Troublesome Neighbours - How Do You Deal With Them?

Horasio

bootman wrote:

I moved to a detached house thinking that would end problem neighbours but oh no! Why do I always seem to move next to ones with out of control kids all the time. Parents that are never there parties through till 3or 4 am sometimes. Next house I want to be in the middle of a field with only cows mooing to complain about. Thats my plan anyway!

That sounds just like us and our dream to be away from other noisy obnoxious people too

Horasio

After all the trouble they caused, we never got the bill put thro the door tonight as they said they would.

We are going away this weekend and worried their psycho kids might move in whilst they are away and make our life a misery or attack our property whilst we are away.

loveandlight

Oh CCStar, I can sooo identify with your suffering. We also have problem neighbours. Without exaggeration, we have not had one night of undisturbed sleep for the past six months and my health has now deteriorated as a result.

Our problem is not as bad as yours but we have put our place on the market for sale and we too don't feel able to report our problem anywhere for fear that it will jeopardise our sale.

We have tried speaking to our neighbours ( the last time being a couple of days ago at two thirty in the early hours of the morning) their 16 month old baby was crying loudly as usual ( non-stop every night from about 2/3am for about 5-6 hours) and all they do is shrug their shoulders and tell us there's nothing they can do, he's just a baby. He also bangs on the pipes and radiators alot so we can be lying there in bed asleep and woken up with sudden loud banging day and night. The parents are also very, very noisy. Day and night.

No-one will help us because of the baby. Everyone takes their side and says he's a baby. Which means we have to wait until he grows up for any hope of some peace and then what if they decide to have another one. Also they keep banging their internal doors alot as well. I don't blame the baby at all because he can't be happy if he's crying non-stop. The parents appear so respectful that to get anyone to understand what we are going through we would have to record it. There's no point now though because we just want to hurry up and move.

I plan to phone Social Services and tell them about the non-stop crying of their baby as I am concerned about him. They'll know its us as we're the only ones affected by their noise. Even our Management Committee said they didn't want to get involved.

They rent their place. We know we can complain to their landlord but we've heard he won't care as long as he gets his rent every month and I don't want anything to jeopardise our sale.

I phoned a legal helpline on Monday but the lawyer was useless. He took their side and said he's just a baby. I said yeah but you wouldn't feel like that if you weren't able to go to work because you'd not slept at all the night before and had developed Trigeminal Neuralgia as a result. This is a facial pain I now get at night as soon as they start getting noisy in the middle of the night. I get electric shock types of pain shooting down the right side of my face. I had to attend our local outpatient hospital with it a few weeks ago because I couldn't take the pain anymore.

Its also costing me money. Last Friday I missed a dental appointment because of no sleep the night before and it cost me £20.00. I also bought earplugs for £1.89 that don't work and have bought some sleep aids from Holland & Barrett for £4.99 to try and get myself to go into a deeper sleep at night.

I hope you get to sell up a.s.a.p.

It takes over your life even though you try for it not to. No-one can understand how upsetting and stressful it is until they have gone through it. Its not that you don't want to be pro-active, you just don't want to end up trapped in a place you can't sell through no fault of your own.:mad:

libitina_2

To drown out neighbours loud music, try playing opera. There's one particular song from the magic flute where the opera singer is so high pitched, she cuts through absolutely everything. We've even lent it to friends for the same reason.

Horasio

Oh CCStar, I can sooo identify with your suffering. We also have problem neighbours. Without exaggeration, we have not had one night of undisturbed sleep for the past six months and my health has now deteriorated as a result. I understand that, I am more touchy with my family and quite aggressive when I go out

Our problem is not as bad as yours but we have put our place on the market for sale and we too don't feel able to report our problem anywhere for fear that it will jeopardise our sale. I hope you manage to find a buyer - preferably one with noisy teenagers, toddlers or babies. Your problem sounds worse than ours, we get some days off but you can never predict when. Are you in a flat or an attached property? We are in a detached property and it is the noise they make in the garden that gets to us

We have tried speaking to our neighbours ( the last time being a couple of days ago at two thirty in the early hours of the morning) their 16 month old baby was crying loudly as usual ( non-stop every night from about 2/3am for about 5-6 hours) and all they do is shrug their shoulders and tell us there's nothing they can do, he's just a baby. He also bangs on the pipes and radiators alot so we can be lying there in bed asleep and woken up with sudden loud banging day and night. The parents are also very, very noisy. Day and night.

