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mum2one

twinklelittlestar wrote: »

Hi all hope everyone is having a good day. Managed a few surveys today over a few sites so that all helps. Giggle found you on T, I am Tan on there. Following & rated unless I have the wrong person of course :rotfl:

Ddraig nice to see you back, sorry you seem to be having a run of bad luck.

Legend - hope litle un is feeling much better now

welcome to the thread jenny & kim

I wanted to get something off my chest that has been bothering me a bit. A couple of weeks ago it was godson's birthday. Now bearing in mind his mum and I have been good friends for about 18 years. We are godparents to both her 2 and they are godparents to our 2 children. We always invite each others children to the parties. Last year we didn't have a party for either of our children due to financial difficulties. Anyway I spoke to her just before his birthday, and she told me that her son was not having a party. She then went into detail abou what else they were doing instead of a party. I rushed his present over the day before his birthday so that he had it on the day. The day of his birthday I went onto facebook to write him a message, only to see several people had put messages telling her that they hoped he enjoyed his party and that their sons/daughters had.

I feel absolutely gutted, not that my kids weren't invited, but the fact that she has gone to such lengths to lie about it. We have known each other long enough for her to know that if my kids weren't invited due to numers or whatever I wouldn't have minded, but i cant stand lies. A couple of weeks have passed and she hasn't even rung to say thankyou for the present. I think she must know what I have read on her page, as I posted my message on there.

I dont know what to do, I dont feel I can ring her as I am still too upset, I wondered whether to send an e-mail or text but for the first time in my life I dont know what to say. What do you ladies think? I expect If I dont ring, she will just call in a few weeks and pretend it never happened.

p.s sorry for the rant

I'm sorrry but I'm with you on this, that is appealing behaviour from your friend, what ever the reason behind it, its rude among other things.
You've been good enough, on the other side of the coin is, you've know for a long time, if you say what you feel you could lose a friend, it might be worth dropping a note, on the lines, that you felt hurt over the party, as it was on facebook, and that maybe he wanted x, y and z there, but you would have preferred to hear it from her, She may feel that she's being protective by not telling the truth, but unfirtunately its back-fired.

If anything I'm in a similar situation, I've 40 next month, and my best mate shes 40, 4 days before me, her dad was great friends with my uncle, so mum grew up with him being around, then he got married, he passed away when we were 11.
We both said that we'd do something special for our 40th, we didn't really know what, then when 2 yrs ago I had the offer on Orient Express, with Sainsbury's saved 1/3, brought the tickets down to £120 each instead of £180, when i asked her if she'd like to come with me she was over the moon as I said i'd pay half of her ticket, be an early 40th, in the end I said I'd pay it, all,on the train, we chatted about what we could do for mine, (limited coz of mobility + crutches), she asked would i like ot do afternoon tea at the Ritz, could do it in a day, yep great, my bday last yr, little note in the card, haven't forget we're get the Ritz booked this yr, thought great, heard nothing else, then trying to arrange the meal, the Sunday I wanted it was her bday, thought shes a gd mate, Miss Hoodies godmother, and I'd want her there, so I booked the pub for the week before. We had a text chat about the events, she says off to London for my bday - oh great have a good time, yep we're off to the the Ritz, - I texted back, your have to bring a menu back, you know how fussy I am, can see what they do.... get a text back, oh yes, while I know I said I'd pay for the Ritz, but can't afford it, its doesn't really does it your off to the Dom Rep.
felt like screaming back yes it does matter, - scrimped the difference for Dom Rep as over half was accident money, yet every week, shes out 3 ngts in the week anything from aerobics, to drink after work, meal (posher places), most weekends shes out, every month she has, massage, facial, and every 2 months a spa day, she said the last one was £100... but she has no money.
It's not the fact of that I did that, what do I get in return, as we both said we'd make our 40th special, its the back handed and dishonest way. We usually meet up every 6 weeks for lunch, you would think she lived miles away, but walking distance is less than 5 mins.
Rant over -

mum2one

On a positive, just ordered a £15 LTS from 2loony, and £30 LTS, 8gb memory card and the meercat autobiography (for friends bday) from maximiles, - had a good clear out of points.
Mum only needs £1.70 on one-poll, and she daid I can have the £40 for dolphin fund, so all helps.
Off to bed, - taking dd and her friend out later!! (need a drink when get back!!) xx

rufusdog52

Oh dear, surprising how some so called "friends" can turn on you like that. I dont really keep in touch with any of my friends I have had in the past, I only have ExMil and one friend I used to work with who I meet up with now and then for a coffee and one other who I see once in a blue moon as she moved to the other side of the country a few years back, all my other friends are on here lol. I am quite happy with my family as my friends and my virtual friends on MSE xx.

esmer

Just a quick one, then I will post later. Awful your friend doing that mum2one!

Here are the birthday cupcakes.

Banana and White Chocolate



Chocolate



Vanilla with blue icing and chocolate stars



Chocolate



Vanilla with different icing design



Chocolate Rocky Road

twinklekat

rufusd!!!2 wrote: »

I am quite happy with my family as my friends and my virtual friends on MSE xx.

I know how you feel, I have a couple of good friends (the kind you dont speak to for an age but it doesn't matter) and my OH is my best friend, and then you lot which I'm beginning to class as friends too!

Don't worry about your rants ladies, it is easier to talk to people you don't know sometimes.

My little rant of the day, OHs son spent all of his xmas money on lego at the weekend, and we said to him that 'that would be all of his money gone and you will have to pay daddy back when we get home' etc etc and he understood that. Turns out OH has only taken £6 off him because he didn't want to take the money off him. I just don't understand it, why say that he had to pay him back when we got home if then only to take £6? How does that teach him anything? OH is rubbish with looking after his money and is not exactly teaching good habits to his son. It just really gets me as we don't have a lot of spare cash, we're trying to save for the move and wedding (and engagement ring!!) then he just flitters it about. Erghh.

twinklekat

Oh my god Esmer they are AMAZING! You and your baking abilities make me so jealous!!

claireylulu

Wow Esmer those cupcakes look lovely how can anyone eat them they look too nice to eat.

Sorry to hear people having problems with friends. I have had my good share of problems with so called friends in the past. My closest friend is my sister. She doesn't live near by (300 miles away) but we speak every day. Last year we had great fun planning her wedding now we are palnning the arrival of her baby later this year.

LJM

mum2one i hate 2 faced people like that and i know a few i would let her make the first move.esmer your cakes are fab im hungry just looking at them lol

zangels

Wow those cakes look soooo yummy!!!

Sorry for your friend being so awful, I have in the last two years made some wonderful friends. I have never had such good friends befor and they ar great. I now realise I have had awful friends in the past.
If any one is after any ski or waterfproof wear just seen on dare2b up to 70% off sale aslo a further 30% off with code and free delivery code and cashback with quidco.
Just go oh jacket and fleece, dd1 jacket , hat and gloves and the same for dd2 came to £42 delivered plus 6% quidco. :T

Skiergirl

Twinkle - I agree with what pink has suggested, I toopleo think you need to say something now rather than let it fester x

mum2one - sorry to hear about your problems x

Welcome to all the new people

Thank you to those following me on T, I've rated everyone and done the polls of those I'm following, haven't had chance to do your opinions yet though. If I've missed you, please let me know.

Esther - they look sooo good