Son in Residential School

Blackpool_Saver

cheekipixi wrote: »

Hello,

My son has ADHD, ODD, learning difficulties, dyslexia and severe behavioural problems and is highly medicated he is nearly 11yrs old.

He is terrified of everything, dogs, cats, strange noises and thinks he is going to be taken away all of the time. This school also helps children with these kinds of difficulties.

has anyone mentioned aspergers syndrome as this does sound like it?

Also re the clothing, my son would push holes through his and eat away at the cuffs .....

paddedjohn

kazzah60 wrote: »

yes- and in time hopefully your sisters baby will grow up and be independent and be able to dress itself, feed itself, wash itself, go to regular school, walk to and from school itself - children who have no disabilities or special needs naturally GROW UP and grow independent

some children sadly are NEVER able to lead an independent life

if you read the original post properly the OP is asking whether she needs to inform the DWP that she is no longer caring for her son after school each day - she is not asking for extra money

I assume you sister won't be claiming child benefit or child tax credits for "looking after her baby" then?

Ive read and reread the opening post and cant find any reference to any of the above.
And yes she will claim family allowance because every child in the uk is entitled to it.

SingleSue

DLA care is not a payment for the carer but goes to cover the extra costs a disability can cause. This can be from extra washing (over and above that normally expected from a child of a similar age), special foods, replacement of items broken, therapies etc.

A child with behavioural problems...and believe me, an awful lot come under this umbrella term, are disabled. We are not talking about a child who has had a lack of parenting but a child who has something wrong...as my middle son says, his brain is wired up differently to other children.

At 11 years of age, they are no longer small, they are no longer light, they can have the strength of 10 men and any outbursts (if that is what they have), can be extremely frightening and yes, it bloody hurts.

The needs of these children are not the same needs of other children of the same age...they are additional needs over and above the normal stuff. Needs which can leave their carer without sleep for days or weeks, needs which can leave their carer bruised and battered, needs which can cause their carer to have a complete physical and mental breakdown as it is a never ending process of hard work.

As the saying goes "Walk a day in their shoes".....and you may actually get an idea of how much extra work it is to have a child who has differing needs to that of a 'normal' child.

Blackpool_Saver

SingleSue wrote: »

outbursts (if that is what they have), can be extremely frightening and yes, it bloody hurts.

The needs of these children are not the same needs of other children of the same age...they are additional needs over and above the normal stuff. Needs which can leave their carer without sleep for days or weeks, needs which can leave their carer bruised and battered, needs which can cause their carer to have a complete physical and mental breakdown as it is a never ending process of hard work.

As the saying goes "Walk a day in their shoes".....and you may actually get an idea of how much extra work it is to have a child who has differing needs to that of a 'normal' child.

Oh yes, I can vouch for that ....

devizes18193

paddedjohn wrote: »

But he's not disabled, hes got 'naughty boy syndrome' and he's not going to be there for 5 days of the week.

My son has ADHD, ODD, learning difficulties, dyslexia and severe behavioural problems and is highly medicated he is nearly 11yrs old.

the child must be bad to of been offered a place in a residential school and I feel for the op as we have problem with my son .
The naughty boy syndrome bit paddle jhon doesn't exist and only goes to show your lack of feeling and understanding of the subject , so before you post slagging people off , research your subject 1st. show it to us ???Now if im wrong i will of course apologize.

kazzah60

paddedjohn wrote: »

Ive read and reread the opening post and cant find any reference to any of the above.
And yes she will claim family allowance becauseevery child in the uk is entitled to it.

well not for much longer - those children in families of high earners won't be entitled to it

what i cannot understand is that if you accept that "every child in the uk is entitled to it" you clearly have some understanding that caring for a child comes with extra costs

so why can you not accept that disabled children can incurr even MORE costs?

and as one poster has said - the money is NOT for the mother it is to cover the extra costs associated with caring for a disabled child.
IF the mother chose to NOT to care for her child and placed him into the " care system" - I can assure you that someone would be paid a HUGE amount of money to care for him - much more than the mother who will receive £53 per week to care for the child.

Indie_Kid

devizes18193 wrote: »

the child must be bad to of been offered a place in a residential school and I feel for the op as we have problem with my son .

Exactly. It's not something that you can just ask for and get given with no problems.