little annoying things

Sammy_Dee

This is really random, but noticed your name BanburyBride - I'm a Banbury girl as well! - Nice to see another "local" hehe

Sorry to hijack the thread!

giddypenguin

codemonkey wrote: »

It just turns out that Irish families are rather huge

I feel your pain, we wanted a nice small, close family and friend wedding - we thought around 30 ish people. Well, once we actually counted the Irish contingent (marring a guy named Paddy) and added our friends and my family we're at over 70. S'what we get for coming from big families!

svmitche

abis21 wrote: »

We have been talking about suits, and my OH wants a morning suit because "all people look silly on their wedding day", whereas ours will be a more informal wedding and I would just like him to wear a regular suit. It stresses me out every time I try to discuss it, and I just want to organise what he's wearing without him now, lol!!

Argh! I have the opposite problem - he point blank won't wear one and my dress is such that I will look like an over-dressed div if he doesn't wear the morning suit - it's getting to the stage where I'm considering changing the dress, but then it won't be what I want and argh!!

katerinasol

Bride2be24 wrote: »

Yes i do have some too

1 - My sister (Chief bridesmaid) refuses to wear a dress because she thinks she looks fat (she doesnt wear them) and because she has a very large chest she thinks she wont find one that fits so she asked me if she could wear a suit .... well the bridezilla came out of me and i said no chance!!!!! I told her we will find her a dress even if i have to have her one made, but she still refuses grrrrrr

Someone else mentioned Bravissimo and they are actually quite good. I don't think I can post links as a new user but if you have a look on their site there are some lovely dresses there!

As someone with big boobs, I feel her pain though - it sucks if they're out of proportion! You can't wear strapless tops, you feel insecure because they don't look as perfect as Hollywood makes them out to be, they're actually rather heavy... and it's very difficult to find something that fits properly because it either fits all the way up to the chest, or fits the chest and is way too huge everywhere! It does suck that she's refusing to wear a dress though! I know everyone is supposed to just be happy and comfortable in whatever they wear on the day, but if any of my bridesmaids would want to wear one, I would turn into a complete Bridezilla too!

White_Sapphire

Bride2be24 wrote: »

1 - My sister (Chief bridesmaid) refuses to wear a dress because she thinks she looks fat (she doesnt wear them) and because she has a very large chest she thinks she wont find one that fits so she asked me if she could wear a suit .... well the bridezilla came out of me and i said no chance!!!!! I told her we will find her a dress even if i have to have her one made, but she still refuses grrrrrr

Just had a thought - could your sister wear a corset & skirt combo? Then she could get them in different sizes which would solve the what-fits-on-the-top-half-won't-fit-on-the-bottom-half issue, and the corset would give her some body confidence. And maybe a wrap or bolero to cover her arms if she wants that.

Bride2be24

Thank you for this, i will let her read this and see what she says thanks

White_Sapphire wrote: »

Just had a thought - could your sister wear a corset & skirt combo? Then she could get them in different sizes which would solve the what-fits-on-the-top-half-won't-fit-on-the-bottom-half issue, and the corset would give her some body confidence. And maybe a wrap or bolero to cover her arms if she wants that.

Bride2be24

am glad i wouldnt be the only one then :rotfl:and your not thinking i am a bad person for doing so! thanks x

katerinasol wrote: »

I would turn into a complete Bridezilla too!

Bride2be24

I have one more thing thats a little annoying and i dont know what to do??

My mum and dad are paying for the reception side of things - meal/venue/a drinks package for the meal which i really cannot thank them enough for but the problem lies on the taste testing for our menu. Its our wedding day so we should choose right?? but my mum insists she is doing it because she is paying. I am a fussy eater but my mum and dad aint so i want to keep things pretty simple but i know they wouldnt. What do i do? let them do the taste testing or shall we do it??

thebettingbride

coolcait wrote: »

Ahem indeed. There's a contradiction there.

As there often is in posts which are 'just joking' or 'just venting' or 'just [fill in the gap].

Which is it?

