Wedding Problem-Registrar

hornet30

Wondered if anyone could help me? My fiancee and I have all but set a date for our wedding. We have found the venue which has a liscence for civil ceremonies. Today I called to arrange the registrar for the civil ceremony. They told me they could do the day, but could only do it at 12.30 or 3.30pm. We were hoping for a 2.00pm ceremony, so I wondered if it is possible to get another registrar in from a different register office that isn't local to the venue??

If anyone has any advice on this it would be much appreciated!!

iamana1ias

Don't think you can, no.

anderson8

iamana1ias wrote: »

Don't think you can, no.

yup im pretty sure it needs to be a registrar from the district the wedding is taking place in.
if youre in Scotland you could get a humanist minister to marry you

ellay864

It has to be a registrar in the district you're in as far as I know, and many get very booked up. You can book up to a year in advance, in some areas like where I'm getting married they let you put a date down 2 years in advance, so the popular days and times will go quickly.
If you want to get any more comments from people who may have been in a similar position try going on the wedding forum - we're a very friendly bunch in there...and once you have set your date you'll find LOADS of advice for absolutely everything to do with weddings
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/forumdisplay.php?f=142

huskypup

Hi

Or you could do what we did, we got married at the Registry Office the day before at 0900am!!! no dresses no flowers, just two witnesses who were there to register there baby!! - said the words and signed the book. The dogs were in the car waiting for us to drop them off at the kennels.

The next day was our wedding day - we had a humanist celebrant marry us and she was lovely - she wrote the ceremony just for us - she mentioned our lives and the children and the dogs!!! the children read a poem, my friends sang a song, we had a register made - which we signed as did the childen and our friends, we signed underneath our vows that we wrought ourselves.

Later the day the register/guest book was left out, for all our friends and family to write in.

The registrar is only there too peform the legal bit.

Friends at our wedding didn't have a clue that we were technically already legally married.

Plus the ceremony felt so much more personnel, as no-one else will ever say the words we said to each and the words that the humanist celebrant said to us.

clearing_out_my_pockets

huskypup wrote: »

Friends at our wedding didn't have a clue that we were technically already legally married.

Does this mean that every year your friends (and maybe even some family) get your wedding anniversary wrong?

Out of interest, which one do you celebrate?

huskypup

We celebrate the day of the ceremony, did try for two presents one each day from HB but he wouldn't have it - lol.

We don't think of the registry office bit as our wedding - we just had to appear there to fill in some forms - the registrar said it was actually quite normal what we were doing - especially with other faiths and religions, we choose a humanist wedding not because of religon - but because we were making a committment to each other and no-one or nothing else, in fact my HB son (8 at the time) gave his dad to me - not the other way around.

If we receive anything from friends or family they send it to us using the date of the ceremony.

rachbc

yep we did the humanist thing - we celebrate our ceremony rather than legal contract day, though I to tried and failed for 2 pressies!

if you are dead set on 2 o'clock then think thats the only way to go

bylromarha

huskypup wrote: »

We celebrate the day of the ceremony, did try for two presents one each day from HB but he wouldn't have it - lol.

We don't think of the registry office bit as our wedding - we just had to appear there to fill in some forms - the registrar said it was actually quite normal what we were doing - especially with other faiths and religions, we choose a humanist wedding not because of religon - but because we were making a committment to each other and no-one or nothing else, in fact my HB son (8 at the time) gave his dad to me - not the other way around.

If we receive anything from friends or family they send it to us using the date of the ceremony.

I'm part of a large happy clappy church and having a civil ceremony the day before the real wedding is very normal for us. Loads of my friends have legally wed in jeans.:D One couple even got married a week before at the registry office.

OP - if you are dead set on 2pm, do you have anyone with gravitas that could perform a marriage service for you? It would be easy enough to find a service on t'internet.

Torry_Quine

bylromarha wrote: »

I'm part of a large happy clappy church and having a civil ceremony the day before the real wedding is very normal for us. Loads of my friends have legally wed in jeans.:D One couple even got married a week before at the registry office.

OP - if you are dead set on 2pm, do you have anyone with gravitas that could perform a marriage service for you? It would be easy enough to find a service on t'internet.

I must be thick but why do they need a civil ceremony? Doesn't your church marry people?

hermanmunster_3

There are 2 ways to marry - by registrar or church of england clergy.
In some cases the clergyman of another denomination can act as the registrar (or a registrar can be present)- if they can't then the couple marry elsewhere first.
The 2 services have slightly different wording - CofE doesn't use surnames etc.

http://www.weddingguideuk.com/articles/legal/englandwales.asp#vows