Summer Solstice Sensation

maman

Just a quickie LL

This is the poem you're thinking of

http://oldpoetry.com/opoem/7686-Marriott-Edgar-The-Lion-and-Albert

and I can't post photos either, just cut and paste! but I'd love to learn.

Oops! to the eggs and well done to your mse solution!

lessonlearned

That's the one, thanks.

Carmen

Good morning ladies and lurkers,
Your last few positive posts have had a lovely get up and go effect on me :j LL's decorating, Maman's shopping spree and Mrs W's gardening, well done all of you.
I have had a lovely time with my sister, the weather was superb for her stay so we made the most of it, even have a nice glow now which looks healthier than my pasty winter look :cool2: The down side of her visit was the constant supply of food and drinks a little stressful As I have mentioned before my sis relates food to happiness so, the more the better:eek: We tend to eat when we are hungry (excluding my grazing days) however we do have one main meal together a day, she has three meals a day (fine for some) BUT, it is all the in between snacks that I find difficult. Are you three a day person or what??
Today I plan to clean the windows, catch up with the ironing and do a little more decluttering :A
It has been wonderful to dine al fresco during the beautiful weather, lets hope it continues.
I have managed to lose another 2lbs:) I have also managed to get into some of my 'shrunken' clothes which has given me a boost. O/H and three friends have commented on my weight lose but I know I must not become complacent, I have a long way to go yet.
Salad with griddled endive and tortilla de patata (thanks for the idea Mrs W) for tonight.
Sorry post is all about moi

Mrs W, thanks for the BD site :T pleased to hear your O/H is starting to gain weight. Your garden lay out sounds great, it will benefit from the best of the weather.

LL, you seem as if your physio and stretches are starting to help, I hope so? Brave faces are fine for the most part but sometimes a trouble shared...etc. Congrats on getting your decorating finished, you must be looking forward to getting your summer house erected
I also bought cheaper clothes to 'make do' and it will give me great pleasure in passing them on when my 'nicer' clothes start to fit.

Maman, I hope the weather is nice for your visit to Blackpool. I went there many years ago because O/H wanted to reminis (sp) with a tram ride again, and it was cheaper than Hong Kong at the time :rotfl: Like you I love to travel, I would love to do a long rail journey one day.
Thank you for the poem, very amusing.

Ironing is waiting, must get it done before it get to hot.

Happy days

Carmen xxx

maman

Carmen wrote: »

Ironing is waiting, must get it done before it get to hot.

Happy days

Carmen xxx

I take it you meant the iron getting too hot rather than the weather!

I'm so glad your sister's visit went well and well done for managing to lose extra pounds despite the conveyor belt of food. It certainly is a good feeling getting into clothes from the back of the wardrobe!

In answer to your question: we are 3 meals a day people, well sort of, but no snacks. DH is a great believer in a good breakfast and as he also believes in making it for us I'm all for that;). We always have supper together, just one course but aways substantial and home-cooked. Lunch is a bit hit and miss. We often have different things and often at different times as and when we feel hungry but it's always something light and easy like a sandwich or a bowl of soup.

I've had a lovely day out with a friend today. We've been to Bournemouth (should have gone last week when the sun was shining) and (as well as coffee and lunch) visited the Russell-Coats museum. What an amazing place. Very quirky Victorian seaside house with some super artwork on display too, really enjoyed it.

Hope everyone is well. Catch up again soon.

lessonlearned

Hello Everyone

Well - it's been back to normal here - cold and grey.

:T Well done on the weight loss Carmen - like Maman said - especially with your entertaining. Glad you had such a nice time with your sister.

My sister was here today helping me with OH. She helped him plant some seeds in egg cartons I've been saving - very MSE - whilst I had a nice long soak in the bath, followed by a good slathering. Too cold for OH to garden outside so we've set up the dining room as a makeshift potting shed. It's been stripped out ready for painting anyway so it doesn't matter if it gets a bit messy for a week or two.

Re the three meals a day. Well I'm like that little girl in the rhyme, when I'm good, I'm very very good when I'm not ........

When I'm doing well I tend to have four or maybe five small meals - 1st breakfast is just a probiotic drink or yogurt, second breakfast is porridge or something eggy, a late light lunch (like they do in Spain - about 2 ish if possible). This stops me craving cake and goodies mid afternoon. Then dinner about 7 and a milky drink at bedtime. Usually just one course at each meal, although DS2 & OH will have a pudding or cake about and hour or so after dinner.

When I'm struggling I tend to graze all day and yet still manage to eat normal meals as well.

At the moment I'm cutting down on carbs and trying to eat some protein at every meal. It seems to be working for me - I don't feel hungry in between meals at all. If I feel a bit peckish a piece of fruit is usually enough.

I've noticed that if my diet is carb rich - then, quite apart from the IBS, I also feel very hungry within an hour or so after eating, to the point where I can feel quite light-headed.

So far reducing carbs hasn't been too much of a problem. I'm really enjoying my meals at the moment, lots of fruit and veg - still have a few potatoes (love them). Although they are still starchy carbs they don't upset me in the way wheat does.

WW weigh in tomorrow so we'll see ........

