Tips to avoid slapping partner with a fish?

Petlamb

Okay bad title, but he's doing my head in.

Finances are a joke, we have to sit and pray the leccy doesnt get switched to a pay as you go meter (and lose our tariff etc) as we're seriously, seriously late paying (student loan money coming 10th, told them we can pay then and will pay the full balance ofc).... I now know that his old current acc bank have referred him to a DCA so he's promising that he's going to pay them off too... we have next to nothing left and a bucket of debt and he just doesn't seem to be bothered by it?!

I know everyone is different, has different boiling points and differing ways of coping, but if he says "it'll all be fine..." one more time, I may start throwing things in his direction. :mad:

Plans_all_plans

One of you is a student? If so, have you looked into the Access to Learning Fund at the University?

Petlamb

We both are, but as far as I am aware, we don't qualify for any top-up funds or grants on top of what we can have through the SLC. Thanks for the suggestion though, I'll double check. x

hot.chick

sometimes it's just a man thing.... (sorry to those men who handle their debt and have sleepless night because of it)

I could quite often swing for mine - but I love him and know it's his way of being supportive (trying to get me not to worry)

I pretty much handle the finances - it makes life easier and stops me lumping him with something heavy

One of the other boards might be able to help with your money problems - do a SOA and decide which bills need how much to be paid in which order...

Good luck, and try to smile and not go down for assulting him xx

System

Vampiric_Addiction wrote: »

We both are, but as far as I am aware, we don't qualify for any top-up funds or grants on top of what we can have through the SLC. Thanks for the suggestion though, I'll double check. x

ATL should be avialible to all students. I wasn't entitled to any grants etc but i did get some money from thATL fund.

Other suggestion would be look at the debt free wannabe board for tips on managing your debts
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/forumdisplay.php?f=76

and the old style board for tips of cutting back and saving
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/forumdisplay.php?f=33

mirrorimage0

you could always take pics of you doing it and then sell them on ebay to tp up the cash flow.lol

sorry hun but iknow exactly were you are coming from, we are skint this month and hubby keepsbuying decorating stuff saying well it has to be done at some point, and yes he is right but at some point when we havethe money would be so much better. x

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Hit him with a cheap lobster from Lidl instead?

Keith

Have a wander over to DFW and post you statement of affairs & go from there.

retireby50

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Hit him with a cheap lobster from Lidl instead?

A cheap frozen lidl lobster is a lethal weapon!!

Nutcrackers work well (on Lidl lobsters not OHs bad with money....).

mumps

I'd just hit him with the fish, won't solve anything but might make you feel better. Good luck.

BitterAndTwisted

Completely different views about money-management can be a make-or-break thing in a relationship. I wouldn't be happy being with someone who was so very Pollyanna about bills mounting up and this would be made so much worse when there's just not enough to go round.

You need to have a serious talk and get some plans in place to manage your bills and debts while you still can.