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When to send out wedding invites?

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  • Invites are lovely :)

    As you have the RSVP date of 01 March I would send them out at the end of January. If they have already had the save the date cards then I would hope anyone who wants to come wouldnt book up anything else, if they have then they will miss out on your special day!
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  • csh_2
    csh_2 Posts: 3,294 Forumite
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    I'm 22nd April and sending mid January with an RSVP of 11th March. Venue need info 4 weeks in advance so should get everything sorted in time.
    Mine are all made up and ready to go!
  • Big congrats to you :) and the invite looks beautiful.

    I got married in October (still lurk here lol) and we sent our invites out at the beginning of April. It did mean that we had final answers early, which helped us with planning the budget (I would never have believed that everyone we invited would come - out of 55 invites, 53 people came!) but it did mean that everyone had lost their info sheets by the time the wedding came around, so the day before I was getting phonecalls saying "where do i need to be?"!!! Which was a bit of a pain.. having said that, I think most of our families would have lost them no matter when we'd sent them - 8-10 weeks is a long time to misplace something, let alone the months and months for ours!

    The reason we did ours so early was because we couldn't be bothered to double up with invites and save the dates when there was only 6 months til the wedding anyway. As you've done save the dates, I would leave it until after xmas like you said, but then if it were me I'd just send them out straight after xmas.

    Not sure where the 'rule' of 8 - 10 weeks before comes in, I think there's enough to be doing 8-10 weeks before the wedding without worrying about chasing up invites etc. Just my opinion.
  • We got married 30th October (another lurker) we only booked ours in July but sent the invites out at the end of July with the end of August as an RSVP date!
  • maggie111
    maggie111 Posts: 1,130 Forumite
    Marrying middle/end of November. Invites out beginning of September - which is what I would do again, worked out very well.

    Did a wedding website rather than info sheets.
    I love surprises!
  • im getting married july- and think i may send them out in start of april- with a rspv of the 1st july
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  • csh_2
    csh_2 Posts: 3,294 Forumite
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    im getting married july- and think i may send them out in start of april- with a rspv of the 1st july

    That might be a wee bitty tight for your caterers if you have any veggie guests or other dietary requirements. Have you checked when they need this info by?
  • ahh ok good point- i am veggie and my bro is vegan- we are pains hehhehe
    although saying that- we are having a buffett only- so i think its just numbers they will need and what we want in the buffett which i think we will decide beforehand anyway
    will ring venue and find out what they think
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    TTC first baby Jan 2013
  • If that's anywhere near the bank holiday, I would probably send them sooner rather than later, as people may have booked holidays. My cousin is getting married on Easter Saturday next year and sent her invites about three weeks ago, although she doesn't need a reply until after Christmas - it was more to pre-empt anyone going away.

    Otherwise, I think the general etiquette is eight to 12 weeks before, which allows you to see how many are coming, and then if there's anyone else you want to invite and can get in after that (people dropping out for example) then four to six weeks before should be fine.
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  • laura2481
    laura2481 Posts: 4,305 Forumite
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    I'm with your wife2be on this one. We are getting married 29/5/11, we have sent save the dates (as it is bank hol weekend) but OH still wanted to send invites as soon as .. i talked him down to sending them around christmas time, but what he doesn't know it I haven't put them together yet so it will have to wait until after xmas :rotfl: I don't want them to get lost with xmas cards etc! :)
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