little annoying things

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Little annoying thing about our wedding? OH keeps 'bragging' to his mates that the wedding planning has been a doddle. He was given one task. One. Suits. There is one task that has not yet been sorted. Suits. Yes, the wedding planning has been stress free, but that's because I've done it super early.

Bride2be24

Yes i do have some too

1 - My sister (Chief bridesmaid) refuses to wear a dress because she thinks she looks fat (she doesnt wear them) and because she has a very large chest she thinks she wont find one that fits so she asked me if she could wear a suit .... well the bridezilla came out of me and i said no chance!!!!! I told her we will find her a dress even if i have to have her one made, but she still refuses grrrrrr

2 - H2B needs to get his !!!! into gear and do something towards this wedding lol as much as i love him its both our wedding not just mine and i would love his input

3 - My sister again still hasnt sorted anything for my hen weekend in March. She wanted to organise it but when i put ideas to her, her answer is always its too early yet (but i dont think she realises places get booked up in advance) been asking her for months now and its rather annoying when people ask what i am doing and i cant give an answer

LEJC

Again I'm reminded of another saying... especially after reading the last sentance of abis21's post above....girls just remember....Aisle Altar hymn...

BanburyBride

codemonkey wrote: »

It just turns out that Irish families are rather huge.

Holey moley aren't they just!!! My H2B is Irish and he has about a million trillion aunties and uncles never mind the cousins!!! :eek:

LalaGomay

Tell your husband-to-be that he can choose whatever underwear he wants for you to wear underneath the wedding dress, if he lets you choose his shoes.

Could work!

Lexxi

Bride2be24 wrote: »

Yes i do have some too

1 - My sister (Chief bridesmaid) refuses to wear a dress because she thinks she looks fat (she doesnt wear them) and because she has a very large chest she thinks she wont find one that fits so she asked me if she could wear a suit .... well the bridezilla came out of me and i said no chance!!!!! I told her we will find her a dress even if i have to have her one made, but she still refuses grrrrrr

Try checking out the braviasimo site as they do clothes too, it might give you both some idea on a style to look for

I just know OH will thank the hotel for all their hard work cos he has zoned out on any talk of wedding plans and won't realise he's had everything run past him!

coolcait

codemonkey wrote: »

Ahem. ...

I would marry him if he turned up in his holey jeans and wrestling t-shirt if that's what he wanted. ...

... but forgive me for not wanting my groom to dress like shrek

Ahem indeed. There's a contradiction there.

As there often is in posts which are 'just joking' or 'just venting' or 'just [fill in the gap].

Which is it?

Do you love him enough to marry your groom if he dresses like Shrek?

Or - addressing the post to anyone who's reading it, because this isn't just directed to you - wears the wrong shoes? Or the wrong tie? Or his great auntie twice removed wears a peach-coloured corsage instead of one which is the shade of wild salmon lightly steamed in a bain marie of finest pink champagne? Or whichever is the 'little annoying thing' which any given bride wants to post on this 'fun' thread?

Yes, I picked up on your post rather than any of the others. Maybe yours seemed less jocular than the others, maybe it was for another reason. I can't say.

I do understand why people put a lot of pressure on themselves and others to make their wedding day 'perfect'.

But 'perfection' doesn't always happen. It is often absent in marriage - because human beings aren't perfect.

That doesn't mean that the marriage isn't 'right' for both of the people making the vows.

As long as they each genuinely mean it when they say that they would marry each other even if they were both dressed in rags, and there was no one else there to see it.

If there's any real suggestion that a deviation from the colour scheme, or other areas of the wedding plan, would be a problem, then it's still time to take a step back.

twirlypinky

coolcait wrote: »

Ahem indeed. There's a contradiction there.

As there often is in posts which are 'just joking' or 'just venting' or 'just [fill in the gap].

Which is it?

Do you love him enough to marry your groom if he dresses like Shrek?

Or - addressing the post to anyone who's reading it, because this isn't just directed to you - wears the wrong shoes? Or the wrong tie? Or his great auntie twice removed wears a peach-coloured corsage instead of one which is the shade of wild salmon lightly steamed in a bain marie of finest pink champagne? Or whichever is the 'little annoying thing' which any given bride wants to post on this 'fun' thread?

Yes, I picked up on your post rather than any of the others. Maybe yours seemed less jocular than the others, maybe it was for another reason. I can't say.