Interesting that your sister equates food with happiness - I think a lot of us can be guilty of comfort eating at times, especially when "hormonal".

Decluttered a couple of cupboards in the kitchen - it's a start.

I like Bournemouth - I've got some old family friends that live there - it's a lovely place. I love the seaside full stop. Derbyshire is lovely too but it's a long way from the sea:rotfl:

Anyway off to get my beauty sleep.

G'night all.

MrsWoolfe

Morning all!

have been busy trying to find all of our camping gear- that's the problem with moving- trying to figure out where you put everything- some was in the loft, some in the shed, and a couple of bits lurking in the pile of stuff in the spare room! oh well managed to locate most of it, apart from the lantern, will have to have a another hunt!

With the garden, it's all just ideas at the moment, I haven't costed it all up yet to see if we can afford it but then I have still got a bit of money stashed away for "house" things. the first job to do will be to repair the sad looking droppy fence at the side-and then paint all of the fence- the garden is about 65ftx30ft so it's going to be a big job! some of my morning glory seeds arrived today so will get those started in the propagator- I want to have them all the way along the fence at the moment it just looks a bit bare and boring i want flowers all the way round and have been told that morning glory is easy to grow so should be ok for a novice like me:D

some of the others(have ordered blue, black and purple varieties) will go over the two arches at the front- the front garden is quite long too about 50ft but sloping down from the house to the street (hence house on a hill:) and have put two arches in along the path and one has a purple climbing rose - or I hope it will have at the moment it's just a stick in the mud:D

Re the Food thing- I used to be a three meals a day person, but since changing eating patterns/foods I've been planning in snacks, more because the Doc was telling me off for not eating enough- once I started eating lots of pulses and seeds and grains, the not so good stuff in my diet kind of fell by the wayside because I was trying to concentrate on getting as much of the good stuff in as I could- but that then meant I was averaging out at around 900ish cals a day not good! so I started planning in good snacks- greek yogurt with some home-mixed museli, multi seeded crackers with a little bit of cheese- I realised that I don't really eat much dairy, not a big cheese eater, never really ate much cheese at home so never developed the habit I guess- so a little bit now and then is ok...seems to help me anyway.

The food and happiness thing I totally get- my family is from Mauritius although I was born here and have spent most of my life here and Mauritians are kind of like Greeks " eat EAT EAT" and I love to cook for others, nothing I love more than have lots of people in my home, eating and drinking and having a good time- but I always make sure there are a lot of salads and veggies- something my folks always do too- I fill my plate with salads and then just pick at other bits to show willing;)


Not done at long on the exercise front this week, but been fairly active I suppose- have felt quite tired all week and a little down too if I'm honest, wish I could stop letting silly things people do/say get to me so much:mad: especially when they probably have no idea that I'm upset!

I had been feeling really good about the weight loss and looking better with all the pampering, so when we went out on Saturday I dressed up some, wore a dress I love and was feeling good. Unfortunately, one of the boys in our group had,had a bit too much and was being, well I suppose a perv is the best way to put it!:mad: I'm rather "well endowed" and in the past he has made jokes or been a little too "focused" but usually I've laughed it off or just walked away, but the things he said this time really upset me- actually walked home and put a shawl on over me- one of the girls overheard and really had a go at him thankfully DH wasn't there at the time or I think he'd have seen red...

I get that boys have that sort of banter etc, but why say it to a girl's face? and why to a girl you apparently like and respect at other times? We've been friends for over 10yrs and he's always been a bit flirty but in the last few months it has really gone way beyond that GRRR!!! I just don't know how to handle it anymore....

Sorry guys for the rant, it's really been bugging me this week- also it's making me freak out about what to wear etc for this weekend as he will be there- mind you his wife will be there too so maybe he'll be better behaved...or not! maybe I'll just buy a Mumu and be done with it! ARGH.....

Sorry will try and re-gain my positivity....I'll start with a cup of tea I think!

MrsWoolfe

lessonlearned

Hi Everyone

Hope you are all well & happy.

Well now Mrs W I read your post this morning and have been thinking about it all day. First of all I am so sorry for you that you have been subjected to such an onslaught. It must have been so distressing - you have every right to be angry and upset. Such behaviour is totally unacceptable.

Not sure how best to advise you really - as I say I've been mulling it over all day. What stood out for me is the fact that it came from a friend, someone you have known for a long time, like and trust. That is such a betrayal of your friendship - you've let someone in to your close circle and this is what they do. Drunk or not - it's just not something you do to friends.

You also mention that this isn't a one off but rather something that has been building. Does his wife know what he's been saying to you - I'm sure she would be mortified that he has hurt you so much.

I'm rather well endowed myself so I really do get how you must be feeling. I've always worked in male dominated industries - my first job was at what was then British Rail and I used to get so embarrassed by the cat calls etc from the young male apprentices. In latter years I worked in the construction industry - construction workers were at one time notorious for their lewd behaviour towards anything in a skirt.

Thankfully by the time I started working on building sites (in sales) employers had cleaned up their act and construction workers knew better. Throughout that time I was always treated like a princess.

