please...



reading thru fred...


an' I thought it was MONDAY tomorrow. :eek::eek:


Harder....:o


No good, I'm still a thicky...daydreaming...twerp

pigpen

Helen.. I am glad you got to speak to DS and maybe open up a little.. he will think on it and process the information over the next few days so expect some very bizarre questions.. I really hope you have taught him something he can carry throughout his life and he will have taken a big step developmentally in his social skills. You being saddened in front of him will show him it is ok to be upset, he will be taking cues from you so if you try not to show unpleasant emotions in front of him he will do the same but he won't realise they need to be expressed.. looking at pictures of grandad and talking about him when he was well is a good way of opening floodgates for emotion.

I know this isn't appropriate now but when any relative passes on I have found it is very meaningful to ask the children if there is anything they would like which would paricularly remind them of their loved ones.. however silly it is.. my mother has my grans hairnet and clips, one of my sisters has her slippers, the other has one of her vests and an old biscuit tin.. I am weird apparently.. I didn't want anything but her back yet I was given a ring, which I don't want so it is stuffed in a box or a drawer somewhere in the house.. it means nothing to me, it is a 'thing' Yet, New Year while they are all out partying I am the one blubbering over my lack of phone call... Just expressing a thought due to todays experience here.. with OH alarmingly not expressing anything.. just manifesting as a major case of the shakes and a bit of grumpiness.. why can he not just strop and cry like the rest of us?

gratefulforhelp_2

He's in posession of a Y chromosome! Hugs piggers so sorry for your loss.

hex2

pigpen wrote: »

with OH alarmingly not expressing anything.. just manifesting as a major case of the shakes and a bit of grumpiness.. why can he not just strop and cry like the rest of us?

His way of coping - same as mine. I hope he is ok. If he is anything like me then it is best to leave him to get on with it, poking fingers in the hole for a reaction does not help. Dealing with practicialities may help as it is an outlet for the emotional stress.

helenjelly, big coping vibes for you and our family, and for you and yours Grateful

This place is still a pit. I went to look at a tiny house with my sister yesterday, and now I have small house cleaning envy :cool:. I just need to keep plodding on, and maybe up the pace a little.

ETA - love the photo grateful, and I hope you got some sleep eventually