No-one will help us because of the baby. Everyone takes their side and says he's a baby. Which means we have to wait until he grows up for any hope of some peace and then what if they decide to have another one. Also they keep banging their internal doors alot as well. I don't blame the baby at all because he can't be happy if he's crying non-stop. The parents appear so respectful that to get anyone to understand what we are going through we would have to record it. There's no point now though because we just want to hurry up and move.

I plan to phone Social Services and tell them about the non-stop crying of their baby as I am concerned about him. They'll know its us as we're the only ones affected by their noise. Even our Management Committee said they didn't want to get involved.Whether or not you can hear it, the poor baby sounds neglected but some babies do cry excessively - the baby still needs some attention though. The parents sound to not care. You can ring them anonymously though. They must be used to people worrying about reprisals.

They rent their place. We know we can complain to their landlord but we've heard he won't care as long as he gets his rent every month and I don't want anything to jeopardise our sale.

I phoned a legal helpline on Monday but the lawyer was useless. He took their side and said he's just a baby. I said yeah but you wouldn't feel like that if you weren't able to go to work because you'd not slept at all the night before and had developed Trigeminal Neuralgia as a result. This is a facial pain I now get at night as soon as they start getting noisy in the middle of the night. I get electric shock types of pain shooting down the right side of my face. I had to attend our local outpatient hospital with it a few weeks ago because I couldn't take the pain anymore.

Its also costing me money. Last Friday I missed a dental appointment because of no sleep the night before and it cost me £20.00. I also bought earplugs for £1.89 that don't work and have bought some sleep aids from Holland & Barrett for £4.99 to try and get myself to go into a deeper sleep at night.

I hope you get to sell up a.s.a.p.

It takes over your life even though you try for it not to. No-one can understand how upsetting and stressful it is until they have gone through it. Its not that you don't want to be pro-active, you just don't want to end up trapped in a place you can't sell through no fault of your own

We lived in a flat, thankfully rented, where the two children ran around 24 hours a day thumping and banging about. So understand about children being a noise nuisance. I ended up taking sleeping pills for a while until we moved out.

There was no help around in the early 90s either. We called someone out but could do very little. Even now EH will be slow and it shows on the record. So much for being able to get help without it causing more trouble.

I have a child and would not let him disturb others, shame other parents can't be as responsible.

You have my sympathies. Neighbour noise must rank as one of the most evil things you have to endure.

clutton_2

my heart goes out to you.

I am a landlady and have just successfully evicted my first tenant for behaving in a manner described as above.

She was a single parent mum, who was ok at first, but who then hooked up with another single parent mum who moved in a few doors up, and whose behaviour became utterly unacceptable. As a landlady I AM LEGALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR MY TENANTS BEHAVIOUR. I received a letter from the local council telling me that neighbours had complained and asking me what was i going to do about it - the neighbours names were NOT included.

I wrote her a letter, which i hand delivered, got a signature for the letter and then discussed with her. The letter outlined some of the possible consequences of her behaviour - eviction; confiscation of music equipment; CCJ; possibly having her child taken into care if she was evicted with no other place to go as she would not get a reference from me; loss of deposit; huge bill for damage to the property etc etc.

She left of her own accord.

I had had 5 neighbours contact me telling me of the destruction of their peace and quiet, and i persuaded 4 of them to contact Social Services about the childrens welfare, as she had moved in with this other single parent. Those children are now being monitored very thoroughly, and the noise in the street has virtually gone. The street has gone back to its old quiet ways. Prior to her eviction, 3 neighbours were keeping a noise diary, and Environmental Health officers visited several times.

You must take a stand here, and refuse to be a victim to all this. Even if she Thinks its you who has reported her, she does not know. Bluff it out. Hold your head high, you have nothing to be ashamed of.

Good luck, do let us know how you get on ......:smileyhea