12 year old son, doesnt want to go back to PWC

welsh-dragon_3

paulofessex wrote: »

Have a look at Parentline Plus not only will they be able to offer you advice and support via their free phoneline, they may be able to send your son some information written for his age group for him to read either with you or by himself.

I think the important issue is to ensure you explain to your son that you are listening to his wishes and you fully support them but it can take time to sort these things out and that it is important that things are done correctly.

Not sure how mature your son is, but perhaps agree to sit down together each 1-2 weeks to feedback to him what steps have been taken and any results, good or bad etc.

I wish you both the very best

thanks for the link,
I talk to my son a lot, and he is at an age where he understand about whats going on,, strange because he asked me to find out the law on this matter fair play to him..
to be truthful the PWC has lied a lot, and now he see that for him self.. and he has respect for me as he has told me "am not like to other dads his mates have" as we talk alot..

I am very open to him and he tells me things i wouldnt dream of telling my folks when i was his age...
thanks again

speedster

chances are your son has had no choice but grow up quick.

like my daughter, (and others i have helped) children growing up in these environments are basically robbed of their childhoods by the PWC's.

as you have an open and honest relationship with him, i would sit him down and explain to him that the law is a VERY grey area and there are no gaurantees that you would win a legal battle and cafcrap etc. the onus will be on your son to determine how this ends up, cos at 12 his wishes will play a major part in this. if he's adament he wants to come and live with you then it may end up with him just refusing to go back to his mother.

she would then have to go through court. you're more likely to win that way than going in for a RO yourself.