Immoral_angel's Debt Diary

sammy115

Me again (sorry I know I said I would shut up!) You don't have to take it further legal wise. I just think you should have a quiet word with your boss, tell her you have taken advice (even though you haven't - unless you count my big mouth) and that what she has done is against the law and that she should compensate you, and allow you to sign on.

In my case it was my word against his. He told the world that he still employed me (even though he didn't pay me). I won the !!!! of him, and the judge could not have been more helpful. I am not for a minute suggesting you go to a tribunal.

What have you got to lose. Have a word if she says no then leave it - nothing lost.

I will really shut up now, and I hope I am not offending/upsetting you, but I feel quite protective.:o

immoral_angeluk

TBH I've always avoided confrontation especially when I'm feel vulnerable like I am at the min. Will have a chat with Ste though and see how we go...

MIL just called.. she's coming round to help me take the girls to toddler group. I've not been since before easter and I really don't want to go. Feeling very fragile today and not sure if I could deal with my paranoia of everyone judging me and talking about me... I seem to have gone very self concious and paranoid recently which is making me not want to leave the house. I keep finding excuses for not going anywhere. It's like I need to post an ebay parcel today but really not sure if I can get the motivation to go down the post office....... :undecided:

What's WRONG with me??

bandraoi

you really really need to get to the doctors.

bigspender2

Hi IA

Could you please send me ur ebay id as my sister is interested in your dress, but we could not find it on ebay, Thanks

Thanks

SSB

Hi sweetie
There is nothing wrong with you, there has been so many changes for you just lately that it is no wonder that you are feeling overwhelmed. How many of us could cope with debts, saving all the time, two young children, becoming a housewife and losing our job without feeling seriously wobbly!!

If you decide to pursue the claim against your ex-employer, you are in a good position to argue your case since you have not offered a letter of resignation ( have you???). It is unlawful to ask people go just like that, although it is understandable if you feel that this is too much to cope at the moment.

It is a huge change for you to decide to stay at home, I enjoyed it ( I was at home for nearly 5 years and now work part time) but there are times when you question the wisdom of your decision... There were times when I would wait at the door for my DH and growl ' Right, I am taking the dog for a walk or DD is going up for adoption...' DD went through really bad temper tantrum phase, luckily DS never did.

Blasting Marilyn Manson always works for me... You are doing brilliantly, baking bread... Where will this domestic goddesness end! Take care IA

Miss_Scarlett

Sometimes I feel just like you are feeling, which is why I am on Anti Ds too. When I am at one of my can't be a*sed phases, I make myself focus on the things I have managed that day... starting with, got out of bed. I find if I think about the things I have done I don't think about the things I can't bring myself to do, which lifts my mood slightly, often enough to get up and get another thing achieved.

Tell the doc how you are feeling, you might need a change of medication, or an increased dose. Do try to be proud of yourself, you're tired, not getting great sleep but are still managing to raise 2 lovely girls, make cakes and bread... dear lord, when mine were babies I couldn't get it together to make ice and I didn't have PND.

sammy115

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

What's WRONG with me??

Absolutely nothing love. You are a mum, with huge responsibility, with debts and a conscience - and a big heart. Thats why you worry about everyone and everything. Be good to yourself.:A

If it makes you feel any better, I was supposed to go to a big meeting today and i nearly rang and told them I had had a nervous breakdown and couldn't go to the meeting! Honestly I was about to ring and tell them that, when they rang and cancelled the meeting! Reprieve.

I agree with one of the OP's - maybe you need to get your dose of Anti - D's upped. It can take quite a while to get the dosage correct. Keep your chin up sweetie!

JET34

Hi IA,
Your bread looked really good - I went through a stage of baking bread after I had DS2 with DS3 I made loads of cake's it isn't any wonder I am finding it hard to shift my excess weight!!

immoral_angeluk

My HV isn't coming.. just had a call to say she's ill and will be off for the week.
Ah well.

immoral_angeluk

Didn't go to toddler group in the end and still need to post that ebay parcel. When MIL came round it had started pouring with rain (and my washing got drenched for the 2ND time.. :mad:) but Ash got to see her nanny which is always nice.
I told Ste about how I'm feeling about going out. He reckons I'm starting to get agoraphobic but I'm not scared of going outside I'm just paranoid of people judging me and talking/thinking about me in a bad way.

Maybe I'm just lazy and trying to find something to blame it on..