I do understand why people put a lot of pressure on themselves and others to make their wedding day 'perfect'.

But 'perfection' doesn't always happen. It is often absent in marriage - because human beings aren't perfect.

That doesn't mean that the marriage isn't 'right' for both of the people making the vows.

As long as they each genuinely mean it when they say that they would marry each other even if they were both dressed in rags, and there was no one else there to see it.

If there's any real suggestion that a deviation from the colour scheme, or other areas of the wedding plan, would be a problem, then it's still time to take a step back.

Oh get a grip - for the umpteenth time, we're larking about.

I love my h2b so much I'd marry him in my pants in a dark room without make up on - how ever, that's not the "done thing" so we're doing all this traditional wedding malarky. Since we're having to do the traditional wedding malarky (at his insistance i might add) then we may as well do it properly.

As i said to my h2b at the weekend, personally I'd rather we just eloped and returned with the surprise "we're married" news - but it would break his mothers heart.

Perhaps you need to realise that as much as we all like to think and say that weddings are only about the bride and groom, unfortunately, in reality - they're not.

This is all aside from the fact that everything wedding related is so fricking expensive that to spend all that money and then turn up looking untidy makes it a bit daft.

So yes, I'd like my h2b to wear all stars, but he wanted me in a white dress, and his mother wants me to have my hair up, and his mother wants table decorations, and my grandad wants me to book his flights and hotel for him, and my sister wants to carry a bouquet of flowers... It happens and having the odd little rant about it is just our way of venting. Far better to have a moan and giggle about it on here than to have a cob on about it at home.

codemonkey

Well said twirlypinky.

Cait, I have no need to defend my relationship or forthcoming marriage to a total stranger. To expect me not to complain about my future husband, ever seems, well, odd. Doesn't your Oh ever do anything annoying? I'm complaining because he wants to change his shirt. Note: complaining. He is changing his shirt regardless and we're still getting married. His dad will turn up in whatever he wants to wear and we'll still get married. And I'd still marry him if he showed up dressed like a Mexican wrestler. No doubt my fellow brides feel the same. But we're allowed to use a forum like this to jokingly complain which is a lot more healthy than staying quiet or trying to change him, which I would never do. I'm fairly sure in turn he has his own complaints about some of my ideas too. Doesn't mean we don't want to do it or shouldn't do it.

Weddings are expensive and stressful. I know it won't be perfect, but part of the fun is stressing over the daft things, otherwise you'd go mad at the enormity of the thing.

So yes, i shall complain about his outfit, I shall also complain about my bridesmaids showing no interest in their outfits,everything being pricey and so on. My mother complains that I should be wearing a different headpiece and that I should be spending more on accessories, that she doesn't care for the bridesmaids flowers and doesn't like our cupcakes, does that mean I shouldn't have anything to do with her? It's just part of the planning.

By the way, this is meant to have a jocular tone, its just that smilies don't work for some reason. I called my groom shrek! I would also like to point out that I am not marrying Wayne Rooney.

BanburyBride

coolcait wrote: »

I do understand why people put a lot of pressure on themselves and others to make their wedding day 'perfect'.

It is often the other way round - other people putting pressure on the Bride to make the wedding perfect

coolcait wrote: »

But 'perfection' doesn't always happen. It is often absent in marriage - because human beings aren't perfect.

You are right perfection doesn't always happen, but in everything I do in life I try to make things perfect - I try to make dinner for the family perfect, I try to give the kids the perfect Christmas and so why should I try to make my wedding perfect? Yes sometimes I burn the dinner, or I forget the batteries for this kids Christmas toys but at least I TRIED to make it perfect, therefore why not try and make the wedding perfect - as a perfect start to married life! I see the wedding day as our gateway to the rest of our lives together so why shouldn't I try to make it perfect? You are right it won't turn out perfect - nothing ever does - but I can try

I would also like to say that this board is very useful to me as when something for the wedding doesn't go to plan, or I am getting a little stressed I can come on here and post about my worries or read through the posts and see I am not the only one with worries or problems - generally it is a friendly and supportive board - and has been a lifesaver to me. I have only ever been to one wedding so seeing what other people are up to and sharing ideas has been priceless! I also love reading about peoples lighthearted, yes that LIGHTHEARTED whinges about their other halves as it makes me realise I am not the only one who gets driven up the wall by thier (very much loved and wouldnt change him for the world!) other half!!!