How to deal with kids late at night in holidays

andy208833

At the moment you are letting him take charge and he is getting away with it!

Lay down some ground rules and stick to them, you are the parent not him! Let him walk all over you now and what will happen when he gets to be a surly teen?

cheepskate_2

Got to agree with Andy.

I dont think its really importaint what you do, there are a few senarios you could choose from , but it is vital that you choose one and stick to it.

At the moment you seem to be all over the place,, and must be very confusing to him what rule to follow.

pimento

Just wake him up early. Normal school time. He'll be tired by 9pm then.

MX5huggy

Ask him when he wants to stay up till, hopefully he will say all night or maybe 2am or something.

Then do it, don't let him sleep until the time he said, just keep the entertainment coming, get him up at normal time. He might learn that daddy is right about bed time.

supa-girl

Hi

Who is the parent here? No offence but I have 5 kids and if they all started messing around at bedtimes it would be chaos! :eek: Bedtime is bedtime. The older ones are allowed to read but when it's lights out that's it. If the switch their light on after that then there would be a consequence which they know and they have never done it.

I thing there is a time for compromise but when it comes to sleep and food you have to out your foot down and be the parent imo, for the childs benefit.

My advice would be to have a chat and outline what time is bedtime and what time is lights out and that there will be no more messing about. Let him know what the consequences will be and stick to it. He is likely to try it on at first and you will have to follow through but he will soon get the message.

This works for me, may not be for everyone

SG

mutley74

pimento wrote: »

Just wake him up early. Normal school time. He'll be tired by 9pm then.

Huh i wish LOL:eek:
On school days he refuses to go to bed until about 9-930ish. I put him to bed sharp 830 but as soon as i leave the room he is up. He either reads or plays in his room or mostly keeps coming downstairs to sneak up on me. Although he is trying ti get my attention by trying to be a little comedian, i sometimes ignore him and after about 20-30mins he might get the message.

sounds like i need to be stricter!

liney

mutley74 wrote: »

sounds like i need to be stricter!

Quite simply, yes you do.

Bed time is bed time. My son is not allowed out of his bedroom unless it's to the loo, and he's not allowed the light on.

I suggest this approach. 'Son I have decided your bedtime is 8.30pm - mess me about tonight (which means being out of bed after 8.30pm time bar toilet time) and tomorrow it will be 8pm ' and follow it through! 'Because you chose to ignore me last night your bed time is 8pm tonight. Carry on messing me about at it will be 7.30pm tomorrow'

Do not get cross. Warn him and follow through! I bet you don't get to 7pm bedtime

Sublime_2

I stick mine in their room, and turn the tv up, so I can't hear them. Works a treat.

cheepskate_2

mutley74 wrote: »

Huh i wish LOL:eek:
On school days herefuses to go to bed until about 9-930ish. I put him to bed sharp 830 but as soon as i leave the room he is up. He either reads or plays in his room or mostly keeps coming downstairs to sneak up on me. Although he is trying ti get my attention by trying to be a little comedian, i sometimes ignore him and after about 20-30mins he might get the message.

sounds like i need to be stricter!

You dont need to be stricter, just consistent. He comes down as he knows he will win and get to sit downstairs sometimes.

Straight back up to bed, no arguing/talking/drinks/pee/biscuit/joke or anything else of the 1001 ideas they always seem to come up with, just at bedtime. Every time he chances it , Tell him you will put him into bed 5 mins earlier the next night. You will be up and down putting him back to bed for a few nights, but it will work.

I put my son to bed, i cant decide what time he will go to sleep at , but i do expect that is where he stays.
After 1/2 hour i go and put his light out, I do know occassionally he would try and play with his little soldiers in the light of the street lights, so i got a black out blind, he didnt reallly enjoy "night manouvers" so gave up a little time later.

Kimberley82

box his ears and tell him to do as he is told