Eternity ring as an engagement ring?

Icey77

What are the "rules" on engagement and eternity rings?

I've been looking (ready to choose when we eventually go to buy it) and I like the eternity rings more than the engagement rings

Are there "rules" on rings?

Thanks IC xx

Becles

No rules - just pick whatever you like.

My SIL doesn't like the usual diamond solitaire rings, so she has a ring that looks like a wedding ring but with some tiny stones set into it.

ellay864

My engagement ring is more of a dress ring - amethyst and the surrounding stones aren't even real diamonds. OH chose it as I love purple and did say I could change it if I wanted but because of everything around the proposal I wouldn't swap it. You go for whatever you like. A work colleague has just got the most unusual hand made ring with about 8 stones including jet, moonstone, amber, green sapphire all set in a kind of 'blobby' setting - never seen anything like it before but it's just the sort of thing she likes...good thing as her OH had it made without her knowing anything about it!

trufflebuggy

I have an eternity ring as my engagement ring, as I don't like solitaires. Never saw it as a problem, and no-one else commented negatively to it either.

hth

whatatwit

I didn't get an engagement ring until we had been married for 9 years.
We got married and I had my wedding ring, I did tell DH that the longer I had to wait for a diamond ring, then the bigger it would have to be

the_cat

One very important rule only

Buy the type of ring you love whatever style it may be, because you will be wearing it everyday for the rest of your life!

Icey77

Right then, I know what I'll be edging towards when the day comes. As much as platinum would be lovely, and I've always wanted platinum I think it will be a white gold number as platinum is sooooo expensive!

To my mind it's what it represents not what it is - does that make sense?

Thanks everyone!

IC x

LJM

i also have an eternity ring as an engagement ring, yet still 18 years on not married not that that means anything,just never got around to it lol. i think you should choose whichever you like best since you are the one who will be wearing it

hot.chick

Carefull with white gold as it looses it's whitness and you may have to get it re-plated.

my engagment ring is white gold and our wedding bands are platinum, I have had to get the enagment ring re-plated twice in just under 3 years to keep them the same colour.

I love my engagment ring and wouldn't change it for the world - but hubby my have chosen differently if he had known we would have to get it re coloured every year

Just an FYI x

deedardingle

Yes of course that makes sense. It is what is right for you that is important, not what other people think you should have.

A friend of mine got engaged to her boyfriend when they were only 15 years old and married on her 16th birthday. Being so young, they had very little money, so on a visit to Castleton in the Peak District, she chose a silver dress ring with a Blue John stone as her engagement ring and a plain silver band for her wedding ring. The cost for both rings totalled under £10.

Over the years, her husband wanted to buy her new rings but she always declined. That is, until the stone dropped out of her engagement ring, just before their 40th wedding anniversary. Her new engagement ring, ruby and diamonds set in platinum and matching wedding ring cost a hell of a lot more than her old rings but they mean so much to her, she wears them (battered and misshapen and minus the stone) on a silver chain around her neck.:)

bonty44

Careful with emeralds too as they can crack if they get wet