Missy Moo's No Messin Money Saving adventure!

kavics17

missymoo81 wrote: »

decluttering hasn't been going too well, haven't been sleeping very well at all and am just not with it, The dr has signed me off work for a cple of weeks to let me rest and recoup. Im hoping that i will feel a lot more with it by the end of this week so will be able to start my decluttering then!

Hope you're ok Missy. PM me if you want to chat, I'm usually here:o. Try to take it easy, xxx

missymoo81

Ok fiiiinnaaaaallllly I can tell you, in case you haven't guessed, I'm pregnant!!! :T :j(oooh best not jump too much baby will be bouncing about!!!) soo thrilled, but didn't want to tempt fate and say anything before my scan, but have just had my scan and I have a little moo growing away Just wanted to share my happy news yyyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyy!!! OH is away but have emailed him through the picture he is over the moon bless him.

kavics17

Oooohhhh, I long guessed:D.

Huge,huge congratulations!!! When is baby moo due?

missymoo81

I'm sure most people did but i didnt want to say anything just in case, am just so happy.

Am celebrating with a happy meal watching bridget jones!

scubaangel

Congrats Missy! x

missymoo81

aww thanks scuba hun! Have so much to sort out and plan for, its crazy really, need to evaluate everything and try and get everything paid off in time for maternity leave so much to think about!

missymoo81

oooh its due middle of november kavics! so a third of the way through already, x

missymoo81

Ladies I have a problem, I've been trying to convince OH to move closer to both of our families, both live about 35 minutes away. But there are no really nice houses in our price range. I want to move because when OH is away I get rather lonely and worry that I would feel even worse when baby is born, so i stay around my dads sometimes and have the loveliest of times and really enjoy myself and feel really chiled out and happy.

The thing is I dont know whether moving over that way would give me the same kind of happiness. I think a lot of the way I feel is to do with being in a house where there's lots going on and there are people, as there is always something going on at dads. I wonder if I would just feel the same as I do here in another house closer as I would still be by myself most of the time, and I doubt I would see them any more if I lived closer. And here is very handy for jumping on the bus to the city. But then if I lived closer I would only have a ten minute journey to see family rather than a good 35minutes from here, so would maybe see some people more often. But then the closest town to dads etc isnt very nice and its where i grew up and hate bumping in to people from school.

I just dont know what to do for the best, but I need to make a decision soon as if we are going to move we are going to have to do it soon!

Sorry for rambling am just a bit lost.

kavics17

Oh Missy, can't give you really advice as I'm in similar shoes. But! Consider these options:

-financially is it the the right time to move or not, can you put down a deposit, can you sell your current home (not sure whether you're owning or renting)
-will your family have time for you and baby as much as they have now? My sister found that my parents spend the same amount of time with grandchildren-doesn't matter how close they live to them
-how about nurseries, schools, work? will it be further where you are now? Hospital? Surgery? etc?
-would you be able to make friends in new area? NCT groups are a great way to make new friends with new mums with similar aged babies

I came to an agreement with OH to stay where we are at the moment for time being just because of financial reasons-we pay really a low amount for rent and wherever we move in London or out of London it would be just higher. But we will renegotiate the terms once I'm pregnant and we grow out of our 1 bed flat. Family is far away anyway, and friends too but I think this is life, you can't rely on them as much as you could in your early twenties. They all have families and commitments, it's hard to socialize nowadays. I am lucky as I work with 2 friends of mine so see them every day but neither of us have time or energy in the evenings to go out. Sorry for mumbling, I should really work not waste time on MSE

missymoo81

Oh kavics hun, bless you taking the time to reply in such detail!! And please do waste away your time on here, keep me company!

You've made some fantastic points which I really need to consider, we own not rent and would have to sell this house to move to another, but the estate agent said as it is a very unique house that it would sell no problem.

We only have about £160,000 mortgage on a £385,000 house. Financially it would cost us more to move and the houses I have looked at have been up there in the £400,000s but I guess then there's stamp duty on top and moving etc. But the houses I have looked at have had more land and not on a main road. But are probably still 15 minutes or so from my dads. I have no friends here to be honest as, as you know I used to work away, I have friends at work, but it is the same distance to the new area as to the old area from work as it is bang in the middle. I know that having a baby means I will undoubtably make more friends going to ante natal classes and I'm going to join a yoga class etc. The hospital in my opinion is better here too as is the doctors, OH's mum is going to be our babysitter too.

I guess it comes down to as you say, would I see the family more if i lived closer. I go round there maybe twice a week when OH is away, and probably once a week when hes home. But then if I had friends I probably wouldnt rely on family so much. i think I rely on them more to keep me company as I am yet to make friends. I guess I worry when I am on my years maternity then I'm only going back to work part time if they'll have me that i will have so much more time to just sit by myself and I don't want to spend my whole time driving backwards and forwards to where my family is most days.

I guess I should sit and write a pros and cons list. I guess its difficult as Im just trying to do what's right!