Christmas Gift for someone who has 4 weeks to live?

Sublime_2

Sorry to hear about your friend.

I lost someone (a relative), who I should have been closer to, but had not had contact with for over 16 years. I had been planning to meet up with them the year they died, we had spoken on the phone, and I was planning on introducing them to my little family. The guilt of not getting in touch sooner still haunts me.

Give them your time, best gift of all. xxx

bylromarha

My step dad was in a similar position a couple of years back.

We lived 200 miles away, so time was not something we could give easily.

We bought a LARGE digital photo frame (poor eyesight) and loaded a huge memory card with loads of photos of him with his grandkids, his grandkids playing, shots of his favourite parts of town.

He was so touched as the frame went through its first cycle he cried. We then removed the photo card and took some more photos of him cuddling the kids so there were immediate memories to leave with him too.

All the best OP.

jamespir

a video camera to film themselves saying goodbye to the family as its hard to do it face to face sometimes

henpecked1

The_Next_Verse wrote: »

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"Pyjamas with a Gift Receipt"? I hope that isn't because you intend to take them back in a couple of weeks when he has sadly passed on?

Many shops have a no quibble return policy.

thorsoak

Actually, I am in this position, with my OH, and we've got him home from hospital today - I had told the doctors that he WOULD be home for Christmas, even if I had to hijack him- and they pulled out all the stops - hospice at home, district nurses, hospital bed - the lot - so I'm very grateful for all of this. Presents for each other? Just love, talking about the good and bad times, and going over memories.

3 of our 4 children will see him just after Christmas - and he will meet his newest granddaughter (who is just 2 weeks old) - and our DD will be flying in from the US very early in the New Year.

Just to keep him for one more Christmas be enough for me - and for him - the knowledge that he has a loving family will be enough for him.

{{hugs}} to the OP

WallyBird

Everyone likes different books, but I have this on my mp3 player, and have listened to it over and over again! You can hear a sample on the site:

http://www.silksoundbooks.com/performers/oliver-cotton/the-return-of-the-native.html

It is the story of someone who returned to his native countryside (wessex), and the effect he had on everyone else there. Not all happy (well, it is Thomas Hardy), but it does have a happy ending. And you get a lot of hours. I listened on plane journeys and when I had migraines. I slept through parts too, but it didn't matter, I just started at the beginning again when I got to the end.

I have audible books too, but this is a normal mp3.

SailorSam

Many have posted to say how important it is to give your time,
i think we should remember thats the most precious thing we have, at all times, not just when a friend or relative is dying.

I_know_my_ABC_and_my_CMYK

My mother always said give flowers to the living, not just at the funeral/grave so they can be enjoyed.

gerryscot

Have you considered going on friends reunited website and finding some of his old school friends & pictures.. It might be nice for him to reminisce.

Messrs_Arthur_and_Terry

Men are always boys at heart. I would suggest buying a copy of Huckelberry Finn and reading him a chapter each day. A bit of Dickens perhaps, etc. One or two jelly beans never go astray.