I think it's probably easier to deal with this kind of behaviour if the perpetrator is a stranger or even a colleague but when a so-called friend does it ........I just don't know - it must be so hurtful.

Do you think he knows just how upsetting you have found this. Could it be that he thinks because he's known you for so long it's just a bit of "brotherly joshing" and just doesn't realise the full implications of what he is doing and saying. I'm not saying it happens in all families but I know brothers can be a bit naughty in this way sometimes. At least you can sort out brothers fairly easily.:p

I know this is going to take real courage - but is there any way you could have a quiet word with him - when he's sober - and tell him just how much he has hurt you. Other than that - I don't know how else you can tackle it. It's good that one of the girls noticed and leapt to your defence and supported you. That in itself might be all the wake up call he needed.

I do hope you still manage to enjoy your camping weekend - hope the weather is kind.

Anyway - good news at WW - lost 1.5lb - feeling smug and virtuous:D.

Need to get back to work know - in the middle of stripping the beds, then time to get the dinner on.

Bye for now, chin up Mrs W.

lessonlearned

Part Deux

A good day here - as well as WW I discovered a fab new Barnado's charity shop. It's on the edge of an estate of "executive houses" in our neck of the woods. Those folk must be well off - there were some really gorgeous clothes in there - good makes that were well looked after. Not like the poor old Scope shop where I help out which is in a less salubrious area:D

We do get a lot of tat, however, because our pricing structure comes from our London head office who plainly don't understand about depressed areas "oop north" we end up charging silly prices for ASDA and Primark cast offs. We would sell a lot more if our manager could use her discretion and local knowledge of the market.

I digress, from Barnados I bought a pretty white shirt with blue and lavender embroidered flowers - will fit in well with my capsule wardrobe - £4. Saw a lovely Per Una suit, hardly worn. However its a couple of sizes too small at the moment.

Would it be tempting fate and sabotage my weight loss if I bought it or should I buy it as an investment for the day when I've lost all my blubber. All the style guides I've read say you shouldn't buy something to lose weight into - but I loved the suit, it's really my kind of thing. I might go back tomorrow. If it's still there maybe it's got my name on it:rotfl: I think it was about £15 - probably well over £100 to buy new - an absolute bargain - if I can reach my goal weight.

Went to the library & food shopped locally so a nice MSE day.

Anyway off to bed now. Sleep well everyone.

Bronnie

lessonlearned wrote: »

I digress, from Barnados I bought a pretty white shirt with blue and lavender embroidered flowers - will fit in well with my capsule wardrobe - £4. Saw a lovely Per Una suit, hardly worn. However its a couple of sizes too small at the moment.

Would it be tempting fate and sabotage my weight loss if I bought it or should I buy it as an investment for the day when I've lost all my blubber. All the style guides I've read say you shouldn't buy something to lose weight into - but I loved the suit, it's really my kind of thing. I might go back tomorrow. If it's still there maybe it's got my name on it:rotfl: I think it was about £15 - probably well over £100 to buy new - an absolute bargain - if I can reach my goal weight.

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Hi LL

I would definitely buy the suit if you've got the cash to spare........and hang it where you can see it as an incentive. I think things like a nice outfit, special occasion / holiday are very helpful in helping focus on weight loss, especially when the willpower is wavering.

I bought a gorgeous halter neck maxi dress last year for £3. It is the same as this one, but I bought it from a charity shop. I have dark hair and those colours are really good for me and it looks great with a bit of a tan. It is a 14, which is ok, but it is bias cut and quite clingy and I didn't feel I was quite trim enough to do it justice last year. However I am determined to wear it (well) for my hols this summer and seeing it hanging there encourages me!

Do enjoy reading the thread, you all sound lovely ladies!

Night
x

MrsWoolfe

hello all!

Thanks LL you've summed up exactly how I was feeling, like you I've had it from strangers before and that's much easier to deal with, this time I think it's the fact that this is someone who has been within my closest circle for a long time and that hurts.

The more I think of it though I really don't think he actually realises how bad what he says is or the impact it has on me. TBH trying to talk to him about at a different time probably wont be a good idea- he can get really defensive/deny all knowledge when he feels cornered.

I think that maybe I have to just challenge him when he says something and be firm, especially if there are other people around because that way he can't just brush it under the carpet...

anyway, enough of that! Back on to my positive path!

we are pretty much ready to go with the camping just need to head home after work put it all in the car and we are away! unfortunately packing/sorting/etc til late meant I overslept by 2 HOURS! argh! I normally get to work pretty early anyway so I was only officially 20mins late but it's taken ages to get my head together properly today!

Looking forward to the weekend now, we are on a site that allows fires and we are being put on our own so we can play music etc there are about 15 people going and there have lots of messages/e-mails flying round to co-ordinate instruments/ BBQ's/food I'm quite looking forward to playing some music by a campfire:D we are all in bands/musicians/artists etc so it should be a lot of fun...also going to try walking up the hill...maybe....last time we went there I got a quarter of the way and died, buring lungs heart rate through the roof! Hmm maybe I'll take it gently and see how I go?

little bit of walk will do me good in any case....but dancing round the fire will be more fun:D

Hope you all have a great day/weekend!