What are you supposed to do with your kids during the school holidays if you work ?

Kimberley82

Imp wrote: »

Maybe they should rank their *wants* and decide which of their *wants* is the most important to them.

So you cant want children and a career?

bylromarha

onlyroz wrote: »

And what about those women who *want* to have a career?

And what about those men who *want* a career? Why assume it's the women's job to take time off for childcare?

kegg_2

People should think about school holidays, sickness, inset days and the like before having children.

We as women are tiold in the modern world we can have it all. The ideal family with polite shiney clean children doing wonderful thing in this weird new concept of quality time together and our ideal career but in reality we cant and you have to make choices.
If you want a career then great but you have to accept that your child will spend more time with your child care provider than you and you will have to pay for it one way or another.

Imp

Kimberley82 wrote: »

So you cant want children and a career?

Of course you can want children and a career, but if you also want to benefit from the wealth of a husband working full time, and you also don't want to surrender some of your wealth to a nanny/child care, then something has to give.

As I said, rank what you want, and achieve what you want the most.

Mupette

i got divorced when ds was 4,
I had to turn to agency work and not work during the school holidays if there was no place to send ds.

At the time i had the government telling me i didn't need to work until ds was 16, nice safety net, but not something i wanted to rely on until ds was 16, so spent the holidays on income support and then back to work when ds went back to school.

It was not an idea situation, ended up in debt because of the swapping of jobs to IS, back to jobs. But i tried, very hard work when you are on your own.

kegg_2

Mupette wrote: »

i got divorced when ds was 4,
I had to turn to agency work and not work during the school holidays if there was no place to send ds.

At the time i had the government telling me i didn't need to work until ds was 16, nice safety net, but not something i wanted to rely on until ds was 16, so spent the holidays on income support and then back to work when ds went back to school.

It was not an idea situation, ended up in debt because of the swapping of jobs to IS, back to jobs. But i tried, very hard work when you are on your own.

The rules have now changed and you cant stay on income support until a child is 16. I think it is 5 or 7 now but i am not sure. Much better as why should a person be supported by the state for that long? Early years yes but not until the child is fully grown

Morgan_Ree

DS just started school this year so I've yet to come up against the dreaded Summer hols. But I have a plan
At the mine he goes to a childminder before and after school. Xmas, easter and half terms are covered by family members. Summer hols he is going to have to go to a childminder full time. Since he started school we have been putting a little bit aside each month to cover the nearly £1000 it's going to cost us for those 6 weeks.
It's crap because I'm skint as it is without these extra costs but what can you do?
I need to work, DS needs to be looked after.

Imp

kegg wrote: »

The rules have now changed and you cant stay on income support until a child is 16. I think it is 5 or 7 now but i am not sure. Much better as why should a person be supported by the state for that long?

Because doing a good job of bringing up a family is as important/more important for the country as working.

seven-day-weekend

Kimberley82 wrote: »

Have you ever tried working all night then looking after children all day then working all night again? People need sleep.

You sleep while the children are at school and in the holidays you take annual leave (separately) so you can look after the children and if there is any other time to cover you fit your sleep in when you can, it would only be for a short while.


I personally have not done it but I know people who have. It doesn't last for ever.

seven-day-weekend

onlyroz wrote: »

And what about those women who *want* to have a career?

I said, with a bit of creative thinking it is possible not to need childcare. This does not mean the woman does not have a career. Both of you could go part-time (one at one end of the week, one the other), or, if you really need two salaries, one could work in the week and one weekends.

Anyway I think there are priorities and if you have children you should be prepared for it to inconvenience you slightly for a while