Emotional Blackmail

fozmcfc

First thoughts are tell the friend to get stuffed and put it down to experience. BUT.....it does depend a little bit on how much friends they are.

If she doesn't want to lose them as a friend, she could say something along the lines of I won't lend you anymore money, but forget about paying me back until you can afford too, or reduce the amount coming back.

If that doesn't change anything then it has to be bye then.

I know people will say they can't be much of a friend etc and they are right, but at the end of the day, this person is not their friend.

My mum recently had a very good friend of 30 + years, ask if she had a spare tv we could give to her grandson. Well we did (a 14" tv/video combi), so my mum said ok, knowing we were very unlikely to get it back. He basically sold it within a few weeks to get drugs. Now my mum wasn't about to fall out with her friend because of it, but she will never ever give her anything again.

I have a couple of friends who I'm close too and are bad with money. I have in the past lent them money and not got it back. Eventually I said you're taking the wotsit and if you think of me as a friend, you'll pay it back. They did start to pay it back, but in the end I said ok forget it, but I won't lend to you again.

I accept that the above people will never be good with money, so I won't lend to them again, but because they were what I considered very good mates, I just accept it and moved on.

MrsE_2

fozmcfc wrote: »

First thoughts are tell the friend to get stuffed and put it down to experience. BUT.....it does depend a little bit on how much friends they are.

If she doesn't want to lose them as a friend, she could say something along the lines of I won't lend you anymore money, but forget about paying me back until you can afford too, or reduce the amount coming back.

The "friend" is a user & an opportunist thief. The OPs mum is well rid.

I think the OPs mum should look at cheap legal ways of getting the money back, threats of legal action &/or small claims court.

Its not emotional blackmail, its blackmail, if your mum wants a label in front its financial blackmail.