Nice people thread part 3- Nice as pie

michaels

Did anyone call social services? - you can't treat your kids that way in this day and age...

Doozergirl wrote: »

Ours made it onto the front page of the local paper one year.

Spiderman. We stuffed DS's costume and attached him to the wall.

Davesnave

We couldn't join in the scarecrow competition last year because our house is outside the village, so we did the flyers and posted them in people's doors.

Being new, lots of people probably wondered who the hell we were. :rotfl:

michaels

FS bath to wall:


And looks like same room walk in shower:


And I do get the double basin thing too if there was space.

Edit: couldn't be having with the brown tiles tho!

SingleSue

We don't have a shower..well we do but it stopped working about 6 months after now ex husband left and I have not been able to afford a new one, so a bath is all we can have.

Personally, when looking through property details, I automatically discard the houses which have no bath, I would be lost without mine as you cannot relax and soak weary, painful and aching joints in a shower.

The only time I want a shower is when the weather is hot....then it is a ice cold shower to cool me down rather than to wash me, something I do now with the attach to the taps shower head thingy.

We never fill the bath right up either because of water wastage, the boys know the level is the height of my hand up to my wrist....although eldest sneaks higher ones.

LydiaJ

I had a bit of an odd experience yesterday.

I spent the afternoon with my friend and my friend's friend and all our kids. The kids were all playing together, and the three of us women were just chatting and having a laugh. The two of them are both married, so they were discussing the single men they know and whether any of them would be possibles that they could introduce me to.

The friend's friend was not entirely sober when I arrived, and kept drinking through most of our conversation. My friend had already told me that her friend has a drink problem, but it's the first time I've been with her when she's got drunk.

At one point we needed to drive somewhere. We piled all the kids into two cars. My friend and I drove, and the friend's friend came in my car with me. Half way through the drive she suddenly introduced a new topic:
Her: Are you a lesbian?
Me: No. I'm looking for a man.
Her: I have to ask because I could swing both ways, you see.
Me: No. I haven't found a man yet, but I'm looking for one.
Then she got terribly apologetic and said sorry over and over again, despite my repeated assurances that I wasn't upset or offended.

A little while after we'd arrived where we were going, I told my friend about the lesbian question in the car, and she told me that her friend had been quite upset and complained to her that I had made a pass at her in the car.

Now, up to this point I had been fine. I'm used to being sober while having conversations with people who are drunk. When I go out with my mates from work, because I don't drink, my role is to stay to the end of the evening and drive home anybody that needs it. But I am beginning to realise the difference between people who just happen to be drunk today, and people who really have an ongoing drink problem.

Fortunately, my friend knows me well enough not to believe for an instant that I would proposition a married woman while driving a car full of kids. It's unlike me in so many ways that it's hard to know where to begin. And her friend seemed to forget about it because she was relating quite happily to me for the rest of the evening.

But it feels nasty. Maybe it's because I'm a teacher that it's ingrained in me to fear being the subject of unfounded accusations of sexually inappropriate behaviour. But I really didn't like it.

lostinrates

lydia: I wouldn't like it from anyone in front of children any children. As for the woman thing.....its a compliment...and I'm sure that part at least isn't beer goggles . The friend is embarrassed in case your friend hears about it from you, and so got in first with a pointed finger. As a result she looks like a fool, whereas the complimentary enquiry was not foolish itself....just v. VERY badly timed and probably connect to the alcohol, as you say.

Just be pleased you are still fanciable as well as lovely. And.. how much do you think the kids picked up of it?

lostinrates

michaels wrote: »

FS bath to wall:


And looks like same room walk in shower:


And I do get the double basin thing too if there was space.

Edit: couldn't be having with the brown tiles tho!

see the gap at the end of the bath that lets you reach round and clean? would you have that? Even that looks on the tight side to me....not visually, I think like hat it looks lovely....I'm just thinking of cleaning it.

I like the shower...though in the photo angle it looks kinda flimsy. But the idea and cleanliness is good. Hardwater area? Thats like our screens have been...!!!!!!s with hard water though to keep clean and not slightly dappled. I use car wax on tiles every few months and would love to find a similar solution for the glass things like that.

But then I like the brown tiles! Not sure what we are going for. Maybe a limestone in th ''family'' bathroom. Not sure about ours.

LydiaJ

lostinrates wrote: »

lydia: I wouldn't like it from anyone in front of children any children. As for the woman thing.....its a compliment...and I'm sure that part at least isn't beer goggles . The friend is embarrassed in case your friend hears about it from you, and so got in first with a pointed finger. As a result she looks like a fool, whereas the complimentary enquiry was not foolish itself....just v. VERY badly timed and probably connect to the alcohol, as you say.

Just be pleased you are still fanciable as well as lovely. And.. how much do you think the kids picked up of it?

The children were all talking to each other in the back and I'm reasonably certain that none of them was paying any attention to the boring grown-up conversation in the front. So I'm not worried about that.

I'm not bothered by her trying to hit on me, either. For one thing, just because I'm straight doesn't mean I expect everyone else to be. But also, earlier in the afternoon, when she was at the weepy self-pitying stage, she'd told me that she slept with loads of the wrong kind of men when she was younger, but it hadn't made her happy, and did I think it made her a really bad person? Since she'd accompanied this by telling me that her mum never loved her and further details of what seems to have been a pretty dysfunctional childhood, I had responded to her confidences by telling her that it was perfectly normal and healthy to want to be loved, and very common to hope that sleeping with all and sundry would fulfil that, but I wasn't surprised that she said it hadn't made her happy, at which point she shook her head sadly and gazed blearily at me.

[There seems to be something about me that makes people want to tell me stuff like this. Sorry if that seems weird. I'm kind of used to it.]

Because of that, I'm inclined to attribute her sexual interest in me as due to the fact that I was nice to her. It's probably her instinctive response to people who offer her acceptance and listen to her. Very sad. Sober, she'd probably be able to tell I wasn't likely to be interested, but since she wasn't sober....

No, the only bit that got to me was her telling my friend she'd been upset by me trying it on. You're probably right that she was trying to pre-empt anything I might say. I'll let it go.

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

The children were all talking to each other in the back and I'm reasonably certain that none of them was paying any attention to the boring grown-up conversation in the front. So I'm not worried about that.

I'm not bothered by her trying to hit on me, either. For one thing, just because I'm straight doesn't mean I expect everyone else to be. But also, earlier in the afternoon, when she was at the weepy self-pitying stage, she'd told me that she slept with loads of the wrong kind of men when she was younger, but it hadn't made her happy, and did I think it made her a really bad person? Since she'd accompanied this by telling me that her mum never loved her and further details of what seems to have been a pretty dysfunctional childhood, I had responded to her confidences by telling her that it was perfectly normal and healthy to want to be loved, and very common to hope that sleeping with all and sundry would fulfil that, but I wasn't surprised that she said it hadn't made her happy, at which point she shook her head sadly and gazed blearily at me.

[There seems to be something about me that makes people want to tell me stuff like this. Sorry if that seems weird. I'm kind of used to it.]

Because of that, I'm inclined to attribute her sexual interest in me as due to the fact that I was nice to her. It's probably her instinctive response to people who offer her acceptance and listen to her. Very sad. Sober, she'd probably be able to tell I wasn't likely to be interested, but since she wasn't sober....

No, the only bit that got to me was her telling my friend she'd been upset by me trying it on. You're probably right that she was trying to pre-empt anything I might say. I'll let it go.

That all makes perfect sense to me. the reason I asked about the kids is because if I were in your shoes my concern would be the kids might not have thought about you meeting anybody ...male/female/ovine ...whatever......and while you will and they need to be prepared for that its just an idea of more change for them ...especially with your son and his worry with change...how is that doing? No mention of it over the move so I hope he's feeling easier now?

LydiaJ

lostinrates wrote: »

That all makes perfect sense to me. the reason I asked about the kids is because if I were in your shoes my concern would be the kids might not have thought about you meeting anybody ...male/female/ovine ...whatever......and while you will and they need to be prepared for that its just an idea of more change for them ...especially with your son and his worry with change...how is that doing? No mention of it over the move so I hope he's feeling easier now?

Oh yes, they've thought about it. DD (7) went through a phase of begging me to get married again asap. On further questioning, she disclosed that this was because she wanted a baby sister. I told her with conviction that regardless of the remarriage thing, I'm not intending to have any more babies, and she has reluctantly accepted that and lost interest in the "new bloke for Mummy" question.

DS (10) on the other hand, is adamant that he wants me to stay single for ever, which I have refused to promise to do. I have said, however, that while he and his sister are young enough to be living at home with me, I won't marry anyone they don't like. I've also explained that in RL people don't get married to people they've only just met in the way they do in kids' films, and that if I do find a new man I will be taking the relationship very slowly, and the initial stages won't involve the children at all.