Colleague issue

kev.s

gwen80 wrote: »

Hi hippygran

My Mum's friend said that I could go to the police at any time to report him, but she also said that nobody should be putting any pressure on me to go to the police.

sorry gwen but i wholehearted do not agree with that, the police most certainly should be informed if not y yourself then by your employer, your employer has a duty of care to yourself and to those other employees, fairure for them to report this criminal act breaches that, at the end of the day if all that happens to him is job loos then he will still perceive that as "getting away with it" and his next position would no doubt see him doin the same thing. he has committed a crime,END OF! you should report it just think if it were your daughter or female relative as his next victim how would that make you feel?if you do not report him tell your employer you want them to report it either way the devient deserves whatever comes is way.
you should not feel pressured though as it should be a natural instinct, a no-brainer for me i'm afraid.

Sambucus_Nigra

gwen80 wrote: »

I'm in work, so is he. I'm waiting for someone from HR to speak to me....this is horrific.

Gwenx

Can you not go and see HR yourself?

kev.s

i fail to believe that HR have not spoken to this "man" already let alone have you sharing an office with him while they investigate, an employee at my work was reported for stealing a bag of sugar(no joke) and he was suspended on full pay pending an investigation. If thats true and your employer has you in those conditions then i would be reporting it to the police and then walking out of my work until such time as it was resolved.

e60london

Gwen, stay strong!

I've just come across this for the 1st time, what an incredible thing to go through. Some aavice - dont mention it to him again today no matter what!!! Act as if nothing has ever happened. Sounds hard to do but just carry on working to your best ability and see what your boss/HR come back with. Besides, only 1hr or so to go...!

gwen80

He is being suspended. Hopefully I'll be able to work in peace now. If he was still here tomorrow I was going to go home and contact the police and a solicitor. For those that tried to PM me, I've cleared some space in my inbox now

Gwenx

Caroline_a

How about an email to HR asking when your meeting with them will take place as you are finding this very stressful?

Edit - oops just saw your post. Well done for hanging on in there

whitewing

Take care gwen. You have done the right thing, you need to keep remembering that! (I'm surprised he wasn't suspended this morning, tbh, but take heart that they'll be looking after properly from now)

gwen80

One of the younger girls has (with no prompting from me I may add) just told me he had his hand on her @rse at the Christmas do last week. If I did have any regrets, I certainly don't now. I've done the right thing, the creep needs stopping.

Gwenx

hippygran

Gwen,

Still thinking about you.
Well done on coping today.

Kev.s

Whist I agree with your sentiments, I feel you tone was a little harsh.

In an earlier post I did advise Gwen to inform the police, but whether she does or not has to be her decision (and hers alone).

I am pretty sure that her HR will in fact encourage her to do so (as any HR professional worth their salt would).

I think you really need to have gone through this nightmare situation yourself to understand exactly how this can impact on your emotional state of mind, and Gwen has shown real courage to take the step of raising the grievance with her employers.

She is the victim here, and should not be pressurised into doing anything she doesnt want to do.

I really hope she does report him to the police, and it could be that she will decide to involve them, but if she does, it must be in her own time and on her own terms.

Her focus thus far has been to get over the 'hurdle' of telling anyone what has been going on, and to involve her employers.

For that alone Gwen I take my hat off to you:T

ceridwen

gwen80 wrote: »

One of the younger girls has (with no prompting from me I may add) just told me he had his hand on her @rse at the Christmas do last week. If I did have any regrets, I certainly don't now. I've done the right thing, the creep needs stopping.

Gwenx

There ya' go then - told you that I expected you'd find you werent the only one once this came out.

Good news that he has been suspended now. Sounds like your employers are taking this seriously.

So - we will all sit back and await developments as to where it goes from here.