Depressed & depression

MinnieSpender

LittleL wrote:

ps... you can't actually learn TM in the UK at the mo coz of the iraq war. I think you can in Southern Ireland though. This will change when the labour government go out....
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Yes, I've heard about this.

The cost is too much for me at the moment anyway, but I will consider it.

I might PM you in the next day or two, once I've had a chance to look at the link you posted.

Many thanks.

lost_at_present

Thanks for all the input everyone, im reading all the threads and info now. As to why they will not give me a diagnosis, I have not actually had a proper "diagnosis test" type things. I currenty have (had) a councillor. She tells me she is not qualified to make diagnosis (although she has a MSc in Councilling!)

I'd like to just know. The really strange thing is, im usually fine in the morning but the bad feelings start early in the evening. I will try and see the Dr and get a proper diagnosis, just so I know.

I know there must be something because I had to fill in a questionaire re: my feelings etc and they phoned up next day with an emergency appointment.

Ames

It doesn't necessarily mean though that you have a serious mental illness. They were worried about your state of mind at the time and so gave you a fast appointment.

She was right about not being able to diagnose, only a medical professional can do that.

youngandreckless

However bad you feel now please try and believe that things will get better and that even though life isn't quite what you thought it would be it doesn't have to be a bad thing. I think the one thing we all have in common is that we've all had a time in life where we thought whats the point everything is crap and you don't get a break. But life is a funny thing, I believe that just when you've reached your limit something will make you realise that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Make sure you get to the Drs and stand firm on getting a sound diagnosis, so that both you and the people around you know what you're dealing with and can make sure you get the best treatment available - you're worth nothing less. Hopefully once that is out of the way and you're receiving the right help you can start turning things around.
It is very important you realise how brave you are, admitting there is a problem and seeking help is often what people find the hardest so you should be proud of yourself no matter how crap you feel - easier said than done maybe but worth you knowing I think.
Slightly peculiar on this site I know, but try not to focus too much on your debts right now (by all means pay what needs paying, not meeting the requirements would lead to more stress) as getting your health in order is the priority - making headway on the debts can come once you feel stronger.
Are you able to talk to your fiance openly?
I sincerely wish you lots of luck and I hope that your Dr is able to help, please do hang in there as I hope that things will get better
Y&R x

rkh001

lost_at_present

Sounds like the whole thing is too big and vast for you at the moment -the debt, your illness, not enjoying your job/life, your pending marriage...

First of all, see if you can get to see another GP (if you can) and get a proper diagnosis. Unfortunately, however well qualified counsellors are, they do not diagnose any form of illness although they might refer you back to yor doctor. It is really not their job to do that and also, unless you are seeing a Freudian counsellor, they do not like to label you. They treat you as a person with an illness rather than the other way round. So, please make another appointment to go and see your counsellor. They can help a lot.

I am a qualified counsellor, so if you need any more info on anything related please pm me. Just so you know, I too have sufferred from depression for many years but, touch wood, I have been clear of it for some 6 years now - all through my own management of signals etc.

Hugs.

rkh

Chrismojam

push for a diagnosis from you GP etc.....don't self diagnose........you'll drive yourself mad...(no pun intended there! it's true!).....proper diagnosis = proper treatment...(excuse me while I say that through gritted teeth....that is not how it worked for my mum...but it may well do for many others.....so please...DO NOT let my cynicism phase you!)

Saying that....to be diagnosed with bi-polar (manic depressive)...doesn't there have to be a few manic episodes? I should know that...my mum has been MD since about 1970...I could go on, but I will only take your post over with my crap...so I'll stop myself now!!:D

I agree with Ames post earlier:

'The 'everyone gets down' comments really anger me, no one would tell someone with a broken leg that they should just get over it without treatment yet it's fine to say that to someone with a chemical imbalance in their brain which causes depression.'

I've had 32 years of serious stress/crappy things happening etc.........(I am 32 btw!)...and I do have periods of feeling incredibly low...drinking too much....sleeping too much...no energy etc etc....and as much as I want to crawl into a hole and stay there...I do that stupid British crap...and pull myself up by the boot straps and put on a face...........obviously not a very convincing one 'cos people can generally tell when I am about to kill:o And there was me thinking I was being pleasant:o ....I've tried anti-depressants...didn't work for me...but then maybe I've been brainwashed...long story....

Anyway, my point was (I new I would get there:o ), I have have had many people/friends tell me...you just need to get out more....just take a step back...let others look after your mum....oh she is putting this on to get your attention..........I could go on but I can feel my blood pressure rising......other people do NOT have a clue unless they have been thorugh the same expereiences...and even then can only empathise....

I've taken over haven't I? Oh ignore me, I'm on a ramble:o :rolleyes:

LittleL_4

No Chris please ramble....
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southernscouser

I think it's a shame you feel you can't post under your proper username as I hope you feel you are amongst friends here. But I respect you wanting anonimoty.

I can't advise you much coz I've never been there but all I will say is you have yourself said you have done somethings others never even knew existed and have enjoyed your 'younger' days. I'd consider this succesful. Succes isn't measured in the amount of £'s you have or the amount of business' you own. Theres more to it than that. :beer:

Chrismojam

LittleL wrote:

No Chris please ramble....
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Trust me....tonight..if I start...........I won't get to bed.....I'll be off on a rant/ramble......and even I get sick of listening to me sometimes.....:o maybe tomorrow...when I've got a clear head.....physically and mentally.........tonight neither are available:D

Night all...sleep tight.....XX

P.S. do I have permission to kill the magpie with the identity crisis that wakes me up at 4 ever morning??? it thinks it is a woodpecker and my guttering is a tree...I am NOT impressed:mad: :rolleyes:

inmypocketnottheirs

tomstickland wrote:

Rather like dating advice, the world is awash with well intentioned but often ineffective advice.
I've been through long phases of mild depression in the past. It's always present at the back of mind. Despite being content, enjoying my job etc, there are always things that worry me.
One thing to realise is that, very often, those who don't suffer usually don't spend much (if any) time thinking about their situation. It's a sort of ignorant bliss, not far off fantasy behaviour.


Don't get married if you are not happy; a marriage cannot solve something for you and you might make the wrong decision.



Ah, you could improve things if you tried some nice beer instead. Go down Tescos and buy some Staropramen or Bitteburger!
I used to drink out of boredom; thing is, it does make you feel better.

Tom, in my opinion, an excellent post.:beer: