How much do you spend on your child's Christmas?

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BigBlackcat wrote: »

Being a good parent and provider goes way beyond spending excessive amounts of money on your children at Christmas.

I am quite shocked by the amount of emphasis you put on material posessions. Particularly when it comes to stating that children that do not have all the latest gadgets will be bullied and have no friends.:(

No no I am more trying to put emphasis on a child not understanding why little johnny down the road got all the presents he wanted, I am not saying get this that and the other or your child will be bullied I am more thinking from the childs point of view and how they feel, something which surpsingly looking at this thread parents dont think about at all!

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BigBlackcat wrote: »

As said I think it is important that children dont think that santa or mum and dad love them less because little johnny doen the road got a bmx bike and they did not, nothing to do with dictionaries more about equality really.

So the only way to express love for your child is to shower them with extravagant purchases??

NO not at all this shows a complete an utter lack of understanding to my posts, you have simply taken a point and tried to make it into something it is not!

Put yourself in your childs position, you want a bmx bike or say a ps3 you have made it clear to mum and dad this is what you want 2 scenarios:

A/ see what santa brings

B/ we cant afford it bla bla bla

Christmas morning comes said child wakes up to an apple and orange, they go out to play and little johnny down the road is riding round on his brand new shiny bmx bike, now back to the scenarios:

A/ Why did santa bring little johnny a bike and not me? Does he like little johnny more than me? What have I done?

B/ mum and dad could not afford to buy me a bmx bike note to myself I must make sure I am not such a failure when I am a parent.

or scenario c you say nothing to them about santa or money worries so then they wonder if in fact little johnnies mum and dad love little johnny more than said child mum and dad love them whay did I not get my bike, why did I not get my ps3??

Why not?

This is the only question a child thinks of wichever way you look at it and wrap it up in christmas paper as much as you want you have a child wondering why on earth they could not have a shiny new bmx bike.......

Come on people its not difficult really you are to your child anyhow either:

a/ a failure
b/ a tight wad miser
c/ skint and the kid is also burdened with your financial worries to the extent that they dont show you their disappointment and do everything they can on christmas day to convinve you they are happy with you offerings.
d/ delude............................

Children think in simple terms, they are also very thoughtful to peoples feeling and dont like the thought of upsetting mum or dad a lot of burden wither way on young shoulders.

BigBlackcat

You are right I don't understand your posts. They are contradictory and all over the place.

You are coming across as shallow and materialistic.

If you have any valid points at all in your convoluted, disjointed posts, then they are being lost entirely.

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Morty_007 wrote: »

you really ARE that rude This person (and yes, they ARE a person remember) has spent ages typing this out to take part in a discussion which to be honest, isn't worth taking part in any more because you are really being totally vile. How rude you really are....and you clearly think you are the only one who is right here so that gives you the right to bully others.

You didn't need to mention my name ...you quoted me...directly, so I responded. And my grammar correction was merely to point out that maybe it is you who has not reached their full potential, not me.


You're not getting any more of my time.

Oh dear I dont agree with your drivvle so now you stamp your feet, and you gramatical correction was well childish to say the least.

So far as potential I will not be spoiling my childrens christmas's for the sake of paying for their further education, may I suggest a second job then maybe you can give them a better life all round?

My children will all be able to go to uni if they wish yes funded by me its what parents do or well at least should do, but when you have paid your mortgage off and saved for your childrens uni fees you will most likely feel fullfilled.

SMile be happy life is too short, I am not the one spouting vile I would say it is you who is the bully not me I am simply putting across my point of view and for some reason you think it is wrong that I dont agree with you, then when you become childish and start picking holes in grammar to make yourself feel better you then get even more upset when I point out it is meaningless and not appropriate content for the thread.

Oh dear a second job and maybe some anger management?????

Shame you could not turn your literacy in cold hard cash

BigBlackcat

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What was Christmas like for you as a child?

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BigBlackcat wrote: »

You are right I don't understand your posts. They are contradictory and all over the place.

You are coming across as shallow and materialistic.

If you have any valid points at all in your convoluted, disjointed posts, then they are being lost entirely.

Oh well I dont expect everyone to understnad especially when it is a line of thinking that is so alien to them no point really wasting my time and yours...................

Dora2010

I am shocked as to how much this post has got out of hand!

Why is there a need to fight against one another? I am sure if a work colleague had a different opinion to us we would not dream of taking things this far, yet it is deemed OK to do this on a forum.

There are those who are happy to spend hundreds on their child and others who will spend £50. It really is down to the individual and no-one should be slated. The only thing that surprises me is why someone who can spend £500-1000 per child would need to access this money saving forum.

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BigBlackcat wrote: »

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What was Christmas like for you as a child?

You tell me it should be easy to tell from my posts.....................

balletshoes

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Good for you :T

NO of course I am not saying you HAVE to spend xyz or you are a miser not at all some people cannot spend xyz and some could but for whatever reason dont see the point in achieving the best they can for their own children.

SO you spend 50 quid on you DD out of choice then, so in all realism she could never have owned a bike, a games console or anything really for that matter that cost more than a few quid, you would be hard pushed to have a "bulging santa sack" with 50 quids worth of poundland tat, it must be a very small sack more of a sock maybe????

Of course your daughter is thrilled very chrstmas and no doubt she is also thrilled in January returning to school to hear how her friends go all the latest gadgets and bike and consoles but of course none of this is important she is more than happy telling them about her buging santa sack and her chocolate orange....................

You can kid yourself as much as you want to as all you are trying to do is make yourself feel better, every kids has something they dream of for some of them it is the latest games console, for others a laptop for some mobile phones, bikes yadi yadi yaaaaaaaaaa Your daughter is no different to the other god knows how many millions of children that live in the western world but you keep telling yourself you are instilling good morals and making her happy because your daughter is different isn't she? At 9 years old she never hears of her firends getting the latest things and think "oooo if only I could have had one of those" yes she is different I am sure.

She sounds like a classic example of "oh look yet more tat from Santa oh well put on a smile dont want to come across as being ungrateful "

And WHERE can you buy a chocolate orange for a quid? DO tell I am addicted to the

Tesco right now are selling chocolate oranges for £1 , and she already has a bike, laptop, Ipod, DS, Wii, mobile phone etc etc etc. I know we are never going to agree on this issue, and you'll carry on thinking I'm tight-fisted.
Whatever.
None of her Christmas stuff has been bought from any pound shops this year, nearly all of it has in fact been bought through great deals on the Grabbit boards.

Tis the season to be jolly - you know, goodwill to all and all that .

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Dora2010 wrote: »

The only thing that surprises me is why someone who can spend £500-1000 per child would need to access this money saving forum.

Why would that be such a surprise? Not everyone is here to get debt advice and find out how to go bankrupt you know, some of us came here with debt problems to begin with but for most people life goes on I did not realise it was a place only for down and outs is that what you are saying? :eek: