May 2012 Brides (and Grooms) + Diary of a 2012 Bride

xtinkersx

WOW not been on here for a few months with the house move cake business etc but glad to see so many may brides !!! will catch up soon, so I have a date twin? (19th) x

ruthybabs

Have spent a lovely afternoon with MIL2B! She came up and we have had a great afternoon chatting about the wedding with her loving most of my ideas and being really enthusiastic-complete contrast to yesterday!

She ironed all my clothes ready to pack (off in the wee small hours to see H2B for a few days) and we had a bottle or two of wine and an M&S dine in meal. No kids to interrupt the proceedings (usually only see her with my kids or nephews in the way) led to a lovely civilised afternoon. V V happy!

She was even interested in booking the hen and suggested a theatre trip (I am very against pink tutus/l plates/ pub crawl-lovely if that's your thing, but really not at all mine!) Will look into it some more.

Also have decided to ask my sister and his sister to be bridesmaids-had originally asked them to be witnesses but feeling a bit sad that only have children. (Hoping they'll buy their own dresses though!)

Heading off in the morning to spend some time with H2B, but looking forward to reading all your news when I get back
xxxxx

MsShopper

Just wanted to backtrack on everyone's news amid the lovely 'how we met' stories…

Ruthybabs, how funny - I didn't realise I'd gone and booked the exact same photo booth! I've found their customer service brilliant too. I'm hoping the guests get into the spirit of it all and we end up with a hilarious guestbook with their pics.

Sorry to hear your mum's not being that helpful re the wedding, though great that she's looking after your brood so you can go see your OH in the sun! And it sounds like your MIL2B is an absolute star. Mine is lovely too - I consider myself very lucky to be joining such a fab family.

It's lovely that you're going to ask your sis and your OH's sis to be bridesmaids - I've really enjoyed sharing the wedding details with my adult BMs. And as for dresses, there's always Olokia's find: the Bon Prix sale!

Poppleminster, I'd also love to read your humorous guides. Do you have them published on a blog or anything? Though I can't see why you couldn't post them on here - it's not like you're asking for payment! And congrats on the baby-on-board by the way! So you'll have a little seven-month-old guest of honour on your big day. Lovely!

Ickle yoga, I *love* that gold bra. Your H2B's eyes will be popping out of his head I bet! I'm looking forward to picking out my undies once my dress has arrived and I can decide whether it will work with my preferred choice: a proper bridal corset. I've never worn a corset before and want to see if it can really shave 4cm off my waist!

Hope you're all having a brill weekend. xx

ickle_yoda

xtinkersx wrote: »

WOW not been on here for a few months with the house move cake business etc but glad to see so many may brides !!! will catch up soon, so I have a date twin? (19th) x

Hello!! I was wondering where you'd disappeared to just a few hrs ago! How are you?

Poppleminster

Here is one of my guides written by me but taken from a post I wrote on another forum. HOW TO DEAL WITH THE GUESTS YOU DON'T REALLY WANT TO INVITE.

We're all going through it. The group can be split into two camps.

Those we've never heard of, let alone met and would really prefer to keep it that way and the persons we have nothing in common with and no desire to pay £30 a head to feed.

and

Those so embarrasingly, cringeworthily not fitting in it will be painful and possibly cruel to include them on the guest list but guilt of being politically incorrect forces us to invite anyway.


For the first camp, these seem to consist largely of mother or MIL's friends, relatives you last saw at a wedding when you were six and you all stood in embarrased silence trying to remember each others names and the dreaded, dreaded work colleagues you really don't want there but can't not invite for political reasons.

The second camp are slightly harder to deal with. At least the first lot may blend in enough to be insignificant in the photos but camp two cannot easily be hidden. Abuthnold from IT who you know will ignore the black & white theme and turn up in a yellow pringles sweater, bright enough to blind the photographer if they use flash, and the children of your bestest friend who whilst herself may be lovely, appears to have bred mini-rap star wannabe spice girls that want to be bridesmaids wearing platform wheelie trainers and FCUK T shirts with neon rara skirts. Then you have the geeks. They appear normal until they open their mouths. You can only hope and pray lots that your h2b's best mans new girlfriend doesn't get near a drop of alcohol since it turns her from just about dressed to pretty much entirely naked and begging to be taken to bed by him and anyone else she can get to go with them at which point he always makes polite excuses, throws a large coat over her and puts her in a corner until home time. The friend with the terrible laugh that breaks into a snort which causes you to spit out anything in your mouth if you're drinking, the child that you just know will chew gum and not being able to place in under a chair as you have them covered, will stick it into great-aunty Ethels beehive hairdo? How about the friend of a friend who you didn't think you invited but there she is, in every single photograph?