Do you love him enough to marry your groom if he dresses like Shrek?

Or - addressing the post to anyone who's reading it, because this isn't just directed to you - wears the wrong shoes? Or the wrong tie? Or his great auntie twice removed wears a peach-coloured corsage instead of one which is the shade of wild salmon lightly steamed in a bain marie of finest pink champagne? Or whichever is the 'little annoying thing' which any given bride wants to post on this 'fun' thread?

Yes, I picked up on your post rather than any of the others. Maybe yours seemed less jocular than the others, maybe it was for another reason. I can't say.

I do understand why people put a lot of pressure on themselves and others to make their wedding day 'perfect'.

But 'perfection' doesn't always happen. It is often absent in marriage - because human beings aren't perfect.

That doesn't mean that the marriage isn't 'right' for both of the people making the vows.

As long as they each genuinely mean it when they say that they would marry each other even if they were both dressed in rags, and there was no one else there to see it.

If there's any real suggestion that a deviation from the colour scheme, or other areas of the wedding plan, would be a problem, then it's still time to take a step back.

I haven't seen any indication from anyone who has so far posted that "if so and so deviates from x it will cause major problems for the wedding". Maybe you read what others meant as light hearted banter and see something deeper in it. Personally I don't see any basis really for believing that because these brides have complained about small niggling things (and life is filled with small niggling things that annoy us, that doesn't mean we don't appreciate it overall) it may actually mean they would no longer want to get married.

Everyone has their own values and priorities in life - it isn't really for us or anyone else to judge whether those things really matter or not (sometimes when I read posts I do think "oh well that's silly" or "that wouldn't bother me", I have enough tact not to say this though as obviously what is important or not to me doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of some one else's life.) The fact is this board will be filled up with people who have completely different priorities and beliefs about what will make the "perfect day", everybody who comes here needs to have respect for that. Sometimes I do feel an urge to write something along the lines of "why are you complaining about that, that just seems silly etc" but I don't, for the very good reason that I am not in their shoes and the worth or not of their vents is not for me to judge. It's also a fact that both the bride and groom may have different ideas too - and this is where compromise will come in. Compromise doesn't mean that you will feel happy with how things went - and to me lots of brides here have shown themselves able and willing to compromise not only with their groom but also their family/friends over things that may or may not have been particularly important to them. I think this thread was started to give brides some relief for the things they had to compromise over that were important to them. To me the importance of these "small things" is hidden under the caveat of "trivial" - honestly I do believe sometimes the little things really are important to brides (or grooms, family, whoever) but it's almost as though they feel ashamed that they should care about such a "little thing" and so they have to trivialise it instead. If something was important to them and yet they have compromised over it anyway that is in fact commendable, and not something to pick at.

To ask people not to vent their particular frustrations would be to take away some of the vital support that is offered by this board. Yes if some one does actually come here saying "if he doesn't do X then there's no way in hell I will marry him" then call them up on it, and if you do I and probably many others on this board would support you as we'd feel the same way. But that's not what you're doing here. You're reading into things and making presumptions about people and their relationships that you don't in fact have any idea about. I know that if some one started trying to make judgements over the value of my love and relationship when in fact they really had no idea, I would be very mad indeed.

emsbet

Bride2be24 wrote: »

I have one more thing thats a little annoying and i dont know what to do??

My mum and dad are paying for the reception side of things - meal/venue/a drinks package for the meal which i really cannot thank them enough for but the problem lies on the taste testing for our menu. Its our wedding day so we should choose right?? but my mum insists she is doing it because she is paying. I am a fussy eater but my mum and dad aint so i want to keep things pretty simple but i know they wouldnt. What do i do? let them do the taste testing or shall we do it??

Can you not compromise and chose together?
I personally think it should be should be down to you and H2B but as we all know everyone always wants their say on weddings, especially when they have contributed financially!
Maybe if you both worte down you ideas of what you think should be included then sit down together and go through them and see if you can find some middle ground?
Or say she picks the starter, you pick the dessert and you both choose the main?

Just an idea

xx