Son in Residential School

Indie_Kid

paddedjohn wrote: »

"Can anyone please help me with the money side of things, my son receives DLA - high rate care and low rate mobility, I receive his family allowance and child tax credit, I still do his washing, still have to attend many meetings for him and therapy, and when he does come home at weekends I still need to have a busy schedule for him, he still breaks things that need replacing, he loses coats, jumpers etc, the only difference is he sleeps at the school 4 nights per week."

IVE JUST READ YOUR POST AND CANT UNDERSTAND WHY YOU FEEL YOU NEED EXTRA CASH TO DO THINGS FOR YOUR SON THAT OTHER MOTHERS AND FATHERS UP AND DOWN THE COUNTRY DO DAY IN DAY OUT FOR NOTHING. HE'S YOUR SON SO WHY SHOULD YOU BE PAID TO DO HIS WASHING AND ATTEND TO HIS GENERAL WELFARE. THE WORLD IS GOING MAD

Some disabled people need their clothes changed quite often; therefore, more washing and quite often, replacement of clothes.

jennie-jack

Go away john, you have no idea.

kazzah60

paddedjohn wrote: »

But he's not disabled, hes got 'naughty boy syndrome' and he's not going to be there for 5 days of the week.

and some children need supervision 24 hours a day to avoid them injuring themselves or others, some children need feeding, washing, changing, washing and drying hair, cutting finger nails, toe nails, being given medication etc etc etc


I suspect ( from your comments) you have little or no idea of the amount of time and energy it takes to care for a disabled person so for that reason my advice to you is the old adage
" better to keep quiet and let people assume you are an idiot, than to open your mouth and prove it!

paddedjohn

kazzah60 wrote: »

and some children need supervision 24 hours a day to avoid them injuring themselves or others, some children need feeding, washing, changing, washing and drying hair, cutting finger nails, toe nails, being given medication etc etc etc


I suspect ( from your comments) you have little or no idea of the amount of time and energy it takes to care for a disabled person so for that reason my advice to you is the old adage
" better to keep quiet and let people assume you are an idiot, than to open your mouth and prove it!

but he's not disabled, he has got behavioural problems which are being dealt with for 5 days of the week and 2 days by the mother. my sister has just had a baby and she has got extra washing to do, baby needs bathing, changing, feeding,winding, clinic appointments etc and she doesnt think to herself 'i wonder who is going to give me some extra cash for looking after my own kid'.
perhaps the op can get a part time job to fund the work she does for her child, she has got all week while her son is in school after all.

SingleSue

You have no idea paddedjohn......really, unless you have knowledge of what life is like with children like this, it would be best if you held off commenting.

Indie_Kid

paddedjohn wrote: »

but he's not disabled, he has got behavioural problems which are being dealt with for 5 days of the week and 2 days by the mother. my sister has just had a baby and she has got extra washing to do, baby needs bathing, changing, feeding,winding, clinic appointments etc and she doesnt think to herself 'i wonder who is going to give me some extra cash for looking after my own kid'.
perhaps the op can get a part time job to fund the work she does for her child, she has got all week while her son is in school after all.

It's not just behaviour problems. The OP said that her child is also Dyslexic - that has nothing to do with behaviour.

What you've just listed is what every parent has to do for a non-disabled baby. It would be different if the child was several years older.

kazzah60

paddedjohn wrote: »

but he's not disabled, he has got behavioural problems which are being dealt with for 5 days of the week and 2 days by the mother. my sister has just had a baby and she has got extra washing to do, baby needs bathing, changing, feeding,winding, clinic appointments etc and she doesnt think to herself 'i wonder who is going to give me some extra cash for looking after my own kid'.
perhaps the op can get a part time job to fund the work she does for her child, she has got all week while her son is in school after all.

yes- and in time hopefully your sisters baby will grow up and be independent and be able to dress itself, feed itself, wash itself, go to regular school, walk to and from school itself - children who have no disabilities or special needs naturally GROW UP and grow independent

some children sadly are NEVER able to lead an independent life

if you read the original post properly the OP is asking whether she needs to inform the DWP that she is no longer caring for her son after school each day - she is not asking for extra money

I assume you sister won't be claiming child benefit or child tax credits for "looking after her baby" then?

paddedjohn

sh1305 wrote: »

It's not just behaviour problems. The OP said that her child is also Dyslexic - that has nothing to do with behaviour.

What you've just listed is what every parent has to do for a non-disabled baby. It would be different if the child was several years older.

And every parent has to care for their kids regardless of their needs, if the child was several years older then i would agree that extra help was needed if she couldnt cope but he is still a kid.
If the child was in a wheelchair or had other dietry or mobility problems then i would happilly agree that help was needed but we are talking about day to day needs of a child, the same day to day needs that all children need.

Blackpool_Saver

John, PLEASE refrain from commenting on a subject about which you clearly have no proper understanding.

Indie_Kid

paddedjohn wrote: »

but we are talking about day to day needs of a child, the same day to day needs that all children need.

The child is on high rate care DLA. The DWP / DLA unit agree that the child has care needs above the average 11 year old.