So. We all have them. Embarrassing guests. This causes one to ponder, are WE embarrassing guests? Do our friends and relatives fear our arrival at social events? Do they notice the way we shift akwardly away at the first sign of photos, push around the food on the plates as we just don't 'do' seafood or manage to be wearing the same dress as the mother of the bride? Hmmm. Maybe a little tolerance is required.

So camp one are easy. You can either refuse to feed them and keep them on a table in the corner with a large plaque saying ' No, we don'tknow who this lot are either', or you can feed them to lions prior to the service and therefore eliminate the need to cope with them at all OR you can just forget they exist, smile weetly, comment on how lovely it is to see them and leg it over to the more important perons. Harsh but so true! Besides, they might have got you a nice present. As long as they buy you something worth the value of their food you'll be happy.

Second camp.
Idea one: Buy a large cardboard cutout photograph of vastly more attractive, desirable guests (you can include the odd superstar here for goodwill and to make you look good - just ensure they aren't wearing the same dress as anyone you know and if they are that you airbrush it to add cellulite to them). Place the geeky crowd together in one place and use the cutout as a room divider. You'll never know they are there!

Idea two: Make them all sit with your MIL. This will do two things - it will kepp them busy and keep her busy leaving you to sit with your closer, more acceptable friends and forget they are there at all.

Idea three: The fake wedding. Get a lookalike. Invite them to the 'wedding' at a different venue, pay lots of money for them to be there and not even realise it's not you. This plan may be the best option for those minted enough to go through with it.

So. There we are. A few sensible ideas of how to rid your wedding of undesirable persons with quirky mannerisms, bad breath or innappropriate attire

MsShopper

Ha ha, thanks Poppleminster! You've made me assess my guest list to figure out if I have any of those two types on there! (I can think of one or two at least!)

Olokia

I met my OH 8 years ago when I was 16 and he was 17. It was the 3rd day into my new college and he was in his last year. I was at a boarding school so from that day on we spent every day together when we could. He then moved to university while I did my last year of college. As I only had every 3rd weekend at home and I also had to see my parents, I only saw him for 2 days every 2 months. After that year I moved down there to live with him.

We started talking about marriage quite early on but felt we were a little young and about 3 months before he proposed, we were talking about marriage again and went to look at engagement rings so he would have an idea about what ring I would like. I must have been indecisive because he bought a cheap ring to propose with. (I didn't know this)

We went on holiday to New York and on the 3rd day after visiting the statue of liberty he asked if I wanted to go on a horse and carriage ride in central park because I like horses. He then surprised me with his proposal which I can't actually remember because I was so surprised . He whispered it because he didn't want the carriage driver to hear lol. The shops had closed by then so first thing we did the next morning was to go to Tiffany's and choose my ring. We picked it up on the last day of being in New York and then found out the bank had blocked our card because of the ring purchase. :rotfl: We had to quickly find a HSBC and get them to unblock it because we needed to buy our train tickets to Washington DC.

Poppleminster

How cool is that? Not the bit about having the card blocked but all the rest! A really lovely way to get engaged. I have to admit that I am not exactly engaged. We just booked the wedding and haven't got engaged officially! Not quite sure why, i'm sure there was a reason. I didn't want a big fuss with a ring etc as i'll never wear more than one ring anyway, so it may as well be a wedding one. We're far too romantic a lot of the time anyway so he'd have to do something really amazing to top how he normally is LOL.

Olokia

I just received two weddingy things in the post :j

First was my bridesmaid dresses. They are slightly darker lilac than I wanted and the fabric is not quite the same as I imagined but they were only £9.95 each and the only other dress that matched what I wanted was £200.

Second was part of my favours. I like jam making and I thought it would be nice to give two 45g jam jars of home made jam to everybody. So 126 jam jars arrived for £30. I have a crab apple tree in my front garden so one of the jars will be crab apple jelly and the other I will decide when I find out what is available at the pick-your-own farm.

We probably have found our band and we will start cake tasting soon. Next month will be menu tasting.

Poppleminster

I LOVE the jam idea Not had crab apple jelly since my granny was around! Yummy!